My 23d Birthday Next Saturday! On St. Patrick's Day

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    Actually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.
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    Art_Deco saidActually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.


    Thank you for attacking me in this topic:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4361429/

    Now let me return the favor:

    You are NOT gay.

    You have been married twice - both times to women.

    You have fathered multiple children.

    Your ex-wives and children want nothing to do with you.

    You are not married to your roommate. He is NOT your husband.

    You are so desperate for someone, anyone to accept you that you are pretending to be gay and you go way over the top so it is obvious how hard you are trying.

    When your roommate passes on to the great beyond, you'll find that all your "friends" suddenly stop calling. They barely tolerate you, only because they are friends with him.



    I really don't know how you sleep at night with all that hatred (and ignorance) boiling inside you. Number one, you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't. You can stick your dick inside a pussy a million times, but that doesn't make you straight. It's your CURRENT DESIRES that determine your sexual classification and even then, no one truly knows what you really desire but you. So considering he hasn't been with a woman in many years and in fact is now in a very open homosexual relationship, I think it's safe to believe him when he tells us he's gay. And if he wants to call his partner his husband, that is also his right. There is no reason to take everything so literally in life. All your posts tells us is that you're a very miserable and lonely man whose jealousy for ArtDeco is eating you up inside. So please do continue on about ArDeco.
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    Radd said
    Plooje said
    Art_Deco saidActually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.


    Thank you for attacking me in this topic:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4361429/

    Now let me return the favor:

    You are NOT gay.

    You have been married twice - both times to women.

    You have fathered multiple children.

    Your ex-wives and children want nothing to do with you.

    You are not married to your roommate. He is NOT your husband.

    You are so desperate for someone, anyone to accept you that you are pretending to be gay and you go way over the top so it is obvious how hard you are trying.

    When your roommate passes on to the great beyond, you'll find that all your "friends" suddenly stop calling. They barely tolerate you, only because they are friends with him.



    I really don't know how you sleep at night with all that hatred (and ignorance) boiling inside you. Number one, you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't. You can stick your dick inside a pussy a million times, but that doesn't make you straight. It's your CURRENT DESIRES that determine your sexual classification and even then, no one truly knows what you really desire but you. So considering he hasn't been with a woman in many years and in fact is now in a very open homosexual relationship, I think it's safe to believe him when he tells us he's gay. And if he wants to call his partner his husband, that is also his right. There is no reason to take everything so literally in life. All your posts tells us is that you're a very miserable and lonely man whose jealousy for ArtDeco is eating you up inside. So please do continue on about ArDeco.


    Well said.
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    I really don't know how you sleep at night with all that hatred (and ignorance) boiling inside you. Number one, you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't. You can stick your dick inside a pussy a million times, but that doesn't make you straight. It's your CURRENT DESIRES that determine your sexual classification and even then, no one truly knows what you really desire but you. So considering he hasn't been with a woman in many years and in fact is now in a very open homosexual relationship, I think it's safe to believe him when he tells us he's gay. And if he wants to call his partner his husband, that is also his right. There is no reason to take everything so literally in life. All your posts tells us is that you're a very miserable and lonely man whose jealousy for ArtDeco is eating you up inside. So please do continue on about ArDeco.

    Thank you for that intelligent retort. Yah know, a lot of gay guys here have had former experiences with women. Mine were driven by family and career pressures. And just my ignorance, which I've freely admitted any number of times here. I wish I had been more self-aware. What more do these trolls want from me?

    But I've tried to make up for those lost years. Not that I ever directly harmed any gays, but neither did I offer assistance to gay causes. During my Army career that was impossible.

    And frankly I was rather removed from the issue, had little knowledge of it. I often said, at the time I was wearing the uniform, that I felt like I was living a monastic life. Isolated from the rest of the world.

    So that gay rights and HIV/AIDS issues were almost totally unknown to me. As was a great deal of US news & culture. I was a workaholic, 12-hour days or more (sometimes 24), totally consumed by my job. If today you ask me a question about 1980s events I likely can't answer it.

    When I came out, and joined our gay community, I learned the tragic story I had missed. And in penance I've been helping the community ever since. Lost my first partner to AIDS, yet miraculously found a second partner (whom I call my husband), who also lost a partner to AIDS.

    And so our focus now is gay activism, with an HIV emphasis. Sorry if that offends some guys here. Making me wonder what their own focus and goals on this site are.
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    In any case, despite the RJ trolls trying to derail this thread, I'm in great spirits. Since my second 'birthday' comes on a Saturday this year, and the week is just beginning, I think I have time to plan a party.

