do the clothes make the man? does the man make the clothes?

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    Mar 05, 2009 5:18 AM GMT
    i realize that the answers to this quandry will be varied, as we all have our own tastes, 'types,' preferences, etc...

    just curious though:

    to what extent can dressing well make a man more attractive in your eyes, and at what point does a man dress TOO well, such that he becomes intimidating (to some), or so obviously vain and materialistic that it's a turn off?

    can a hot man get away with wearing anything? do less naturally gifted men need a bit of help? can a nicely put-together outfit never hurt, regardless?

    would you rather see a guy dressed really casually in public, or would it turn you on more to see him in a sport coat? -this is assuming you're not one of those who resent importance placed on personal appearance whatsoever.















    i'll go first:
    i like a man in designer jeans, to show he has SOME taste and ability to invest in nice things and in himself..... penny-pinchers are a HUGE turn off to me...... but if his entire outfit is designer, or if any part of it is covered with a designer logo, its not gonna happen- it screams 'high maintenance.' i like a guy who dresses down to earth, with maybe a ratty favorite baseball cap, but who cleans up well and can appreciate nice things- and who doesn't gripe embarrassingly about how expensive some things can be.
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    Mar 05, 2009 5:33 AM GMT
    The clothes make the man and little kids in Indonesia make the clothes...
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    Mar 05, 2009 5:38 AM GMT
    I love clothes, I agree with the overly logo'd as being a turn off, I love the full range from suits to jeans and t-shirts, I think I have a dozen or so suits right now, I purge every 6 months and my friends wives love it when I hand-me down. The right fit is essential on any man, you can own any look if you have the confidence, the one absolute for me is that sweat pants should never been worn in public, I dont even own a pair and hate when I see them out on the town. Jeans are tricky as they are so easily out of style or overly trendy.
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    Mar 05, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    At the end of the day the clothes are going to end up on my floor it's whats underneath that'll be getting my attentionicon_twisted.gif



    or I'll be left waiting while he folds and hangs it all up..in which case he ain't a real man
  • ROYCE13

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    Mar 05, 2009 6:38 AM GMT
    well you can tell when the clothes make the man, he is dressed up or down but yet acts or looks unnatural, uncomfortable and unconfident. Good posture, self awareness, a smile on a man then he makes the clothes.
    I have found that guys who pick out there clothes and have their own personal style verses the ones who have a dresser and follow trends look better in their clothes-whether they are dressed up or down.

    Regarding your tag about intimidating people with clothes, I can relate to this,
    I live all over geographically speaking and was raised to dress formal, formal whether is it formal casual or black tie, never allowed to wear jeans or flip flops or t-shirts in public. I now wear all of them, and even in public, but when in Texas and Florida, except Palm Beach and Miami, I am always chastised for being well dressed, not label, never purchase anything with a label and if I buy Prada, I have them remove the red plastic label on clothes, but even if you are dressed well on the casual side , people get intimidated, so much that for a few years I dressed down, still nice, then I said to hell with them, I am not changing how I want to dress for anybody, I dress for me and what I like, I have had girlfriends and boyfriends who want me to make them over and I say no no, I am not changing how you dress, you dress for you and I dress for me. Even though I like clothes, styles, textures and fabrics at the end of the day, they are clothes, not the statement that everybody tries to make them what they want them to be. I have custom made shirts on the floor along with ready to wear.
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:05 AM GMT
    i agree with the o.p.
  • kinetic

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    Mar 05, 2009 8:24 AM GMT
    Anyone can buy clothes, but real style can't be bought. icon_cool.gif
  • ROYCE13

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    Mar 05, 2009 8:24 AM GMT
    especially when they were them on the angle, trying to be ____________.
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:25 AM GMT
    especially when they were them on the angle, trying to be ____________.
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:25 AM GMT
    I like a guy who can dress well without being a label whore. I've dated avant garde sissies before who design all their clothes, or by everything from goodwill, and they looked great. as long as someone's not buying Old Navy/Sears crap and acting like they are the top of the shit pile, just look good and I'm down
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:29 AM GMT
    ROYCE13 saidwell you can tell when the clothes make the man, he is dressed up or down but yet acts or looks unnatural, uncomfortable and unconfident. Good posture, self awareness, a smile on a man then he makes the clothes.
    I have found that guys who pick out there clothes and have their own personal style verses the ones who have a dresser and follow trends look better in their clothes-whether they are dressed up or down.

    Regarding your tag about intimidating people with clothes, I can relate to this,
    I live all over geographically speaking and was raised to dress formal, formal whether is it formal casual or black tie, never allowed to wear jeans or flip flops or t-shirts in public. I now wear all of them, and even in public, but when in Texas and Florida, except Palm Beach and Miami, I am always chastised for being well dressed, not label, never purchase anything with a label and if I buy Prada, I have them remove the red plastic label on clothes, but even if you are dressed well on the casual side , people get intimidated, so much that for a few years I dressed down, still nice, then I said to hell with them, I am not changing how I want to dress for anybody, I dress for me and what I like, I have had girlfriends and boyfriends who want me to make them over and I say no no, I am not changing how you dress, you dress for you and I dress for me. Even though I like clothes, styles, textures and fabrics at the end of the day, they are clothes, not the statement that everybody tries to make them what they want them to be. I have custom made shirts on the floor along with ready to wear.


    Maybe its not so much "intimidating" as it is "out-of-place?"

    Nevertheless, for a man to command his clothes, it has to look EFFORTLESS. Brandwhoring is gaudy. And usually, these are the parvenues and the noveau riche. It shows. It really shows.