How did you meet?

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    Oct 13, 2007 4:43 PM GMT
    I'm very curious about how gay guys who have fuck buddies/significant others meet those people.

    Please state the type of relationship you have with your guy(s) and how you met
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    Oct 13, 2007 5:01 PM GMT
    I meet this one guy @ a Barbara Boxer fundrasier. Thou a gay friend. He wanted my number and he wanted to hook-up. (these California boys are so direct) I thought hooking up was just hanging out. Lol. I was shocked to find out he like me because he had such a great body.

    Then we were seeing each other for a long time. We were just fuck buds until I got bored with it
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    Oct 13, 2007 5:04 PM GMT
    I met my current bf on a message board actually....

    We bumped into each other online purely by chance, got to chatting, decided to meet up one day and the rest is history.

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    Oct 13, 2007 5:11 PM GMT
    I met my bf in a bar, I'd like to think the real story was our eyes met across a smoke filled room and all that slush

    But the real story was quite horific!

    yep it was in a bar, and Id seen him too many times before and he made my heart mis a fair few beats! I was chicken shit and didnt dare go over at all and almost avoided him as I was too scared to make a tit of myself!!!!!! Kinda blew that one!

    As I told a mate and brefore I knew it he went running over and sasid "my mate fancies you" and gave him my number! I was soooooooo embarrassed especialy as he walked straight over and started to talk! I didnt know what to do!

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    Oct 13, 2007 5:51 PM GMT
    I met my partner New Year's night at, um, the lovely, romantic Eagle. He was on a date with someone else. A mutual friend introduced us. We didn't swap numbers but he called me a few days later.

    Incredibly, it turned out that meeting me had been one of his New Year's Resolutions, because of some stuff I had written for a magazine. (No, he didn't make it up; his friend was at the brunch where his friends announced their resolutions.)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 13, 2007 5:52 PM GMT
    For me it was Yahoo personals before I had come out (or anything in any way). It was great because it really wasn't about sex or anything other than just saying hello.
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    Oct 13, 2007 5:58 PM GMT
    I met my man on connexion.org
    Decent place and we're both still members. icon_biggrin.gif
  • healthy1

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    Oct 13, 2007 6:00 PM GMT
    I met my bf online (outinamerica.com)
    I don't love meeting guys online because I don't think you can tell if you'll have any chemistry until you meet in person, even if you first chat/email/talk on the phone. But it is an easy way to find potentials.

    When it comes to meeting people online, I think the old saying is true -- you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.
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    Oct 13, 2007 6:10 PM GMT
    We met as we were descending, by the hand of God, to the Earth from Heaven above. "Hi, I'm Adam", he said. "Hi, I'm Steve". We lived happily in the garden for many many years until the beeotch next door showed up with an apple pie. Apple pie is loaded with calories and forbidden! Well, that was that. Nineteen years later, we're in New Jersey. Not exactly the garden, but it is the Garden State.

    (his name is really Herve)
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    Oct 13, 2007 6:25 PM GMT
    Heheh. In a pub in Boston, MA. I mean, where else do you find a nice Irish Catholic Eagle Scout? We talked for several hours over a couple of pints and then called it a night. Separately. HE thought he was going to get a little easy nookie. I stiff-armed him for 2 more dates before I even kissed him. Here we are, nine years this December.
  • cacti

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    Oct 13, 2007 9:22 PM GMT
    It usually just happened without any effort. One guy... a very brief 'boyfriend' I met in a Radio Shack while I was in a crazed rush trying to get batteries for some mics @ work. That was actually a pretty intense moment I must say. When I first saw him as he asked if I needed any help, I immediately calmed down and the gaydar kicked in to high gear. It wasn't his demeanor... it was the eyes and the fact that he was too cute to be straight. Eyes locked, and hearts pounding. Of course, I cowered, and ran out the door...kicking and verbally abusing myself way all the way to the company car. I tortured myself for 2 weeks with thoughts of returning to the store in hopes of finding him at work again. I turned to the internet in an attempt to find someone equally as exciting, and viola: found a little quirky devil in no time. After a whole month of playful emails with new internet stranger, we met in person. Would you believe that it was Mr. Radio Shack live and in the flesh?! That 'relationship' crashed and burned faster than I 'fell in love', but this thread is about meeting people so, moving on...

    My last boyfriend I met through a mutual new friend while I wasn't even looking. He popped over at the friend's house one day and again, the eyes locked immediately and we were unnaturally interested in engaging conversation. It was obvious to everyone as well as ourselves and we were officially 'dating' 3 weeks later after we cleared it with the friend, and this was the first time I ever really took charge to do the asking-out. Boring 'how we met' story, but a great relationship that lasted for a year.

    I will admit to meeting(plus more sometimes) a few guys from the internet, but in my defense I did chat it up for at least a month or so before taking the plunge. In one of those cases, I had become good friends via myspace and eventually phone for almost a year before we met.

  • Timbales

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    Oct 13, 2007 9:46 PM GMT
    I met my guy on Halloween in 1992. We were introduced by a mutual friend. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 13, 2007 10:27 PM GMT
    What were you wearing? icon_biggrin.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 13, 2007 10:29 PM GMT
    I met my man on the net. I don't have a clue what site it was, but we mailed for a while and then we phoned each other. Then we exchanged photos, then we met in person and we are still together today and I love him to bits. He is also my first and I'm his first. I hope we will be together for ever.