    OK, I just stepped away from this computer and mentioned this thought to my husband. YES!

    He'll make green creme de menthe cakes for everyone, small ones. Perfect theme for St. Patrick's Day. Along with some of his great food creations, if the place we're considering will allow it. We'll ask tomorrow. But I know they permit birthday cakes. We'll just invite whatever owner will be there Saturday - nothing works like bribery. icon_wink.gif

    So I think my alternate birthday party is on! No one in this town will refuse to host it. If anything, some may be offended that we didn't choose them versus another place. But a smallish gathering, he can't make more than about 20 cakes. I'm just beaming, and I just came up with this. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Happy 23rd and 69th birthdays Art!....I think both are great numbers to celebrate!
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    Happy 23rd and 69th birthdays Art!....I think both are great numbers to celebrate!

    Thank you!!! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif

    I know it's more than vain of me to post this, but I'm really happy. And our friends are now going to share in it, too. With gifts to them. Because I don't like to receive gifts, and I hope they don't give me any.

    I don't even like getting gifts at Christmas. I prefer to give, not receive. My husband seldom gives me gifts, even cards. Because that's as I want. Not sure why, or how I got wired that way. But that's the way it is.
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    Plooje said
    Art_Deco saidActually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.


    Thank you for attacking me in this topic:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4361429/

    Now let me return the favor:

    You are NOT gay.

    You have been married twice - both times to women.

    You have fathered multiple children.

    Your ex-wives and children want nothing to do with you.

    You are not married to your roommate. He is NOT your husband.

    You are so desperate for someone, anyone to accept you that you are pretending to be gay and you go way over the top so it is obvious how hard you are trying.

    When your roommate passes on to the great beyond, you'll find that all your "friends" suddenly stop calling. They barely tolerate you, only because they are friends with him.



    I really don't know how you sleep at night with all that hatred (and ignorance) boiling inside you. Number one, you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't. You can stick your dick inside a pussy a million times, but that doesn't make you straight. It's your CURRENT DESIRES that determine your sexual classification and even then, no one truly knows what you really desire but you. So considering he hasn't been with a woman in many years and in fact is now in a very open homosexual relationship, I think it's safe to believe him when he tells us he's gay. And if he wants to call his partner his husband, that is also his right. There is no reason to take everything so literally in life. All your posts tells us is that you're a very miserable and lonely man whose jealousy for ArtDeco is eating you up inside. So please do continue on about ArDeco.

    But Daddy Deco has never came out. Simply a bisexual who made a lifestyle change.
    From living as a breeding married heterosexual, to live as an unmarried gay
    Next he'll want us to belive his a gay vet too.
    @METOO
    Dont forget all the threads of others, you've hijacked Daddy Deco.

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    Plooje said
    Radd said
    Plooje said
    Art_Deco saidActually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.


    Thank you for attacking me in this topic:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4361429/

    Now let me return the favor:

    You are NOT gay.

    You have been married twice - both times to women.

    You have fathered multiple children.

    Your ex-wives and children want nothing to do with you.

    You are not married to your roommate. He is NOT your husband.

    You are so desperate for someone, anyone to accept you that you are pretending to be gay and you go way over the top so it is obvious how hard you are trying.

    When your roommate passes on to the great beyond, you'll find that all your "friends" suddenly stop calling. They barely tolerate you, only because they are friends with him.



    you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't.



    Tell that to Mr. Art Deco. I have been accused - as many other have on here - by Mr. Art Deco of NOT being gay. So I'm just taking what he's throwing and sending it right back at him.



    I've only witnessed him saying that to Southbeach. What would you know of Southbeach? LOL. And the reason he claims you're not gay is because no (sane) gay man could support the evil shit you support. So apples and oranges here.
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    Radd said
    Plooje said
    Radd said
    Plooje said
    Art_Deco saidActually I'm 69 by legal birth. But I call the day I came out gay my second birthday, that I know to the minute.

    And I've made that moment my second birthday. I was reborn, and have never been happier. Actually more important and worth celebrating to me than my biological birth date.

    Never any regrets that I came out, no remorse, no 'relapse', no depression at being gay that some gay friends at the time warned me about. Rather, my life really began again then, better than ever before. Hence why I celebrate it as a birthday. icon_biggrin.gif

    What I also find personally significant, or at least interesting, is that it was on St. Patrick's Day in 1995. My Grandmother always filled me with the traditions of her Irish heritage (although she also had Dutch). The self-revelation hit me mid-day on the 16th, and the next day, by fortuitous good fortune, happened to be the largest annual gay men's party in Seattle, over 1000 attendees.

