What kind of wedding would you want?

  • tbeaux

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    Mar 07, 2009 9:39 PM GMT
    Yeah so i was talking to one of my good friends from Spain and he just got married to his love. Talking to him, it got me thinking, what kind of wedding do I want? So here it is!

    I want a beach wedding, yeah I know cliché, but I love the beach. I'd have a pretty nice size crowd with all my friends there, and as long as I have one of my sisters and mom there I will be just fine. The rest of my family does not like gays at all. But i have it like pictured perfect in my mind! I just need the guy lol, but then after the ceremony i would have the reception on a yaht. lol I will be in debt for the rest of my life with this type of wedding.


    So of course thinking about this, I had to go onto realjock and ask everyone else,
    So what kind of wedding would you want?
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    Mar 07, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    Wedding? Shoot, I'm working on finding a relationship first! hahahaicon_lol.gif
  • shoelessj

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    Mar 07, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    First off, how cool is it that an 18-year-old gay guy can seriously wonder about what his wedding will be like? Yeah, we're not entirely there yet, but it's coming.
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    Sadly, i don't think you and i would marry. I would love to be married in a small, hundreds years old chapel, and have the party in an old brick, or limestone type building, either a great hall or a mansion or a building that used to be a municipal building of some sort but is now a cool loft with remnants of its past, like murals and stained glass windows around and great views of the urban setting around it. I doubt there'd be much of my family around, but we can dream. I'd actually like a sizeable number of people there, too. Wouldn't want it relegated to some 'civil ceremony' type status, would be cool if we could go all out, with a real wedding type celebration. and a fun, casual brunch the next morning.
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    Mar 07, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    Well i'd want to have mine in the forests of Germany, very beautiful. And i'd probably only invite my relatives that I like, my intermediate family well who cares about what they think. What few Best Friends I still have around, some of my Military friends, and of course whoever he'd want to invite. I'd be in a tuxedo of made solely of variant shades of Purple with Neon Green present. His would be whatever color he'd want. The food would be a combination of what we both like.
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    Mar 07, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    In my parents' backyard, in June, with all the gardens in bloom. No more than 60 people, with dinner served afterwards and, of course, an open, top-shelf, bar.
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    Mar 07, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    In the woods

  • shoelessj

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    Mar 07, 2009 11:59 PM GMT
    Oh yeah, i would have open bar, but only for like the first few hours. People get sloppy after that.

    Open dessert bar though.
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    Mar 08, 2009 1:11 AM GMT
    I don't think I will, but if I dared to dream:

    1) No religious iconography within a 15 mile radius.
    2) Away from the city, but if it's in a city, somewhere sweet like the top of a skyscraper at night with a DJ armed and ready to spin some bad ass beats upon completion of the vows. ;)
    2b) If it's not in a city, then somewhere with rocks, wood, and blue sky.
    4) Smallish crowd.
    5) A live podcast to the RJ blog.
    6) Champagne for all.
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    Mar 08, 2009 1:35 AM GMT
    have you seen the movie "Much Ado About Nothing"? i want that.

    -an informal wedding in the garden of an ancient italian villa, with everyone wearing white linen, and with garlands and white flower petals everywhere- and great wine. ooh and an old baroque fountain.


    and lots of presents :p








    more realistically... in the Annapolis Yacht Club here, or on a beach.

    with lots of presents :p
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    Mar 08, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    warrior_poet63 saidI don't think I will, but if I dared to dream:1) No religious iconography within a 15 mile radius.

    No, just the opposite! Let them see you triumph in the citadel of your enemies!
    I'd go for baroque excess -- a nuptial mass at the high altar of St. Stephen's in Vienna, celebrated by no less than the Cardinal Archbishop, followed by a special performance of The Marriage of Figaro at the State Opera, with seats in the Imperial Box for the groom and groom.

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    Mar 08, 2009 1:53 AM GMT
    I'd like a simple yet very rememorable one where all my friends and family are present (his too). We're either on a beach or out in a vineyard. More details later when I finish the dream. LOL.
  • DCEric

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    Mar 08, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    elopement

    /seriously, I have no interest.
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    Mar 08, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    very quiet and simple. No campy flourishes leading to debt. I´d rather spend the money on our marriage rather than on our wedding.

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    Mar 08, 2009 2:08 AM GMT
    I'd want a wedding just like my first one (my ex and I had a commitment ceremony...as far as we were concerned, it was a wedding).

    We kept it small (about 60 people) and very informal (no tuxes). We had a short secular ceremony, and then just a party after. The hall we rented was very cool...we made just about all the food ourselves...had the ceremony outside near a koi pond.

