nycstudd22 saidDo people friend each other on this site? I feel ignored
They need a chat ;p
Here's a saying you should perhaps apply: Anything worth doing should be worth doing well. Noting that, take a look at your own profile. You were so lazy as to not enter data, nor to put forth anything of interest to the viewer.
You got back just what you put into, and, yet, you're complaining. If you make no effort, you should expect nothing in return. That's not a complicated equation to figure out. DOH! Doh! DOH!
I suggest walking away from the computer for a moment, going to the library and getting a book; a classic: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
Folks like to associate with those that they share a common interest with, be it being a Real Jock, cultural, socio-economic, academic, military, and so on. You made no effort to drive any interest in you, and you got back exactly what you put forth: nothing. Having a penis, or liking dick, is generally to broad of an interest to get inquiries from others unless they're bottom of the barrel.
It has nothing to do with being judgmental (good judgment is a very good thing), prejudice (we like folks we share common interests and experiences with), or being obnoxious (I share little in common with someone inactive, out-of-shape, that smokes, and is looking for a sexual connection, so it makes good sense not to deal with those folks.)
Tell folks, via your profile, what you're looking for. Learn the art, and decorum, of good conversation. It doesn't start with a blank profile, or something dumb like "Top, or bottom?", or "You're hot." You need to be engaging in conversation. It's o.k. to have some manners, but, stupid to be animated and all-accepting.
Another thing, try team sports (in Real Space), going out (in Real Space), or going somewhere with a friend, in Real Space.
Hold yourself to a higher standard, and the rest will follow.