I have "oh well" syndrome

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    Mar 02, 2009 6:28 PM GMT
    so in my college algebra class theres this guy who i always thought was really really hot and amazing. and were always walking into class late and sit next to each-other and say a joke or to, well finally today he asked me to coffee after class and i went with him and we talked had a good time and finally got out of him that he was "questioning" and that he thougth i was "cute" from the first day.

    after that we went our seperate ways and i realized i didnt have a crush on him anymore ... this isnt the first time this has happened, ill like a guy and then after i date him im like... Bleh. what am i supposed to do? i dont wanna like guys then not like them after a while, thats not a good relationship..
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    Mar 02, 2009 6:33 PM GMT

    after that we went our seperate ways and i realized i didnt have a crush on him anymore ... this isnt the first time this has happened, ill like a guy and then after i date him im like... Bleh. what am i supposed to do? i dont wanna like guys then not like them after a while, thats not a good relationship..[/quote]

    What you go through sounds perfectly normal and healthy.

    Just because you go GA GA over a guy doesn't mean he is right for you. You usually find this out after meeting/dating/talking with him.
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    Mar 02, 2009 6:38 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    after that we went our seperate ways and i realized i didnt have a crush on him anymore ... this isnt the first time this has happened, ill like a guy and then after i date him im like... Bleh. what am i supposed to do? i dont wanna like guys then not like them after a while, thats not a good relationship..


    What you go through sounds perfectly normal and healthy.

    Just because you go GA GA over a guy doesn't mean he is right for you. You usually find this out after meeting/dating/talking with him.[/quote]

    but hes really hot...and its not like he opened his mouth and it was fairy central or something else that would turn me off. idunno i guess being male i like the chase icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 02, 2009 7:00 PM GMT
    MeanMikey, I was thinking what you stated. You like the chase. That is not uncommon among males (blame evolution), but it will be a challenge for you going forward if you want to have a relationship.
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    Mar 02, 2009 7:06 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidMeanMikey, I was thinking what you stated. You like the chase. That is not uncommon among males (blame evolution), but it will be a challenge for you going forward if you want to have a relationship.


    i know icon_sad.gif thats why i consider it a problem
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    Mar 02, 2009 7:48 PM GMT

    No doubt you're hardwired to seek the chase. That seems to be standard equipment that comes with a Y chromosome.

    But there maybe something else going on. As long as these guys you see are just that - guys you see, share a passing joke with etc - your imagination can go to town about what they might be like or what being around them might be like. When you meet them, your fantasy bumps into cold hard reality and it seems less worth the trouble. Give yourself time, enjoy the cups of coffee for the time being and see where things go. I don't mean this to sound in any way patronizing, but you're young. Try to be easy on yourself and watch how your next few encounters with guys that catch your eye go. Observing what works and what doesn't and seeing what you can change about how you think about these things and what you do, may get you somewhere. And never forget, the whole venture is a journey not a destination, so try to enjoy the ride.
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    Mar 02, 2009 11:07 PM GMT
    Why don;t you give it some time and have fun with him? You never know, you might change your mind
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    Mar 02, 2009 11:07 PM GMT
    Um but yet you're in a "monogamous relationship"? So why are you interested in dating guys?
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    Mar 02, 2009 11:10 PM GMT
    Maybe he thought that meant what type of relationship he's looking for, not his current status. icon_biggrin.gif