Mar 06, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
Hey duders, not sure if we've gone down this road before, but I thought it was an interesting question.
Why do we, as gay men, take such hard positions against other men who are gay? I hear guys all the time saying that another gay guy is "too gay," or "flaming." Now, I understand that certain people have tastes as far as who they date - that's for sure - and I understand why you would or would not want to date someone based on how they acted. So I want to make it very clear that who you "date" will be an exclusion of this topic.
I know it's hard to wrap your mind around it, but gender expression is a very personal concept based on environment and development, etc. So of course we are all going to think and act differently regarding our sexuality. I have friends that are ultra-gay acting, really straight-acting, and then some that are in the middle. Myself, I fall somewhere in the middle. I just think it's odd that we wouldn't want to associate with someone as friends because they act "too gay." After all, isn't that the one thing we all have in common?
What do you guys think?
Why do we, as gay men, take such hard positions against other men who are gay? I hear guys all the time saying that another gay guy is "too gay," or "flaming." Now, I understand that certain people have tastes as far as who they date - that's for sure - and I understand why you would or would not want to date someone based on how they acted. So I want to make it very clear that who you "date" will be an exclusion of this topic.
I know it's hard to wrap your mind around it, but gender expression is a very personal concept based on environment and development, etc. So of course we are all going to think and act differently regarding our sexuality. I have friends that are ultra-gay acting, really straight-acting, and then some that are in the middle. Myself, I fall somewhere in the middle. I just think it's odd that we wouldn't want to associate with someone as friends because they act "too gay." After all, isn't that the one thing we all have in common?

What do you guys think?