What makes a Good Top

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    Mar 05, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    There are many post here on What makes a good Bottom, what about the other side of the puzzle what make a really good Top
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:01 PM GMT
    me
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    Mar 05, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    Just listen to your bottom guy, and keep the tempo stable and comfortable for him .. It's called giver- all about giving..

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    Mar 05, 2009 8:36 PM GMT
    icon_wink.gifA good top is one who thinks he's in control of the situation, but in reality, I'm the one who sets the tempo, roughness, intimacy, etc.. Yeah, yeah, yeah...I can be a power bottom at times.
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    Mar 05, 2009 10:51 PM GMT
    A good top is one who is not in it to pleasure himself, but to pleasure his partner just as much or more. One that looks at his parnters reactions and reads what is truely pleasuring him. One who takes his time, and never in any rush. I know this is what I do and seems to have kept all the guys I've been with very happy.
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    Mar 05, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    Thanks COWBOI. I will make sure I pass that sage advice on to my next boy friend.Whoo Hooo!
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    Mar 05, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    i like what cowboi said. I usually am the bottom, lol love it by the way, but anywho i guess what i look for is for all that cowboi said about reading off the reactions of the bottom partner, not in it for himself, but what's really big for me is the passion. is the top very passionate? it's not about the size, it's about the passion you can put into everything that turns me on. :-) and the knowledge of knowing when to let me take control and when he takes control.
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    Mar 05, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    The reach-around icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 05, 2009 10:59 PM GMT
    A good top lets me throw him on his back and let me ride him like a cowboy
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:07 PM GMT
    What makes a good top? A personality.
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    oh I forgot to add. RELAXING THE PERSON to get ready for you.
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:14 PM GMT
    xflipx saidoh I forgot to add. RELAXING THE PERSON to get ready for you.



    DING DING DING, we have a winner! lol This is sooooooooo important
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:17 PM GMT
    HighVoltageGuy saidicon_wink.gifA good top is one who thinks he's in control of the situation, but in reality, I'm the one who sets the tempo, roughness, intimacy, etc.. Yeah, yeah, yeah...I can be a power bottom at times.



    a man after my own heart, lord after reading that I think I need some tissues.....my nose isn't running either... :-)
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    Well i've heard alot of guys say the best Top usually come from Bottoms.
    So what makes a really good top, well I don't think you can "make" a really good Top. Either the guy is great at what he doesicon_twisted.gif, medicoreicon_smile.gif, or he's horrible.icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    most guys say a big (censor) but i dont thinks so...those just hurt. and i was actually thinking this the other day. long sex is overrated. i get kind of bored after about an hour. icon_sad.gif I think just as long as he knows what hes doing its good. but im all about the flip flop!icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    Obedience!
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:41 PM GMT
    McGay saidObedience!


    icon_twisted.gifYES SIR!!icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 05, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    Eye contact.
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    Mar 06, 2009 12:14 AM GMT
    To better understand both a top and bottom one must first understand themself and not be selfish in the ares of sex. The best thing about sex is both in the giving and getting. What makes a good LOVER is someone who takes the time out to satisfy both needs starting with his partner.

    I'm versatile and I enjoy pleasuring whoever I might be with. Their pleasure is my pleasure. I already know I'm gonna get mine and I make the effort to make sure that they get theirs. icon_biggrin.gificon_razz.gif
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    Mar 06, 2009 12:29 AM GMT
    xflipx saidoh I forgot to add. RELAXING THE PERSON to get ready for you.


    I always have trouble relaxing.
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    Mar 06, 2009 12:53 AM GMT
    How about 4-play?

    Not just the act of topping - can he find the other erogenous zones on your body. Lots of ways to get a guy horned up without touching his manhood.

    He knows a bit about your sexual psychology so he knows what to say. Are you his 'little bitch' or his 'hot boi' or 'slave'? Do you like to be told he's gonna 'breed you', 'stretch you', 'do it all night long'? He knows how gentle he needs to be sometimes and how rough he can get.

    Lots of guys are 'into' hook-ups, but I find these events hit and miss. The guy just doesn't know enough about you. Sleep with someone 50 times in all sorts of circumstances and you get to know how to appeal to there psyche much better.

    He also learns when to ask/beg/command/coax your climax. If he says 'cum' too early, it just pressures you. You might not even be close and you feel out of sync with him.

    I also agree that a good top makes sure the bottom gets off first.



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    Mar 06, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    To me a good top is someone that will be patient with me at first, let me get used to it, and the second it switches from the pain to pleasure he makes his move! Either nice long strokes or throws my legs or ass in the air and pounds my ass like theres no tomorrow while I am beggin him for more....whew! I need a drink.

    a little rough talk like this goes a long way too!!


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    Apr 03, 2009 8:11 PM GMT
    I will said his stamina. I will be very frustrated to bottom for a guys who are an early withdrawal and everything over in a blink of the eyes. A large and long hard penis make someone an unforgetable top. One guy with a huge dick fuck me so good that I feel my body electifies and trembling with pleasure. But his problem is he cant keep it to long .

    A caring and loving dominate masculine type guy also a quality in a good top. Guy who humilate you , dont respect you and calling you a bitch and bottom are not worth to be with.
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    Apr 03, 2009 8:52 PM GMT
    One that's willing to toss my salad for half an hour before he sticks it in.
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    Apr 03, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidOne that's willing to toss my salad for half an hour before he sticks it in.

    *gets two sporks* Right.. Brace your self sweety.. I'm gonna make your salad perfectly tossed