Short Cuts

  • Ritournelle

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    Feb 27, 2009 2:43 AM GMT
    We all have short cuts that we use to quickly evaluate people. For me, the way people treat waiters is one, the other is how they drive (I've become masterful of being able to know alot about a person based on how they handle rush hour). If they smoke, they usually are more inclined to be promiscuous. There's probably thousands. What are yours?
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    Feb 27, 2009 3:04 AM GMT

    Ritournelle said If they smoke, they usually are more inclined to be promiscuous.


    What makes you say this?

    I think my shortcuts are pretty typical: I pay attention to clean clothes, how the person smells, the person's grammar, and the person's hair (if it's bald is it atleast well kept, no trees. And if long, is it combed or styled.)
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    Feb 27, 2009 3:09 AM GMT
    their greeting and demeanor when first meeting
  • Bunjamon

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    Feb 27, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    In addition to the ones previously mentioned, eye contact. If a guy (or anyone for that matter) isn't comfortable looking at you right in the eyes, it kind of bothers me.
  • Ritournelle

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    Feb 27, 2009 4:59 AM GMT
    I guess I should clarify: eye contact is obvious but doesn't imply much about personality traits, except maybe general nervousness. Here's another example: when I meet a guy for the first time, two things come forefront: The first being if he offers a handshake instinctually and the second being the handshake in itself. If he does not offer his hand, I'm already wary of him. If the handshake is awkward and weak, then at the least there's some distrust, and at worst, total incompatibility, personality-wise.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Feb 27, 2009 5:08 AM GMT
    Ritournelle saidI guess I should clarify: eye contact is obvious but doesn't imply much about personality traits, except maybe general nervousness. Here's another example: when I meet a guy for the first time, two things come forefront: The first being if he offers a handshake instinctually and the second being the handshake in itself. If he does not offer his hand, I'm already wary of him. If the handshake is awkward and weak, then at the least there's some distrust, and at worst, total incompatibility, personality-wise.


    Or he's nervous and doesn't want to touch you with his sweaty hand.

    Oh, and I'm a virgin pseudo-smoker. Not a slut.

    See, you would have written me off, which is why short cuts are no good. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Some people have some awkward to work through before their personality shines.
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    Feb 27, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
    I try not to have hard rules that I use to evaluate people. I think there's too much room for misunderstanding and misjudging someone.
  • Ritournelle

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    Feb 27, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    [quote]

    Or he's nervous and doesn't want to touch you with his sweaty hand.

    Oh, and I'm a virgin pseudo-smoker. Not a slut.

    See, you would have written me off, which is why short cuts are no good. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Some people have some awkward to work through before their personality shines.[/quote]

    I smoke sometimes too, and I don't sleep around, and anyways this applies more to women. I also have tons of awkwardness, in general (although I thoroughly embrace it). Where I'm coming from is those cases when you see someone being snide to a retail employee, and acting smug to let's say an counter employee at Baja Fresh. Can you really not deduce a single thing about their personality?
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Feb 27, 2009 5:37 AM GMT
    I think I just took that personally cuz those two things (smoking and bad handshake skills) applied directly to me. Clearly, crappy tippers and abrasive customers are bad news.


    I know first impressions are important, but I already accepted that mine are bad, so I was doing my part to encourage everyone to give guys like me a chance.
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    Feb 27, 2009 6:46 AM GMT
    I don't go by first impressions. I do go by how they treat strangers though.

    Usually if I'm on a date and the guy tries to impress me by... for example... ordering at a restaurant and telling the waiter what I will have after I told him what I was going to get the impression fails. Just seems controlling to me. I had a different date drive by a house and tell me that lived there which I really didn't care.

    I also don't like stupid arguments when I'm just starting to get to know someone. I say this simply because I was on a date about a month ago and after I told him I had moved to California in 1999 and moved back at the end of 2002 and it was 4 years he kept telling me it was only 3. Like it was a big deal. Technically yes it wasn't 4 years. It was 3 years and 11 months but geez. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 27, 2009 6:54 AM GMT
    Judgmental people congregate! Woohoo! j/k

    For me,

    1) how much they tip at restaurants;

    2) how clean are their fingernails; and

    3) good ole decent table manners.


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    Feb 27, 2009 8:04 AM GMT
    how much money they have. /troll
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    Feb 27, 2009 8:27 AM GMT
    HAHA, well, as to your "How you treat wait staff" I would probably fail. I've been told I'm rude before, but I've worked food service. I don't think I'm being rude, just specific, and if you can't get it right, maybe you shouldn't be working in the service industry....

    For me, its usually people's reactions to the retarded / quasi racist / offensive things I say / do. People who freak out and get serious I know probably have a stick up their ass and won't like me. People who ignore it will be great "I'm bored so I call you friends". People who try to one up me usually end up being awesome friends.
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    Feb 27, 2009 9:10 AM GMT
    The trump card is how they treat animals.

    Adopting a dog from the shelter instead of buying one, for example = get-out-of-jail-free card for some things that are vices.