Modeling does it ruin a persons personality?

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    Mar 09, 2009 12:17 AM GMT
    So I have dated a Model before and met a bunch of his male model friends and most of them ended up having boring personalities or really bad ones... even the guy I dated. There were some that were really nice and cool but the majority of the ones I met made me want to avoid them all together.

    Has anyone modeled before? And am I off base here with the statement?

    Oh PS I already know about the dangers of generalizations, and the fact that it might piss people off. I know there are always different people in every walks of life. I just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced the same situation.
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    Mar 09, 2009 12:26 AM GMT
    I can imagine it's pretty difficult to work in an industry which is

    a) highly competitive
    b) based completely on what other people think of you

    and keep your head screwed on right.
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    Mar 09, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidI understand what you're saying. I dated a 'retired' model (he was only 28 and his modeling career was over!) and I was 26 at the time. He was no more of a jerk than most of the other men I've dated. Actually, he was such a player and a bullshitter. I can't say that all models are like this but I do get the impression that most models harness their false sense of confidence from their looks (former person I dated INCLUDED).

    As their looks fade they grow insecure. Just my personal observation.


    Yeah I had a similar experience
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    Mar 09, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    usually models's locus of identity is exterior and that can be frustrating icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 09, 2009 1:01 AM GMT
    charlitos saidusually models's locus of identity is exterior and that can be frustrating icon_neutral.gif


    Its almost gotten to the point to when I see professional modeling photos on a profile I'm like.... ... nah. Doesn't even matter how hot he is lol
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    Mar 09, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    i don't think being a model has anything to do with it. these boring guys just happen to be models. they could very easily have been boring teachers, boring garbage workers or boring scientists. a couple of the models i know are some of the funniest, crazy, trouble-making clowns i know.
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    Mar 09, 2009 1:08 AM GMT
    I'm a little turned off when I see only professional photos on a guy's profile. I want to see some candid pics.. without the hair, make-up, lighting, and photoshop. icon_lol.gif

    But seriously, I think models and actors can be placed in the same category. Pretty boring in real life. I know, another generalization. Sorry.
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    Mar 09, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    done it a few times for fun as i have a couple friends in fashion design/merchandising/marketing etc. I noticed the girls are extremely competitive with eachother OVER EVERYTHING, lol, it's fun to watch. The guys are basically too concerned with how they look to even converse with anyone else - thus where their lack of personality must stem from.
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    Mar 09, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    I don't know. I've always been kind of a dick. A few photographs and print ads later, I felt pretty much the same... icon_confused.gif
  • gymhead_anony...

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    Mar 09, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    i have a model friend who i get curious vibes from can't tell if he's gay or str8...anyhoo his personality seems like he's wrapped up in his looks. but he has some good qualities im guessing.
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    Mar 09, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    I've dated three and found each of them to be intelligent and tolerable. But, relationship-wise two were a mess. The third I'm still figuring out...
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    Mar 09, 2009 4:51 AM GMT
    akaOpus saidI don't know. I've always been kind of a dick...
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    Mar 09, 2009 8:33 AM GMT
    Of course it doesn't apply to all, but since we're in a generalizing mode here... I think it's not the modeling that changes these people, but that it's certain types of personae who are attracted to this business.
    Often it's the same type of people who wants to participate in various reality tv shows.
    I have to confess I'm a bit prejudiced when it comes to these people (especially the reality tv people). I don't think I'd have much in common with them, so I'm generally not interested in knowing any of them.

