The "Art" Of the High School Reunion

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 15, 2007 12:57 AM GMT
    I always have found it odd how people behave when it comes to their high school reunions. Male, female, gay, straight.. Its either they have something to prove to those people or they just decide to boycott the whole thing and not go. Everyone is different, but it does seem to be an issue to many.

    So... how do you deal with your high school reunions?
    Do you go? Do they know your gay? Do you go with a date (or your partner)? Do you give a damn about what they think?

  • Timbales

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    Oct 15, 2007 1:18 AM GMT
    I recently reconnected with a friend from high school and we had dinner last night. Our twenty year is coming up next year and she'd really like me to go.

    Honestly? High school was hell. I don't have a whole lot of interest in seeing the majority of those people.
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    Oct 15, 2007 1:39 AM GMT
    We had our 20-year reunion in August. It was actually a lot of fun, and there were more people there than at our 10-year reunion.
    As far as "caring", I don't care if anyone knows I'm gay--I think most have known for a while after the rumor mill spread around. At this particular reunion, there were 4: myself (came alone, but with a good group of friends). A lesbian came with her partner--she wasn't out at the 10-year, even though I caught her at a late night club once. Another friend came alone--he's like #3 at Eastman Kodak now. And the other guy came alone, although his partner came to the 10-year reunion. The cool thing with him is that they've been together for over 20 years--so they actually started while they were still in high school! icon_biggrin.gif
    But back to the effect of the event itself: I think it helped motivate me to lose the extra pounds I wanted to for a while. It took 12 months but was worth it. I think it also reminds me about what I've accomplished and whether my goals are still on track.
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    Oct 15, 2007 2:07 AM GMT
    HIgh school reunions...I didn't attend/didn't have the time to go to the tenth, but I've gone to two since then. Although I 've clearly been gay since my earliest years, I acknowledged it only after high school. At the first of those reunions, I connected with a lesbian/closeted classmate and hung around with her the whole weekend. The following reunion, it seems the word had gotten around, so at the Banquet, when pressed at the table to talk about children/ grandchildren, I announced: "I'm gay, so we don't have kids, we have dogs!" The response was: "Oh, isn't that great; what kind of dogs?"

    I've enjoyed both reunions that I've attended. I encourage you all to attend them...and be as out as you can. If I can convince my partner to attend, I'll take him in a NY minute.
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    Oct 15, 2007 2:59 AM GMT
    Hmmm... let's see....my 40th is coming up in 2 years. I live in the same town ....and in the same house as back then. Shouldn't be too hard to find me ... icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 15, 2007 3:06 AM GMT
    I got the awesome experience at my fifth high school reunion of being someone that most people literally did not recognize because I had changed so much (in a good way). That was a fun, gratifying time - and I figured it's always best to go out on a high note. Have never been back since.
  • GQjock

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    Oct 15, 2007 3:08 AM GMT
    I really should go...
    none of my old friends from high school knew I was gay
    ...and I think it would freak them out once they found out that I was

    and who knows maybe one or two of them would have a surprize for me
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    Oct 15, 2007 4:09 AM GMT
    I took a time machine device to help recognize people. It was a frame containing a piece of cardboard with an oval opening, and a photograph of hair on top. You hold it up and look at an old balding fart through the opening, to see what they used to look like back when they had hair.
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    Oct 15, 2007 8:06 AM GMT
    Yikes. I'm generation X, I have not attended any reunions, and don't have much interest in any future reunions either.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 15, 2007 11:57 AM GMT
    Well I think there are many of us in here that are technically considered "Generation X". What does that have to do with attending reunions?.. unless you just haven't had one yet
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    Oct 15, 2007 12:40 PM GMT
    I didn't develop any lasting friendships at prep school, and at reunions, there are mostly the popular cliquish people with whom I didn't fit in back when we were in school. I went to the 10th and 15th reunions and felt out of place both times, so I stopped going to them. I don't see myself going there for my 30th in 2010.
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    Oct 15, 2007 12:43 PM GMT
    I'm generation Y as in Y bother. We had our 5 year reunion this year, and I didnt bother going because I was like not that much has changed since i finished high school. Whoopdee I went to college, not that exciting out of prep school. I'll probably go to my ten year reunion figureing Ill have been out of school for 3 years and had a career at least. most people in my high school know I am gay or at least figured as much so it wont be a big surprise to anyone that hasnt heard already. Funny story is that on the night of my reunion I was out at a gay bar here in NYC and I ran into another homo from my class, guess I wasnt the only one opting out.
  • iHavok

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    Oct 15, 2007 1:56 PM GMT
    I didn't go, and have no urge to go.

    The cruelties that were perpetrated against me at that time were done by kids who didn't know any better, and didn't realize the harm they were doing.

    I hope they are all well now.

    And I believe there was a lesbian in my class, otherwise I haven't seen or heard of anyone other than myself being a 'mo.
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    Oct 15, 2007 2:42 PM GMT
    I have usually not gone simply because it was not convenient in terms of travel.

    I did end up going to my 20th at the last minute just because I was in town. Kind of depressing, so many people who hadn't done what they wanted, or seemed kind of desperate somehow.

    Saw a few of the people I wanted to, but all of them had changed, and most not for the better IMO.

