gymguy81 saidi feel like I'm being that super-insecure guy, there are a few VGL guys and i really think one is cute, and being its not a hugely known "gay " gym I'm very hesitant to ask him out Im not sure how to lead the conversation with out making it awkward.
Being insecure is not something to to be ashamed about!
when you face the unknown, and God knows meeting
someone new, always makes even the most confident
of us insecure on how things will turn out! so my friend
don't be fooled by those who played you into the confident
and sure of himself personality/date. I perceive a person's
insecurity as a good sign, and a great challenge to explore
more about their feelings and mine. Insecure people are
basically just too anxious and excited for been accepted as
they are, and that is ok, and fits just fine with me! besides
I love a date or an acquaintance when they show their
vulnerabilities vs those who hide it by pretending to be
something they are not!
One good word of advice thou; stay away from anyone who
criticize you for being insecure, as it was a bad thing!?
because if he was wise and well intended, instead of finding
faults in it will try to understand where your insecurities come
Sometimes an insecure person all they need to build up
confidence is finding someone who understands, that like a
plant some of us need a lot of light while others can grow
just as good and high up the tree top in its shadows!