    (again, I'm generalizing... I'm aware they're not all horribly superficial, materialistic, attention craving people. I pretty sure as much as 10 percent are perfectly normal)
  • GQjock

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    Mar 09, 2009 9:59 AM GMT
    It tends to blunt your personality
    When all you do all day is search for validation about your looks
    that Can get in the way if things like
    Intellectual pursuits
    Everyday conversation
    and true intimacy
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    Mar 09, 2009 10:06 AM GMT
    GQjock saidIt tends to blunt your personality
    When all you do all day is search for validation about your looks
    that Can get in the way if things like
    Intellectual pursuits
    Everyday conversation
    and true intimacy


    agreed

    Went on a date with a model once. He wanted to show me his portfolio so I agreed, he had perfect abs,smile and a great head of hair and that was about it. The rest of the night he just talked about his physical attributes. Too bad, and all the while he spoke I could hear the insecurity about aging and he was only 27.icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 09, 2009 11:26 AM GMT
    judoguy saidOf course it doesn't apply to all, but since we're in a generalizing mode here... I think it's not the modeling that changes these people, but that it's certain types of personae who are attracted to this business.
    Often it's the same type of people who wants to participate in various reality tv shows.
    I have to confess I'm a bit prejudiced when it comes to these people (especially the reality tv people). I don't think I'd have much in common with them, so I'm generally not interested in knowing any of them.

    (again, I'm generalizing... I'm aware they're not all horribly superficial, materialistic, attention craving people. I pretty sure as much as 10 percent are perfectly normal)


    that can be actually right...how would you feel as a model if everyone around you is just pointing at your physical attributes and complimenting them all the time, and making sure you continue looking that great. Finally you realize you'll be loved in that job as long as your looks remain "desirable".

    Modeling is the kind of job where everything is about your body, and when you do that for a living it wouldn't be surprising that you start to focus on physical qualities about yourself rather than your mental qualities.
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 10, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    It's hard living in the real world when everyone around you finds you beautiful,
    [on the outside]..All this can easily go to your head,,leaving one never really having to think much because all everyone wants to do is talk about how good you look anyway...So, one's mind tends to go blank because you already know where the conversation is going..
    Dont hate me because i'm beautiful.....lol
  • NyRuinz

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    Feb 22, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    I work in that industry and trust me being a model is not easy at all, in the fashion circle models are treated fairly well based on their appearance, but in the real world they tend to be alienated and treated poorly by people who are not in that industry. I have a friend who was punched in the face by some random guy on the way to a casting, being a model can definitely cause one to have some issues.
  • DrewbieDoo

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    Feb 22, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    I have not been able to score a model, but that's not shocking...
    Id like to think some models can keep it real, but being told all day that you're too this or too that will probably go to your head in a good or bad way. It's hard to keep work separate
  • bburg34

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    Feb 22, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    depends on the person. i know models who fit the dumb/mean stereotype. but then my friend thomas is smart, and kind, and interesting...and has done two versace campaigns. he's probably immune to being a shithead because he's canadian eh?
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    Feb 22, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    I've known a few models. One is totally straight and still one of my good friends even after marrying and moving far away.
    The other is an a friend who also happens to be my massage therapist. He has never let modeling go to his head, and I don't think he ever will. He's too down-to-earth and too much common sense about him.


    PS: He can be viewed in my profile under "videos". ..."Hot Men of 2008, Ripped Genes Calender"icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 22, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    I would think it would ONLY IF YOU LET IT.
    Isn't your personality and attitude something each of us has control over?
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    Feb 22, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    bburg34 said" he's probably immune to being a shithead because he's canadian eh?"


    I like this. I think I should move to Canada. Maybe it will calm me. hahahaha!!!
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    Feb 22, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    I think there is some selection bias. Once upon a time my beau of the moment decided to model earnestly. He was an incredibly sweet and beautiful man. He would, on occasion, try to get me to go take photos, and I had to tell him, "I love you for suggesting it, but your field is about what other people find beautiful, not what you find beautiful." I think in general people who have a driving passion for some field or area of study, who most would consider to be very interesting and engaging people, don't model because they have other foci. In other words, we tend to find those who pursue what they find beautiful to be more interesting than those who pursue what others find beautiful.

    That being said, I look back and deeply regret not continuing to date him. He really thought I was the cat's pajamas for some reason.
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    Feb 22, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    Worse than modelling is security guard who obviously spent years in jail perfecting his physique and has elevated his low level job into the realm of doofus god. Talk about ruined personalities!