Intelligence Squared Debate: Swipe Left: Dating Apps Have Killed Romance

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    Apr 16, 2018 1:15 AM GMT
    For the Motion
    Match-making algorithms are grounded in a false logic that suggests a ‘soulmate’ can be determined by a series of characteristics and lifestyle preferences. Further, they filter away potential connections based on arbitrary metrics like hair color, height, and Facebook likes.
    Be it racist or sexist comments, coarse language generally, or unsolicited personal photos, dating apps are a breeding ground for bad behavior that not only degrades romance but society itself.
    Apps like Tinder have made dating an exercise in excess. Why settle for one match when thousands of others are just a swipe away?
    By necessity, dating apps are designed to keep users from long-term commitments like marriage. If lasting love was the goal, the sites would go out of business.

    Against the Motion
    Using targeted algorithms, dating apps help users find compatible life partners who share similar values, aspirations, and interests.
    By bringing singles from various social, economic, and geographic backgrounds together, dating apps break down barriers associated with traditional dating and foster meaningful connections across cultures and social strata.
    Easy-to-use apps make dating simple and accessible. This is particularly noteworthy for LGBT singles, single parents, and those over 55, who have turned to online platforms to find love in record numbers.
    The financial success of digital dating is a testament to its effectiveness. If users were disappointed by outcomes, they would leave the platforms.

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    Apr 16, 2018 1:16 AM GMT
    Before the Debate, I voted For the Motion
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    Apr 16, 2018 1:31 AM GMT
    The ability to fantasize is cut short in person.
    The ability to fantasize is longer on line.

    Kindness and generosity is more important than love and romance.
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    Apr 16, 2018 1:41 AM GMT
    Who says I love you first?
    Answer: Men, not women. 3X more commonly

    Women are more likely to say I love you after sex (without reciprocation).

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    What is the response to "I love you."
    Answer: Thanks.

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    For
    Eric Klinenberg, Sociologist, Modern Romance, prof at NYU
    Manoush Zomordi, Host and Managing Editor, Note to Self
    Against
    Helen Fisher, Biological Anthropologist, author (Anatomy of Love), Chief Scientific Adviser / Match.com
    Tom Jacques [pronounced Jakes], VP of Engineering / OKCupid
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    Apr 16, 2018 1:44 AM GMT
    pick up at 26 minutes, 20 seconds.
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    Apr 21, 2018 7:36 PM GMT
    For the Motion - Eric Klinenberg, Sociologist

    What is Romance - feeling of mystery, sense of being swept away, preoccupied with another person, forget the mundane, lost in love

    Marriage rates have gone down since the internet

    Encourage people to treat PEOPLE like products.

    90% is about hot or not

    Dating Apps Make us rude, self-involved, and flakey

    You don't get to be free from competition for what you have.

    I know a person who was on his way to a date arranged on Tindr but he was on his Smart phone cruising Tindr some more.

    Charts and A*C*G Map Global Astrologer
    Part of romance is "Concentrating on You"


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    Apr 21, 2018 7:39 PM GMT
    Romance is about face to face, not face to device.

    Pick up at 32: 47