A Rant: Why Do Men Not Show Their Faces?

  • tonyatl

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    Mar 09, 2018 3:30 AM GMT
    I am sure that this topic has been discussed ad infinitum ad nauseum, but I have to ask, why do members on this site refuse to post public pictures clearly showing their faces? The only answers I can determine are 1. need for anonymity due to professional or personal consequences 2. control - I can see you but you can't see me 3. cheating on boyfriend

    to the first point if it's a g-rated picture I see little risk and why can't you accept who you are? why is wanting to find a partner such a shameful thing? to the second point, it sounds a bit pathological.

    I am sure there are other reasons I have overlooked or can't fathom, but it annoys me that on all gay sites, scruff and grindr especially, large percentages of men refuse to show their faces. just curious.
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    Mar 09, 2018 4:44 AM GMT
    Actually, I don't think it has been discussed ad infinitum ad nauseum because to most people it's pretty obvious. A lot of men are living straight, traditional lives, with a wife or girlfriend, kids, straight friends, maybe even church-going. But they also, to a greater or lesser degree, struggle with an urge for men, whether it's sucking cock or something deeper. Not everyone is looking to blow off all their obligations, grenade their families, destroy marriages, wreck careers, give up friendships and community ties, just to, as you so glibly put it, "accept who they are." So, they make compromises, and struggle along as best they can, often dealing with a lot of guilt, pain, and depression as a result. A lot of guys would rather "live the lie" than blow their whole lives apart. And that's their business. If you have a problem with that, you can choose not to reach out to them. This may ostensibly be a gay site, but I'd bet a month's mortgage that a huge number of the men on here at not out and proud, but struggling along in the closet, just like on all those other sites you mention.
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    Mar 09, 2018 4:51 AM GMT
    "Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." - Oscar Wilde
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    Mar 09, 2018 8:12 AM GMT
    A lot more faces used to be shown by current members (and those that have left). Trolls were stealing face pics for nefarious purposes, and a lot of members took theirs down.
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    Mar 09, 2018 10:58 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidA lot more faces used to be shown by current members (and those that have left). Trolls were stealing face pics for nefarious purposes, and a lot of members took theirs down.

    Really?
    But if one has nothing to hide......
  • bro4bro

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    Mar 09, 2018 5:38 PM GMT
    For many of us, it has absolutely nothing to do with"living a lie". It's simply maintaining a level of control over who has access to your identity.

    I don't know if you've noticed, but there are some seriously disturbed people on this site.

    I don't know of any internet forum where people routinely post face pics - but I don't think the people on Trip Advisor are all closeted gays. And OP, in case you haven't figured it out yet, a good number of the regular contributors to these forums who do post clear face pics are using a fake pic.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Mar 09, 2018 6:48 PM GMT
    I keep my face pics hidden in an effort -- however futile -- to keep my personal life separate from my professional life. It is now possible to search the net using facial images. If such a search led to this site, a professional colleague could get a gander of my naked backside. While I'm rather proud of my hindquarters, I generally don't show my butt cheeks to people with whom I work.

    That said, I'm happy to unlock my face pics for anyone who asks.
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    Mar 09, 2018 7:14 PM GMT
    nicelyproportioned saidI keep my face pics hidden in an effort -- however futile -- to keep my personal life separate from my professional life. It is now possible to search the net using facial images. If such a search led to this site, a professional colleague could get a gander of my naked backside. While I'm rather proud of my hindquarters, I generally don't show my butt cheeks to people with whom I work.

    That said, I'm happy to unlock my face pics for anyone who asks.


    To be fair... your glutes are rather stupendous. I'm glad I'm not your co-worker, else I'd never see them... icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 09, 2018 7:16 PM GMT
    We should be grateful for those liberals who hid their face.
    They say: 'beauty starts from with in', and with liberals rotten to the core.
    We know what we'd see. So thank you, for not exposing even more ugliness.
  • nicelyproport...

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    Mar 09, 2018 7:26 PM GMT
    JonSpringon said
    nicelyproportioned saidI keep my face pics hidden in an effort -- however futile -- to keep my personal life separate from my professional life. It is now possible to search the net using facial images. If such a search led to this site, a professional colleague could get a gander of my naked backside. While I'm rather proud of my hindquarters, I generally don't show my butt cheeks to people with whom I work.

    That said, I'm happy to unlock my face pics for anyone who asks.


    To be fair... your glutes are rather stupendous. I'm glad I'm not your co-worker, else I'd never see them... icon_lol.gif


    My glutes and I thank you for your continued support.
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