FORUMS > Sex & Adult Forum Rules

Does anal sex always hurt?

  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    Basically, I always top because anal sex hurts me. Not in a good way.

    Is this just some unspoken fact?
  • Timbales Posts: 13646
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    I wouldn't say hurt, it can be a little uncomfortable at first. If you don't have experience as a bottom, you really need to have a patient, compassionate guy as the top.
  • Koaa2 Posts: 1519
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 5:15 PM GMT
    The small amount of pain turns to immense pleasure.
  • kscott6671 Posts: 1681
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 5:41 PM GMT
    Only time I've had pain is when I've been with a guy that huge. Other wise it's pure pleasure.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    It's not my thing. No pleasure.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 8:19 PM GMT
    I have a very sensitive prostate gland, so getting fucked in the ass is pure ecstasy. The longer I get fucked, the more intense my orgasm. In fact, I hardly ever touch my dick during sex, except for a few seconds when I feel like my load is going to blow. My dick is also very sensitive, so I have the opposite problem- topping is very uncomfortable and painful to me.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 9:19 PM GMT
    If you're inexperienced it will hurt more than if you're well versed in bottoming. But even if you're well-versed, it can hurt -- though usually only for a few seconds.
  • GonzoTheGreat Posts: 12932
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    it *always* hurts.

    Apart from twice



  • zakariahzol Posts: 2241
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    At few couple times I start to bottom it kinda hurt . But I learn to relax , taking it easy and it start to feel good. The most pleasureable time is when I am reaching my peak and start to shoot while some guys is fucking me. It like mind blowing and earth shatering pleasure . However after , I am over and his not it start to feel kinda hurt. On the other hand if he come first and I am not , it could be really frustrating for me. So the best thing is to have an agreement that we shoot togeter at the same time.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 25, 2009 9:58 PM GMT
    "Does anal sex always hurt?"

    It always hurts some men, but not others, who really enjoy it.

    Most men hurt the first time, but the pain for many can diminish with each encounter, until they begin to really like it. For other guys the pain never goes away.

    Some men have prostates that generate great pleasure during anal sex, others get little or no sensation from it, and others experience great prostate discomfort.

    Which categories you fall into should determine whether you spend time as a bottom or not. To see if the pain will diminish with practice, try a well-lubed smaller dildo on yourself, and/or a guy who's not too big, and very patient & trustworthy to not hurt you.

    Don't feel guilty or defective if you can't adjust to anal; some men never do. Obviously your dance card will be fuller if you can be a good bottom, but there's only so much you can do about it. I reject any notion that it's a gay requisite.

    FYI, BTW, I fall into the prostate discomfort camp. But not enough to prevent me from sometimes bottoming for guys I really like and want to please. I just know that being a bottom will never be a big treat for me, instead better as a top, and best being at the receiving end of some inspired hand and mouth action.
  • collinan Posts: 24
    QUOTE Feb 26, 2009 8:59 AM GMT
    I have the same problem with relaxing...

    I try now a anal plug and it gets easier to relax, but my friend is working and working and when we met again I can tell you if it works.
  • rnch Posts: 10872
    QUOTE Feb 26, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    at the risk of offending the purists here:

    a quick snort of a good quality popper about 10 seconds before penetration is attempted will help the bottom to loosen up considerably; to the point that when your tops enters he will not cause any/very little pain.

    eventually you will not need to do this......unless you want to.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Feb 26, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    rnch saidat the risk of offending the purists here:

    a quick snort of a good quality popper about 10 seconds before penetration is attempted will help the bottom to loosen up considerably; to the point that when your tops enters he will not cause any/very little pain.

    eventually you will not need to do this......unless you want to.


    Good advice, rnch. This is how I learned to "loosen up!"
  • charlitos Posts: 8933
    QUOTE Feb 27, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    depends on what youre getting into loll

    it hurt at first, no i guess i can handle it.
  • chrisatbc Posts: 102
    QUOTE Feb 27, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    I think it's all about being able to relax.

    I used to be only a top because the first few times I tried to bottom it hurt really bad (and the guy I was worth had a really small cock and had rimmed the fuck out of me, fingered me and used tons of lube).

    So I don't know what I was thinking a couple of years later when I was with a huge guy (10"ish) and I let him go for it. But we had had some quality weed, I was really into the guy and he went v slow. I freakin loved it. It hurt a little right at the start but after that it was all good.

    Since then there's maybe thirty seconds or a minute of needing to remember to relax, then it's great. And nothing beats switching roles with a hot guy.
  • sancy Posts: 3
    QUOTE Mar 07, 2009 5:07 PM GMT
    i should really learn how to relax... i've just topped so far because the attempts to bottom have always been a little painful - although i think i really may like bottoming ... as far as sexual fantasies are an indicator ;)
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Mar 07, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    rnch saidat the risk of offending the purists here:

    a quick snort of a good quality popper about 10 seconds before penetration is attempted will help the bottom to loosen up considerably; to the point that when your tops enters he will not cause any/very little pain.

    eventually you will not need to do this......unless you want to.


    I am not an anti-popper person, but I don't think bottom-n3wbs should use them. Poppers are great for men who know what they can take and have trained themselves to get a dick in there.

    Anal sex shouldn't hurt. I can be uncomfortable. It can have a little sting at first. But if the whole experience is painful you are doing it very wrong. The lord, our god, in his infinite wisdom, did verily create the tongue so that it might loosen up our bung holes, amen.

    Let your friend spend some quality time down there with his tongue, his fingers, some toys, and lots of lube. Lots and lots of lube.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Mar 08, 2009 3:53 AM GMT
    Practice makes perfect!



    Naughty-Boy

    Naughty-Boy is a new combined prostate and perineum stimulator.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Mar 08, 2009 6:49 AM GMT
    A therapist friend uses hypnotherapy to help wannabe bottoms learn to relax.

    I remember a Jeff Stryker film in which his target says he is afraid that being fucked would be painful. Mr. Stryker replies, "It's no good if it don't hurt."

    The French have that word, "jouissance," to describe pleasure that is so intense it crosses the pleassure/pain barrier. Qeeer theory writers, expecially Leo Bersani, argue that jouissance is inherent to anal sex. Isn't it one reason for the hunt for the ever larger cock?
  • oxdr Posts: 92
    QUOTE Mar 09, 2009 2:41 PM GMT
    I love being the bottom. So much pleasure involved. Nothing like it. I have meet people who say it hurts very much. But if it hurts don't do it.

    Or maybe you haven't meet the man that can warm it up and ease the situation.
  • Nayro Posts: 1697
    QUOTE Mar 09, 2009 3:04 PM GMT
    meh, every1 sais first time is gonna be not so much fun... im still a virgin and i know im a bottom... UR SCARING ME
  • oxdr Posts: 92
    QUOTE Mar 09, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Niceguy1989 said[/cite]meh, every1 sais first time is gonna be not so much fun... im still a virgin and i know im a bottom... UR SCARING ME [/q

    Porn shop man, get some toys if you must they come in all sizes. Do not go big right away. Most gay men will treat you well in bed.
  • Posted by a hidden member.Log in to view his profile
    QUOTE Mar 09, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    oxdr HEREMost gay men will treat you well in bed.


    There's a whole new thread right there...
  • Nayro Posts: 1697
    QUOTE Mar 09, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    well go for it!!
  • MikemikeMike Posts: 6099
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    BerberKnight saidAnal sex is so overrated.


    Not if you're on top!!!