When should you stop referring to yourself as boy/lad/boi?

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    Mar 02, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
    At what age should a male person accept that he is all grown up and stop referring to himself as a Lad, Boy or Boi?

    I think it's acceptable up to the age of 25.
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    Mar 02, 2009 8:54 AM GMT
    I think 25 is about right.

    But 30 is really pushing it. icon_lol.gif

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    Mar 02, 2009 11:49 AM GMT
    Yeah, people who call themselves "boy" in their profile (unless it is a literary allusion to Peter Pan) are low life. Ban them

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  • GQjock

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    Mar 02, 2009 1:05 PM GMT
    I know ....
    sometimes it's a real roll your eyes moment when someone
    WAY passed 18 calls himself a "boy"
    or calls someone who just might be a AARP member "boy"
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    Mar 02, 2009 1:07 PM GMT
    I HATE the word lad, why do guys in england think it's attractive to describe themselves as one?
    For me, never, ever describe yourself as a boi/lad etc.
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    Mar 02, 2009 1:15 PM GMT
    lads are well ard

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    BTW the only time I ever am a "boy" is in my screen name here. Lostman totally misses the intertextuality that "Lostboy" has

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    Mar 02, 2009 1:34 PM GMT
    I make exceptions for cowboys....and maybe countryboys, good-ole-boys, and farmboys.
    ;-)

    ...and Chef-Boy-RD



    Edit: ...and Lostboys!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 02, 2009 1:40 PM GMT
    I don't think "boy" can mean a variety of things. I've heard older men say,
    "I'm just an old Kansas boy"... meaning that they grew up in Kansas
    (or whatever place).

    If its the leather scene, if someone calls themself "slave boy" we know what that means....


    Now "Lost Boy"... I would assume he's been "lost" for some time...

    LOL jk lostboy....
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    Mar 02, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI don't think "boy" can mean a variety of things. I've heard older men say,
    "I'm just an old Kansas boy"... meaning that they grew up in Kansas
    (or whatever place).

    If its the leather scene, if someone calls themself "slave boy" we know what that means....

    Now "Lost Boy"... I would assume he's been "lost" for some time...

    LOL jk lostboy....

    Yeah, context is everything, sometimes allowable, sometimes offensive, not entirely a matter of age. In an email to an RJer yesterday I said I was mistakenly considered a "leather boi" by a gay community up north simply because I always wore Harley leathers on my motorcycle, in my 50s.

    Whereas a BF once got very mad at me for using the "lost boys" term to describe the inhabitants of an actual gay campground deep in the Cascade Mountains, where everyone creates incredibly fanciful campsites over the whole summer, reminding me of the Lost Boys of Peter Pan's Neverland. He believed I was slandering all gays as being more like "lost souls" with that phrase.

    Frankly, I always thought the problem was his own insecurity as a gay man. Some guys manage to find certain terms insulting that others don't even think about.
  • maximumrisk

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    Mar 02, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
    25 seems acceptable. Though, whats the difference?

    A 30 year old may seem ridicoulos if he calls himself a boy, but as some already stated, the term boy is used in various ways and in most cases it just means that they stayed young in the heart. There is nothing wrong about that.

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    Mar 02, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    When he can start voting. So in Canada that is 18. That is when I start viewing guys as adults and start expecting them to act responsibly. What can I say I have somewhat high expectations of people.
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    Parable saidI HATE the word lad, why do guys in england think it's attractive to describe themselves as one?
    For me, never, ever describe yourself as a boi/lad etc.


    What are you talking about?

    Lad is a sweet term. . . in a creepy-grandpa pedophile way.

    OK, OK, you're right.
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    When should you stop referring to yourself as boy/lad/boi?


    ...when you finally die. And then, if it pleases you, have instructions to put the youthful word on your gravestone.

    we're with animanimus - it's a state of mind.

    -us guys
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    I hate the term boi!

    What the fuck is that??

    No one should ever refer to themselves as boi!!
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:39 PM GMT
    Yes "boi" is in my screen name..I have had the same screen name for many years (back when I was in my 20's). When I was a younger guy. While I am no longer a boit, everyone knows me by this name on several sites, and I have no intention on chaging it.

    As for the terms, it doesn't fight most men over 25 and no one over 30. But don't always judge a book by the cover. Soem people may have the term or such in thier screen named for odd resons.
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    "Boi" should never be used.

    Ever.

    Please.
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    ucla_matta said"Boi" should never be used.

    Ever.

    Please.


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    Mar 02, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    Uh never use it. It's screams fag. If you do use it.. I'd say after you're no longer a teenager is the appropriate age to stop.
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:52 PM GMT



    Good grief, guys. I hope some of the more opinionated here never refer to themselves as laid back (another thread - check it out).

    What about all those fine folk in the phone-books with the last name of 'Boy'?
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    Mar 02, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    meninlove said


    Good grief, guys. I hope some of the more opinionated here never refer to themselves as laid back (another thread - check it out).

    What about all those fine folk in the phone-books with the last name of 'Boy'?
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    My tone is not at all about to be bitchy, just of a more inquisitive tone...... I don't see how having an opinion makes someone laid back on not? This thread asked about how we felt about those terms? Because some of us don't like some words we automatically are not laid back?

    PS -- I've never said I was laid back! LOL
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 02, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    This is odd, but I find "boy" more acceptable than "boi"....
    The word "cowboy" for instance...
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    Mar 02, 2009 4:09 PM GMT

    Heheh, no intention to offend Danielryan! Having opinions are fine and dandy, but what those opinions are determines the more open-minded, who are also, usually, more laid back.

    -Doug
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    Mar 02, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    Me too Chris. " Boi" is way too nellie. I am a man not a boi.
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    Mar 02, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    Yeah I used to have a Screen Name or two with Boy or Boi in it back when I was 18. but once 25/26 rolled around, they were gone!
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    Mar 02, 2009 4:19 PM GMT
    I think I was through with "boy" or "boi" the minute I was through with 8th grade! When I think of those descriptions, I think of twinks. Nothing wrong with twinks, btw - but socio-biologically speaking, my genes demand MEN!