Sedative saidI do not like eye-contact. Especially people who do it all the time while talking to you.
Interesting, and I wonder if a cultural thing? Earlier in my life I was often criticized for NOT looking people in the eye, which I excused as a New York City trait. So I trained myself to look people right in the eye, which I still do.
Most people in the US seem to like that, a sign of sincerity & interest in the other person. To not make eye contact is considered being "shifty" and at times disrespectful & impolite. Are not all these things governed by cultural customs?
To me, its a very confrontational thing, unless you're talking directly to someone already. I usually stare at people's lips though, easier for me to understand people that way.
Could be. Here it is rude to look at another person in the eyes directly all the time
. Especially if he's of higher 'status' than you. i.e. your parents, your teacher, a government official, etc. Because yes, it does seem confrontational.
An occasional meeting of the eyes is good when talking but trying to hold his gaze is akin to staring at somebody eat - rude.
It's also why I do not like handshakes. Since you have to hold the other guy's gaze and also keep the grip firm. Kinda territorial methinks.
I prefer the slight bow/nod that we're used to here, brief smile and eye contact, not the staring contest of the handshake.