    What the hell is it with reunion venues anyway? Always a cocktail party and dinner dance? Watered down booze, and rubber chicken or overcooked fish? Surely the people that organise this stuff could come up with something better. How about an afternoon picnic and a softball game at the State Park? Jeez people, get a little creative.

  • DiverScience

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    Oct 15, 2007 2:46 PM GMT
    If I'm still in the area when my 10th happens in 2(?) years, I'll likely go. Just curious to see where the people I lost track of went. I really don't care much what most of the people think, and I'll be approximately where they expected me to be anyway so... ::shrugs::
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    Oct 15, 2007 2:47 PM GMT
    I went to my 20th a few years ago. Didn't have much expectations, and I ended up having a very good time. My husband didn't come along, and most people at the reunion came alone. I think that's best, unless your partner went to the same school or was in the same class, it could be quite a snooze-fest for them.

    Some people changed a lot, and some not at all. I did hate the high school photos they had there, I am so much better looking now, and I really don't want to talk about the hair (god - what was I thinking back then, it's just horrifying!). And physically I was in better shape then most of the guys there, including the athletes.

    I hung around with some people I knew from HS, danced a bit, and even met some new people. I was also very open about being gay and about my husband. Remembering back, I had a pretty good time in HS. I was always with the more creative crowd anyway. Never really picked on or bullied in school (it helped that most of the bullies knew my older brothers, so I was "hands-off").
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    Oct 15, 2007 2:56 PM GMT
    Meh - I have kept up with all the people I liked so it would be just going to see people for whom high school was the best years of their lives. If I need that kind of downer, I'll rewatch the 1986 World Series.
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    Oct 15, 2007 3:42 PM GMT
    I didn't go to my tenth and I probably won't go to my twentieth. I didn't have any friends, so I spent all my high school years at home reading or watching television.

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    Oct 15, 2007 4:01 PM GMT
    I will be going to my 10th next year. I keep in touch with some of my classmates via the internet, but I do want to reconnect with some of the ones who are not on-line. Being from a small town, most of my class was related to me, so I am kept current on most of their lives. There are only a handful of people that I really want to find.
    I had a decent experience in High School, mostly due to family being in upper grades. I got my share of being picked on, but it was not as bad as it could have been.
    I was not out in High School, and only a few from that part of my life know now. Though two of my best friends from Junior High have decided to come out since HS. Things would def. have been a bit different had we know then what we know now.
  • art_smass

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    Oct 15, 2007 4:05 PM GMT
    I went to a huge high school, so my tenth was quite large. My twenty-fifth should be coming up this June. I'm buff and quite fresh-looking for my age, so I'm planning to attend. I don't know if I'll take anyone. I imagine a date would feel like a third wheel every time I reminisced with an old friend. I know several spouses at my tenth looked awfully bored.
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    Oct 15, 2007 4:47 PM GMT
    my 10 year reunion will be coming up in a year and a half...I don't really have any interst in going. there is no one I went to high school with that I want to catch up with or hangout with. if they didn't care to be my friend then, why bother trying to make up for it now? there would not be enough alcohol to offset the amount of fakeness that I would have to endure. just my thoughts though...

    my parents still live in the same small town, so I still know for the most part what's going on and if anyone really wants to know about me, they know where my parents live.
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    Oct 15, 2007 4:53 PM GMT
    ive only been out of high school for 1 year and a half and i have lost almost all contact with my hs frnds lol.
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    Oct 15, 2007 7:56 PM GMT
    My 30th is next summer and I am, for the first time, taking my partner. It shall be interesting as I came from a little logging and fishing town on the coast of Oregon (Eastside just outside of Coos Bay). There are some really heartfelt and kind people living there, but many are not my bottle of microbrew. I organized the first and second reunion, was involved in the third (we do one every five years), skipped the fourth, and went to half of the fifth... And, well, mostly my previous school mates are cool... Only a few were less than what I had hoped for (i.e. nice or at least tolerant). Anyway, it seems to me that we just be ourselves, warts and all, and people tend to at least respect that approach. But, then, there are jerks in every group, just like there are good people. In summary, I am a bit shakey about taking my significant other, but ..... it simply must be done ... for me. Peace and Take Great Care, Bri
  • BlackJock79

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    Oct 15, 2007 8:06 PM GMT
    My 1st high school reunion was this year. I went and one of my straight female friends came with me as my "fiance". LOL, I was popular in high school so I kinda felt obligated to go... and I was one of the popular ones that turned out well, military, pledged a black frat in college, GRADUATED college, next logical step was for me to showcase the wife and kids. LOL, little do they know... Now that I've been to that one I don't feel a need to go to anymore. I don't give a damn about what they think but my classmates know I am EASY to get a rise out of. If I were out and one person were say something derogatory against me or gays I'd kick their ass. Or I'd get mine kicked but somebody would get beat up. LOL, I'm not down with all that drama and shit anymore so I chose not to tell anyone what gender I am attracted to.
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    Oct 15, 2007 9:21 PM GMT
    Haven't had one yet but I don't think I'll go when I do. There are only a handful of people who were worthwhile and since neither of us tried to keep up with eachother I don't really think it's worth my time to just see people once every 10 years. I may change my mind by then though.