    Well, never one to do anything by half measures, and afraid of little, I got a last-minute reservation for that 17th. And yah know what my only fear was? Not that I'd be hassled or abused by gay guys, about whom I knew nothing at that point. Rather, that I wouldn't be properly dressed for the function! How gay is that? icon_eek.gif

    And I've never looked back on that decision since. Now 23 years later. My only regrets are that I was so stupid, took so long, and made so many mistakes in my life because of it. Thinking I was straight and trying to live that way. Well, at least I finally got it right.


    Thank you for attacking me in this topic:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4361429/

    Now let me return the favor:

    You are NOT gay.

    You have been married twice - both times to women.

    You have fathered multiple children.

    Your ex-wives and children want nothing to do with you.

    You are not married to your roommate. He is NOT your husband.

    You are so desperate for someone, anyone to accept you that you are pretending to be gay and you go way over the top so it is obvious how hard you are trying.

    When your roommate passes on to the great beyond, you'll find that all your "friends" suddenly stop calling. They barely tolerate you, only because they are friends with him.



    you don't get to decide who is gay and who isn't.



    Tell that to Mr. Art Deco. I have been accused - as many other have on here - by Mr. Art Deco of NOT being gay. So I'm just taking what he's throwing and sending it right back at him.



    I've only witnessed him saying that to Southbeach. What would you know of Southbeach? LOL. And the reason he claims you're not gay is because no (sane) gay man could support the evil shit you support. So apples and oranges here.

    Then you've not been taking much notice then Radd.
    Also over the years Daddy Deco has insisted that while he was shagging Sheila's, men were not on his mind.
    Because it wasn't until he hung up his uniform from playing solders, that one day he went poof, and turned into a gay. Heaven's to Betsey, the complexities of bisexuality. Daddy Deco has never been a gay, just as he was never a heterosexual. His simply made a lifestyle change. My heart goes out to the women and children, his hurt along the way. #METOO
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    Mar 12, 2018 12:55 PM GMT
    So you're going to be seventy and you only came out twenty-three years ago?

    With the level of distrust and cynicism you've displayed here throughout the years and how you accuse men of being dishonest or untrustworthy I don't believe for a second that you didn't know you were gay until you hit forty-seven. However, I do believe you willfully lied to others and yourself until it became more convenient for you to come out.
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    So you're going to be seventy and you only came out twenty-three years ago?

    With the level of distrust and cynicism you've displayed here throughout the years and how you accuse men of being dishonest or untrustworthy I don't believe for a second that you didn't know you were gay until you hit forty-seven. However, I do believe you willfully lied to others and yourself until it became more convenient for you to come out.

    No, I was 46, not 47. And I won't be 70 until 2019, being born in 1949. Not on Jan 1st, as my profile shows, however, but a little afterwards. I do that for security, and also to help myself remember my age. Easier to calculate the years without any months being involved. Plus I can celebrate it on New Year's Day, as sorta my "official" birthday in addition to my real one. I tell our friends that what works for the Queen of Britain works for the queen of Wilton Manors. icon_redface.gif

    And I've explained numerous times here why I came out so late. Or at least I think I understand it now. Really difficult to analyze oneself. But I'm not the only one. Guys on RJ older than me have come out later, and not a few in their 40s like me.

    My sense is that in my case, growing up in the 1950s and '60s, there was a stereotypical image of gays that I didn't match. But even beyond that, I didn't even know what gays were, at least the sexual implications, until my mid or late teens. I knew there were "sissy" men, but other than them being wimpy and unmasculine, I was clueless about it.

    You have to realize I lived a rather encapsulated youth of private schools, reserved parents who never swore (I never heard my Father use a 4-letter word in all his 85 years), with little "street" contact. When I went to a boys prep school at 14 the juniors and seniors ragged us, and called us "fairies". Most of us, including me, had no idea what that meant. "You'll know in a year or two," they told us.

    When I did understand (vaguely) about gays in my later teens, I knew that couldn't be me. I camped from age 8, fished, loved the outdoors, happier in the woods than I often was indoors. At 17, the legal age in New Jersey, I got a motorcycle. Have had a license ever since.

    How could I be a queer, a fag, a homo? That idea wasn't even imaginable. But I still had my Streisand albums, played Broadway tunes on the piano, along with classical. As a pre-teen I would style my younger sister's hair. I learned years later my parents always assumed I was gay, but never told me.

