Gay best man

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    Mar 06, 2009 7:58 AM GMT
    So, I am the Best Man in a gay wedding this June. I have so far been just honored at the privilege, but one of my friends just reminded me of the Bachelor party responsibility. So, what I need, are.....

    1) Gay male strip clubs in boston.

    2) Other things I should think about.

    He's my best friend since 4th grade. I want him to have a good time, and to feel like any other man getting married. I'm sure I'll hold his ring, but what else should I do??? He said to just get him a good fifth of whiskey for his wedding present, but his hubby doesn't drink. So, I'll probably get him some whiskey, but I feel like I should get the happy couple a gift for the two of them. They've lived together for five years so don't need anything. And he refuses to register. It didn't even occur to me that the bachelor party was my job until tonight.

    Please help!!
  • Latenight30

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    Mar 06, 2009 11:56 AM GMT
    Be prepared to make a toast.
    I guess the other groom won't have a garter so thats out of the question.
    Since it's both guys, just make sure things are well coordinated for them. Back them up on any planning and just make sure they have a smooth day.
    Congratulations to them btw and report back on how it went.
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    Mar 06, 2009 12:29 PM GMT
    You don'y want my help as all the bucks parties I've been to have been str8, and they have included:
    herringbone sheds, and milking cups.
    dames, and naked grooms.
    Black tar, or boot bolish.
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    I don't think you want my input!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 06, 2009 12:44 PM GMT
    For my bachelor party we went to TrixxXL (or whatever their name is now) down in Providence. It was fun and trashy, but it also was not the hottest experience!

    If you can gather a group of fun boys (no less than 6) then I'd say go there if you're watching your budget! Just don't be surprised if you're the only young guys in there, and the strippers aren't all that hot... The whole point I found was that it was just fun to be with my buddies, doing something sketchy, and laughing at the amazingly thick accents of the dancers...

    If money/travel aren't as restricted, drive up to Montreal and tear it up at Campus!!!

    Or, you could check out RentBoy dot com and hire one of the cuties on there do stripping at someone's house! That could be pretty hot, if you're looking for hot strippah action.

    I would totally get him the whiskey! The event is to celebrate his single life, so the hubby's drinking choices are out of scope. You can also get "them" a present at the wedding, but not for the bachelor party. And, if he/they refuse to register, a Crate and Barrel gift card, or Williams-Sonoma card (also can be used at PBarn and West Elm) are great.

    And, while it's not as personal, our favorite present at the wedding was CASH! Weddings ain't cheap (even if you're careful) and it's nice to have a flexible present to use to pay off the honeymoon. A $100 bill isn't the most thoughful but it will definitely be appreciated.

    Good luck!!!
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    Mar 06, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    I was Best Man at my brother's wedding. You have the toast. You are in charge of the Bachelor Party. You have to make sure he is dressed and ready for the ceremony. You attend all upcoming showers or parties before the wedding. And be at his beck and call the day of the wedding if he needs anything.

    Good luck and let us know how it goes.
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    Mar 06, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    Not sure fo thier relationship status..but you might want to make sure that a male stripper is ok withi his hubby. You don't need to cause marital problems.

    You also probably will be asked to give them a toast, and you need to have a good one ready, written down if need be.

    The gift since they are not registered could be something like a donation in thier name to the HCR (to help fight for the rights of others to marry).
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 06, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    Cowboiway saidNot sure fo thier relationship status..but you might want to make sure that a male stripper is ok withi his hubby. You don't need to cause marital problems.




    I agree with John, I would review expectations with them a bit.. Don't know how well you know is partner, but I would go the extra mile to make sure he's happy with what your doing. Just a good idea for future great relations.
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    Mar 06, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    I was the best man for a straight friend's wedding. He isn't much of a partier, so we did kind of an alternative take on the bachelor's party with a road trip, etc. I got a feel for what he wanted by kind of indirectly asking him and his fiance. Everyone had fun. It was kind of a pain to organize, especially getting the groomsmen pinned down on schedules and making all of the arrangements.

    The toast was way more stressful, though. I'm fine with writing, but the speaking-to-a-large-group part sucked. Prepare, prepare, prepare, and don't drink too much beforehand.
  • coolarmydude

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    Mar 06, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
    Right on, hobronto.

    Break away from the lame stereotype of a bachelor party. Do something that strengthens the male-friend bonds. Camping trips. Sky dive or bungee jumps. Get away, just the guys. If I was the one getting married, that's what I would prefer over the false notion of lewd acts and deviance. After all, how many gay relationships are open to sex beyond the couple?

    What does the groom want?
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    Mar 06, 2009 5:08 PM GMT
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