    Mike
  • Nudista

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    Oct 13, 2007 10:55 PM GMT
    Awesome Mikephil..!

    I met my other half at the gym. Don't know what the hell he saw in me...i was pretty damn young back then almost 10 years ago and in my crazy kid days hangin out with all my recently graduated high school buddies. He was in a serious relationship with a lady about to marry....icon_eek.gif
    I thought he was just a new workout buddy...no clue what was really going on.
    We were workout buddies for 3 months before he told me what was on his mind....and been in an incredible monog. relationship ever since.
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    Oct 13, 2007 11:16 PM GMT
    match.com though i like to make up alternative stories -- DAR meeting, SciFiCon, fighting over same pair of pants at barney's sale. really anything makes a better story than the truth. great relationship, though.icon_biggrin.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 13, 2007 11:54 PM GMT
    Aaaaaaaaaah love. Isn't it great?

    I just noticed there is no love emoticon. Why is that?

    And on a gay website.

    Whats the world coming toicon_confused.gif

    Mike
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    Oct 14, 2007 12:29 AM GMT
    I had met my now ex-husband at gay pride day of all places. He looked as out of place as I felt, so I sent a friend over to go talk to him (I'm shy). We hung out for a little while, and then left. We were friends for almost a year before started dating...best friends at that, and we were together for over 7 years (monogamously). That relationship ended about 2 years ago.

    Since then...

    Last year I dated a guy for a few months that I'd seen around town a few times, but we started getting to know each other online first.

    This year I also dated a guy for a few months who was introduced by a mutual friend. He and I became friends first for about 2 months before we started dating, then we dated for a while, then broke up and remained friends.


  • Timbales

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    Oct 14, 2007 1:30 AM GMT
    obscenewishWhat were you wearing?


    I was wearing a black turtle neck and jeans and an Andy Warhol wig.

    He was dressed like a little boy in a union suit, with a bottle that the bartender kept full for him. He was with his friend John, who was dressed like a priest. icon_biggrin.gif
  • hotversguy

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    Oct 14, 2007 3:05 AM GMT
    the last realtionship i had (a mere 11 years ago) was with a guy i met at, of all places McDonalds. things were so...simple...back in the Big Mac days....

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    Oct 14, 2007 6:51 AM GMT
    We met on men4sex.com. It was supposed to be a hook up, but we've been together for 18 months.
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    Oct 14, 2007 7:26 AM GMT
    Still haven't met anyone!

    Most guys in San Francisco won't see a guy outside the city limits; I live in a suburb of SF. Either that, or most guys in this area definitely want someone who resembles a guy from an A&F catalog (no exceptions), so I'm shit out of luck. Oh well . . .
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    Oct 14, 2007 1:09 PM GMT
    I met my boyfriend on yahoo personals. I had pretty much given up meeting someone decent, and my roommate made me post a profile.

    My boyfriend was moving to the area to be with family, and he was looking for news friends. After a month of talking on the phone and emailing, he was finally living in my city.


    We just celebrate one a year together.


    So needless to say, I'm not longer skeptical when people say they met online.
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    Oct 14, 2007 6:15 PM GMT
    I had a whopping TWO boyfriends. I was 18 and he was a year younger. We went at it for about three months exclusively, then he decided he had a girlfriend, too, and things got a little rocky until we eventually broke up. The other guy was when I was in my mid-20s, same as him. We met through a personals ad I placed, and it kinda worked for a number of months, then he rather suddenly disappeared. I've been lonely ever since......icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 15, 2007 3:27 PM GMT
    Okay... get comfy.

    I was on a gay men's bowling league in Northampton, MA, and I had seen this really good-looking guy with dark blonde hair and green eyes a couple of times before. Naturally, I was interested in meeting him, but I had just had my heart broken by a guy I was dating out there a few months earlier and I was not ready to get back into the dating game. Also, the gay male community in Northampton is pretty tight-knit and (to a certain degree) incestuous, so I figured that he was either in a relationship already, or he was just another one of those guys who had already slept with every guy on the team. So I just resigned myself to just admiring him from afar.... and I did for the next six months.

    Well, one evening in April 2006, another guy on the team came up to me when I was waiting for my turn to bowl and told me that his friend Todd though I was really cute. I rolled my eyes and said, "Oh that's nice." The guy says to me, " He wants to ask you for your number, but I think he kinda needs you to make the first move." I thought to myself, "Man, what a wimp! Why doesn't he just come over and say hello?" But instead of saying that out loud, I asked the guy to show me which one was Todd. He pointed, and I looked... and sure enough it was the guy with the dark blonde hair and the green eyes whom I had been admiring from afar! "He is too shy to ask me for my phone number?" I thought as my jaw hung open in surprise. Well, I bowled my frame, waked over to Todd's lane, sat down and struck up a conversation. Phone numbers were exchanged later that evening, and we had a drink at the Brewery after the game.

    We've been together ever since. icon_smile.gif