    Then I voluntarily enlisted in the Army at 20. Did pretty well, kinda a little tough guy, who got promoted quickly. Suited my love of the outdoors. Again, how did that match with the gay stereotype I knew? After I got my officer's commission my Mother kept nagging me about women. I could see all my fellow Officers were married.

    I never dated, avoided the HS prom, didn't even think about females. Nor men, for that matter, at least in a sexual way. But I did (and do) prefer their company, and loved to see them naked. So that gang showers and locker rooms were a constant challenge for me, to hide the hardons I'd get.

    What finally happened, after I retired and found some personal time for myself, was encountering a gay guy online, on a Seattle BBS before the Internet took over. And what he said to me slammed home. He explained that gays aren't all the outdated stereotypes I knew. They're truck drivers, construction workers, football players, police, fire fighters, and... soldiers.

    That hit me like a lightning bolt. I think I was overdue, and I really was already beginning to wonder about myself. That's why it happened so quickly, and so late in my life. You should be happy it finally happened for me at all, and not question or criticize me.

    BTW, how do you know what I've done on RJ "throughout the years"? You've only been a member since February, 2017, 1 year and a month. icon_question.gif
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    Mar 12, 2018 3:57 PM GMT
    Plooje said
    Art_Deco said
    MuchoMasQueMusculo said
    So you're going to be seventy and you only came out twenty-three years ago?

    With the level of distrust and cynicism you've displayed here throughout the years and how you accuse men of being dishonest or untrustworthy I don't believe for a second that you didn't know you were gay until you hit forty-seven. However, I do believe you willfully lied to others and yourself until it became more convenient for you to come out.

    No, I was 46, not 47. And I won't be 70 until 2019, being born in 1949. Not on Jan 1st, as my profile shows, however, but a little afterwards. I do that for security, and also to help myself remember my age. Easier to calculate the years without any months being involved. Plus I can celebrate it on New Year's Day, as sorta my "official" birthday in addition to my real one. I tell our friends that what works for the Queen of Britain works for the queen of Wilton Manors. icon_redface.gif

    And I've explained numerous times here why I came out so late. Or at least I think I understand it now. Really difficult to analyze oneself. But I'm not the only one. Guys on RJ older than me have come out later, and not a few in their 40s like me.

    My sense is that in my case, growing up in the 1950s and '60s, there was a stereotypical image of gays that I didn't match. But even beyond that, I didn't even know what gays were, at least the sexual implications, until my mid or late teens. I knew there were "sissy" men, but other than them being wimpy and unmasculine, I was clueless about it.

    You have to realize I lived a rather encapsulated youth of private schools, reserved parents who never swore (I never heard my Father use a 4-letter word in all his 85 years), with little "street" contact. When I went to a boys prep school at 14 the juniors and seniors ragged us, and called us "fairies". Most of us, including me, had no idea what that meant. "You'll know in a year or two," they told us.

    When I did understand (vaguely) about gays in my later teens, I knew that couldn't be me. I camped from age 8, fished, loved the outdoors, happier in the woods than I often was indoors. At 17, the legal age in New Jersey, I got a motorcycle. Have had a license ever since.

    How could I be a queer, a fag, a homo? That idea wasn't even imaginable. But I still had my Streisand albums, played Broadway tunes on the piano, along with classical. As a pre-teen I would style my younger sister's hair. I learned years later my parents always assumed I was gay, but never told me.

    Then I voluntarily enlisted in the Army at 20. Did pretty well, kinda a little tough guy, who got promoted quickly. Suited my love of the outdoors. Again, how did that match with the gay stereotype I knew? After I got my officer's commission my Mother kept nagging me about women. I could see all my fellow Officers were married.

    I never dated, avoided the HS prom, didn't even think about females. Nor men, for that matter, at least in a sexual way. But I did (and do) prefer their company, and loved to see them naked. So that gang showers and locker rooms were a constant challenge for me, to hide the hardons I'd get.

    What finally happened, after I retired and found some personal time for myself, was encountering a gay guy online, on a Seattle BBS before the Internet took over. And what he said to me slammed home. He explained that gays aren't all the outdated stereotypes I knew. They're truck drivers, construction workers, football players, police, fire fighters, and... soldiers.

    That hit me like a lightning bolt. I think I was overdue, and I really was already beginning to wonder about myself. That's why it happened so quickly, and so late in my life. You should be happy it finally happened for me at all, and not question or criticize me.