    Everything about it was perfect. icon_smile.gif

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    Mar 08, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
    this pretty much sums it up...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5ZQiuufafA
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    Mar 08, 2009 3:10 AM GMT
    VERY LOW KEY! Honestly, I'd rather fill out the paper and just have a dinner with family and friends - no ceremony. But if the other half wants it, I'm game if it's low key!
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    Mar 08, 2009 4:27 AM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    warrior_poet63 saidI don't think I will, but if I dared to dream:1) No religious iconography within a 15 mile radius.

    No, just the opposite! Let them see you triumph in the citadel of your enemies!
    I'd go for baroque excess -- a nuptial mass at the high altar of St. Stephen's in Vienna, celebrated by no less than the Cardinal Archbishop, followed by a special performance of The Marriage of Figaro at the State Opera, with seats in the Imperial Box for the groom and groom.



    Haha, nice. Well just for kicks, or maybe camp, I'd have the pope crown us too.
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    Mar 08, 2009 8:14 PM GMT
    It's probably odd to everyone but everyone knows me for my taste in horror.
    So one of us would wear white and the other black. All the guests will be required to wear some shade of grey to represent the unity of two families on their sons' happiest day. Now the party is where the horror kicks in icon_twisted.gif!!
    The theme is a horror masquerade. All guests will be given as mask upon entering the party, which they must wear until 12 midnight. The tablecloths will be red and black. Me and my partner will be in the back of the room on a lifted floor, seated on thrones, looking over the party. Rock music will be playing for a majority of the party. Instead of a dolphin ice sculpture, it will be a skull, with fruitpunch pouring out of the eyes. The final dance will be an instrumental from Phantom of the Opera, between me and my man. The cake will have a knife shaped cake pointing out of its side, with strawberry drizzle coming out of the "wound" of the tier cake. Oh the waiters will be shirtless hunks wearing Freddy gloves and Jason masks icon_twisted.gif. There's a lot more but I don't wanna spoil the surprises.icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 08, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    Eh...maybe the court house! icon_biggrin.gif. In all honesty, I remember hearing someone say something a while ago that I truly believe: "People spend too much time focusing on the wedding than the actual marriage."
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    Mar 08, 2009 8:26 PM GMT
    Realjock is falling down .. what's the whole marriage issue lately?

    I never pictured my marriage, cuz first I need to picture Mr. right , who is still far away from the present ..

    I guess it'd be simple, with the closest friends .. and most important -a happy day for my family..which is also a bit far .
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    Mar 08, 2009 8:28 PM GMT
    Being the one who always does the opposite of the crowd, I would want everyone to be the way I've always been - relaxed - wear whatever the hell you want. The wedding would be in the same space where I came out to my mom and dad when I was just starting 9th grade - the backyard of our house.

    After 13 years of looking for someone who I connect with, and coming up with nothing even close, I am beginning to think I will be one of those 60% of gay men who will never find a relationship much less get married. But if it were to happen, I am at a point where I am seeking total honesty. No bullshit. No 'what do you do?' questions after 3 minutes of initially meeting. No 'what's in it for me' attitude. So with that in mind, the relationship I want is going to have to be with a potential best friend, lover and sex partner. I've been great at having gay best friends who kiss once in a while. I've never been able to have both a sexual and emotional connection with anyone - I would love to experience that. Most of the time there is too much in common so sexually we both want the same thing - a guy who doesn't match either of our personalities!!

    So the wedding, if I were lucky enough to ever find someone like this, would be as lighthearted, fun and inclusive as possible. I am so tired of gay men and their "I'm somebody, you're nobody" bullshit whether it's at pride events or their dance clubs with their guest lists or 'A' lists or whatever - this wedding would represent the gay life that I wanted and for once I would have that at the most special day in my life. I want my parents to be there - without their support I probably wouldn't have lived through the last 15 years or so - and I want his family there also.
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    Mar 08, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    i would want something small and sweet for the ceremony with a kick-ass party afterwards! i would probably only invite a small group of friends that i know will last a lifetime.

    having frequented BBB for years, i would also be quite excited about creating an amazing registry! i just can't justify spending that kind of money on myself icon_sad.gif
  • Timbales

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    Mar 09, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    I don't know if I'd ever like to have a wedding at all.
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    Mar 09, 2009 11:46 AM GMT
    One thing I noticed about weddings is that most of the people attending are extremely uncomfortable. icon_razz.gif

    So um... if I ever get pregnant and have to marry icon_lol.gif, I'll choose a small ceremony... one that's over as quickly as possible!
  • irishboxers

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    Mar 09, 2009 11:53 AM GMT
    Simple, intimate, and comfortable. That's all I want. The rest is up to whoever I'm gettin' hitched to.