Laid back

  • HotCoach

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    Feb 25, 2009 9:01 PM GMT
    So many of you guys describe yourselves as "laid back". What does that mean to you?
    I have a mental image of someone in a Barrca Lounger! Not that I like guys who are "stressed out" either. But can one be "laid back" and still have a vision of his future? Or do "laid backs" just go with the flow?
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:00 PM GMT
    Well us "Aussies" have a reputation for being laid back.

    What makes me laid back other than being a true blue aussie, is I don't worry a lot, about much. Certainly not about things yet to happen, as they may well never happen.

    I'm able to entertain myself, and not need to be entertained. I enjoy my garden and my dogs. I'm very relaxed and laid back at home in my garden with my dogs.

    I don't need Government approval about my sexuality, too feel whole. I don't need equality in politics to feel whole or a man. At the end of the day, non of it really matters. She'll me right mate. I'm not a stress head, as so many drama queens are.

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    Feb 25, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    I honestly have no idea, because at least %50 (and that's a conservative estimate) of the guys I know that are "laid back" are actually high maintenance.
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
    Matterych saidI honestly have no idea, because at least %50 (and that's a conservative estimate) of the guys I know that are "laid back" are actually high maintenance.


    Just like so many aggressive people stand under the banner of being a pacifist.
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
    We had this discussion months ago, about whether laid-back was supposed to be a hidden signal in profiles, basically a "no drama guy" message. It was suggested that guys call themselves laid back because of the high incidence & unpopularity of drama queens in the gay community, but it was questioned whether these profiles were in fact "protesting too much" about it.

    Not too many gay guys of my personal acquaintance can meet my own definition for laid back, which is:

    - very easy going & relaxed
    - low maintenance
    - definitely no drama
    - not easily flustered or perturbed
    - usually self-sufficient

    I know a few, but most others fall on the other side of equation, the high-strung, high-maintenance, dependent, self-absorbed creatures that sap the life out of everyone around them. My advice regarding those who advertise themselves as being laid back: let the buyer beware.
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
    I think my dogs are laid back....gay guys...not so much.
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    It's some dumb cliche phrase meant to disarm you and fill your head with loverly thoughts of a drama free life. It's singles ad making: 101.
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    Feb 25, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    .....then reality sets in and it's not so 'laid back'!!!!!
  • DiverScience

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    Feb 25, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    I'm far too intense to be laid back. Even though I'm low maintenance and self sufficient. Laid back, I am not. My Dad and Bro are laid back. My Mother and I, not so much. We are jealous of them.
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    Feb 25, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 saidIt's some dumb cliche phrase meant to disarm you and fill your head with loverly thoughts of a drama free life. It's singles ad making: 101.


    Are you saying "High strung, temperamental, and has abandoned any hope of inner peace" doesn't constitute a good ad? I am so screwed.
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    Feb 25, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    MonkeyPuck said

    Are you saying "High strung, temperamental, and has abandoned any hope of inner peace" doesn't constitute a good ad? I am so screwed.


    As long as you add "no baggage" , "fun loving" , "loves to travel", "honest" and "loves puppies and romantic sunsets"... you should be fine.
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    Feb 26, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    Funny I got into a wee bit of troble at work the other day, because I'm to light hearted, and laid back. Yet much loved, by the people I care for.

    But hay..........I work in a field that is 85% women. Women are many things, but laid back, and many gay men have a lot in common with women. I think it is something that does separate me from many homosexuals. I truly am laid back. This allows me to talk about anything, and for anything to be talked about. icon_biggrin.gif

    Death is nothing more than another appointment I'll have to keep! Why stress over it. Yet so many do.
  • SeaMichael

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    Feb 26, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    I'm notoriously laid back...to the point that it annoys the hell out of people. While I am greatly entertained by the stress and drama of others, I never really get too excited about things in a negative way. Makes for the perfect environment for my parrots...even if one of them is completely neurotic. HA!

    I suppose I would say it's the whole IDGAS (I Don't Give A Shit) attitude. Shit happens, what's the point of getting all pissy about it.
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    Feb 26, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    To me, it's a very off-putting smugness....like "I am so cool," mixed with "I am so dumb to write this cliche"
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    Feb 26, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Yeah, for me it means go with the flow.. flexible.. easy going.. open minded.. keep things simple.

    It just seems like a lose-lose situation. Whatever you write in your profile, there will be guys that will call you out on things for whatever reason. Or they'll analyze it line by line, and search for hidden agendas, or negative things to bitch about.
  • nv7_

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    Feb 26, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    Oh no, the "laid back" profiles have caused an uproar. Tisk tisk.

    Let's compare which is worse, the "laid back" profile or the "I'm different/better/more englightened/special/offbeat, etc than the rest of you" profile.

    Tough choice, get back to me.

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    Feb 26, 2009 1:48 AM GMT
    lol, uproar? really?

  • nv7_

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    Feb 26, 2009 1:53 AM GMT
    mnjock2003 saidlol, uproar? really?



    Okay okay, "outraged"?

    "Miffed"? icon_cool.gif

  • jlly_rnchr

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    Feb 26, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    I think everyone is totally faking the "laid back"edness. Very few people, straight or gay, are laid back.

    I flaunt the neurotic and anxious. I'm the gay, more attractive Woody Allen. Who doesn't want that?
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    Feb 26, 2009 2:01 AM GMT
    mnjock2003 saidMonkeyPuck said
    Are you saying "High strung, temperamental, and has abandoned any hope of inner peace" doesn't constitute a good ad? I am so screwed.
    As long as you add "no baggage" , "fun loving" , "loves to travel", "honest" and "loves puppies and romantic sunsets"... you should be fine.

    LOL Yeah, I put "laid back" right up there with "low drama", "normal", "down to earth", etc. Everyone thinks of themselves as normal, and others are strange. Eventhough they might be the biggest freak.
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    Feb 26, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    I like sunrises and silence.

    I don´t like "24" or loud noises.

    So now you know.

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  • dannyboy1101

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    Feb 26, 2009 2:15 AM GMT
    It's subliminal advertising at its best. How else could you squeeze "I" and "laid" in the same sentence without blatantly hitting on someone?

    On a related topic, being a string instrument player, the stereotypical viola player is quite laid back compared to those diva instruments (violin and cello). The viola player knows that it's not always him in the spotlight and all about him. Perhaps the laid back gay is similar in that he can be himself and laugh and have fun without having to worry about keeping up a front for others or attracting as much attention as possible.
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    Feb 26, 2009 2:16 AM GMT
    Actually, I have a La-Z-Boy, not a barcalounger.
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    Feb 26, 2009 2:23 AM GMT
    funny pictures
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    Feb 26, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidI like sunrises and silence.

    I don´t like "24" or loud noises.

    So now you know.

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    "24" gives me high blood pressure. just though i'd say that...

    why???... i don't knowicon_eek.gif