    BTW, how do you know what I've done on RJ "throughout the years"? You've only been a member since February, 2017, 1 year and a month. icon_question.gif


    Get your rambling story straight Mr Art Deco.

    And for Mr Rad, my very first week here Mr Art Deco - who I had no idea existed - attacked me when I mentioned my military service. He said that I looked like I "couldn't even command a boy scout troop."



    And you've been screaming about it ever since.
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    "He attacked me!!!"

    "How?"

    "He said i looked young!!!"

    Such a delicate flower.

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    argus said"He attacked me!!!"

    "How?"

    "He said i looked young!!!"

    Such a delicate flower.


    As I said earlier, the trolls try to disrupt and discredit my threads with lies. They only succeed in discrediting themselves. And get incensed when I don’t answer them, using that as proof that I’m ‘afraid’ of them, or running away. Truth is (an alien concept for them), I have most of them blocked. Chronic troublemaking trolls deserve no one’s attention. Now let them scream and invent lying stories some more. As they themselves would say: “Fake news!” icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 12, 2018 5:15 PM GMT
    Happy anniversary of your "rebirth." I date my own coming out to a Saturday back in 1989 that was during the weekend of the summer solstice and think about it every year when the summer solstice arrives. (A story for another thread perhaps).
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    Mar 12, 2018 7:08 PM GMT
    duluthrunner said
    Happy anniversary of your "rebirth." I date my own coming out to a Saturday back in 1989 that was during the weekend of the summer solstice and think about it every year when the summer solstice arrives. (A story for another thread perhaps).

    Thanks! I’d love to hear your story. Posted either here or in a thread you start.
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    Mar 12, 2018 7:20 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    argus said"He attacked me!!!"

    "How?"

    "He said i looked young!!!"

    Such a delicate flower.


    As I said earlier, the trolls try to disrupt and discredit my threads with lies. They only succeed in discrediting themselves. And get incensed when I don’t answer them, using that as proof that I’m ‘afraid’ of them, or running away. Truth is (an alien concept for them), I have most of them blocked. Chronic troublemaking trolls deserve no one’s attention. Now let them scream and invent lying stories some more. As they themselves would say: “Fake news!” icon_biggrin.gif

    Oh Daddy Deco, you do a Hillary again. The treads I'd started for us Bona Fide Homosexuals, that you hijacked.
    Simply because you don't qualify to be one of us, because you were born a bisexual, and not a Bona Fide Homosexual; gay.
    half brother one simply can't go back and make up for lost time, when the water has flowed under the bridge.
    Like truing a blind eye to the plight and suffering of so many gays during the Gay Plague Era. Simply because of your lifestyle choices.
    Nor will you ever be a 23 YO gay, go look in the mirror, dearest half brother.
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    Mar 12, 2018 7:20 PM GMT
    Success! The owners of the gay club I wanted to use said I can have my birthday party there on the 17th. They’ll let us enter an hour before they open for business, so we can set up.

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    Art_Deco saidSuccess! The owners of the gay club I wanted to use said I can have my birthday party there on the 17th. They’ll let us enter an hour before they open for business, so we can set up.


    OH DADDY!!! SO MANY CUTIES TOO LOOK AT!!!

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    2bnaked said
    Art_Deco saidSuccess! The owners of the gay club I wanted to use said I can have my birthday party there on the 17th. They’ll let us enter an hour before they open for business, so we can set up.


    OH DADDY!!! SO MANY CUTIES TOO LOOK AT!!!

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    Some Village, is missing a gay.
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    Mar 13, 2018 4:41 AM GMT
    plooje aka twomeninlove aka pattison aka god_said aka southbeach, still stalking the obese diva of Wilton Manors after all these years icon_lol.gif
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    splooje saidplooje aka twomeninlove aka pattison aka god_said aka southbeach, still stalking the obese diva of Wilton Manors after all these years icon_lol.gif

    To think you've only been here for a few months too.
    It's a public forum Fart Deco, as Tweedledee likes to say.
    Doesn't change the fact that you've never been gay, and you are a person in deep denial Daddy Deco.
    Well you made your bed old chap. You've no one to blame but yourself.
    Happy 70th B'day too.
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    Mar 13, 2018 6:04 PM GMT
    Plooje said
    Art_Deco saidSuccess! The owners of the gay club I wanted to use said I can have my birthday party there on the 17th. They’ll let us enter an hour before they open for business, so we can set up.

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    And we should care why????


    Some village is missing it's a gay.