Gay guys don't want kids??

  • EricPrado

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    Mar 10, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    Is it just me or do gay guys seem to really despise little kids? Wherever I go it looks like children and gay men just don't mix. I probably wouldn't want any kids anytime soon...heck, not even in ten years. But I mean, I would want a kid someday you know? isn't that how it's supposed to go?

    Today for example, I babysat my nephew for a few hrs and my friend who was with me, did nothing but complain the whole time. Kids are too much hard work, annoying, they get sick all the time...blah blah blah. It's not just him though. All my gay friends don't want kids. Maybe it's because they're still young? (we're all in our 20's)

    It's just hard to understand because everyone wants gay marriage to be legalized but then when the topic of kids comes along they just back away. I thought the whole point of getting married was to start a family? What's your view on all of this, do you have kids of your own? Maybe you think kids are a bad idea?

    I have my day off today and I'm bored icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 10, 2009 7:30 PM GMT
    EricPrado said But I mean, I would want a kid someday you know? isn't that how it's supposed to go?
    All my gay friends don't want kids. It's just hard to understand because everyone wants gay marriage to be legalized but then when the topic of kids comes along they just back away. I thought the whole point of getting married was to start a family? What's your view on all of this, do you have kids of your own? Maybe you think kids are a bad idea?

    I have my day off today and I'm bored icon_biggrin.gif


    Well it´s supposed to go that we get married to a pretty little lady and have kids, live in a house with a white picket fence and coach football and baseball with the boys, while our wife and daughters make cookies and do kneedlepoint. Then weekends we walk the dogs and tailgate before the game. On sunday go to church (it´s good for business and the wife likes the kids to grow up that way) and go out for lunch and eat southern BBQ.

    The idea behind gay marriage is not to pretend that we´re part of the hetro stereotype, but to get equal recognition in law. That *may* mean that people want to adopt, be parents etc, but may not. I don´t want kids, but I do want the possibility to visit a significant other if he´s in a car accident and have our relationship on the same footing as the guy with the white picket fence. Equality, not "copy".
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    Mar 10, 2009 7:32 PM GMT
    I want kids eventually.
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    Mar 10, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
    It is just you, I know of many gay guys that not only want kids, but have them. I know of one couple that have four kids.
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    Mar 10, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
    Most gay men are afraid of work and commitment in relationships and life in general. So it would only make sense that commitment to a kid and the work with one would not be wanted.

    I want kids, love them.
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    Mar 10, 2009 7:58 PM GMT
    Children are fanged imps cloaked in flesh coats, sent from Hell to put misery and displeasure upon the human race.

    But there is a part of me that wants a son, I'd name him Brandon and he'd look just like me...and I'd spoil him rotten.
  • mcwclewis

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    Mar 10, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    I love little kids. I definately plan on having some, once I get my life together, of course.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    Is it just me or do gay men assume too much about other gay men?
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    EW kids.






    nuff' said.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:04 PM GMT
    As the oldest of 5 kids, I have paid my dues and have no desire to have kids. Y'all can pick up my slack.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:05 PM GMT
    I want A kid. Just one. There are so many children who need to be adopted, and I think gay people are the right ones to do so.

    I want to adopt one, a boy. And I'll take him to baseball games, sign him up for peewee football, and once he's old enough, let him make decisions. I really want to see as a kid and teenager what kinds of things he really becomes passionate about, be it art, sports, theater, or whatever. I'll totally cheer him on in whatever he does.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
    Cowboiway saidMost gay men are afraid of work and commitment in relationships and life in general. So it would only make sense that commitment to a kid and the work with one would not be wanted.

    I want kids, love them.


    I don't necessarily disagree with most of your statement, except for the inclusion of the word gay. From what I have seen, many men are afraid of work and commitment in relationships (and many women would probably agree with me).
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:10 PM GMT
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    Cowboiway saidMost gay men are afraid of work and commitment in relationships and life in general. So it would only make sense that commitment to a kid and the work with one would not be wanted.

    I want kids, love them.


    I don't necessarily disagree with most of your statement, except for the inclusion of the word gay. From what I have seen, many men are afraid of work and commitment in relationships (and many women would probably agree with me).


    Yes but the questions asked by the OP was specifc about gay men. I stayed to the subject of the questions
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:13 PM GMT
    Oh no I completely disagree, I love kids! However, what I hate are the people who let their kids run around in public like yard apes while yelling at their little tax write offs to behave, be quiet, or stand still, i mean, seriously, they have leashes for those things you know?

    But yes eventually I would like to adopt, I mean, Angelina can't adopt em all.
  • AF_Jock

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    Mar 10, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
    Yes, I have 2 children from when I was married. She passed away. They are the most important people in my life.

    However, there are a number of straight people who don't want kids either. The ratio is not as high as it is with people with our lifestyles, but lifestyle does have an influence on your choice to have children or take on that type of responsibility....but I shouldn't speak for other peoples' opinions.

    To be gay and want to have children is a huge decision. There's a lot involved with adoption. Not the time or expense...YOU have to have your shit together mentally, fiscally, and environmentally. If you ever decide to do it, make sure your relationship can handle it. If not, the children will suffer.
  • ArmsandLegs

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    Mar 10, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    I used to hate kids. I wanted nothing to do with them. But then all of a sudden, about a year ago it was like a switch was flipped and now I eventually want a kid once I get my life more situated. I don't know if it is me growing up and maturing more, or if it is seeing my straight friends with their kids and witnessing what a pleasure they are or what. All I know now is that my mom is super excited that she won't have to soley rely on my brother for grandkids.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    No McGay is not just you I ASSUME they thing that you do. You are just tooo funny!
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:27 PM GMT
    I broke up with someone because he did not want kids and I wanted two.
    we had my sisters kids one weekend. He totally freak out would not talk would not inner act and they were like 4 and 6 at the time. Thank god I did not bring the newborn. He admitted that he just hates kids.

    I can't understand how someone to say that they hate children. Gay or straight. It's not thing to say that I can't relate due to limited exposure.
    I made it very clear that I want children not a child but children.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    I cant wait to have kids.. I look forward to starting a family w the love of my life..

    PS.. Still looking for the love of my life icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    I am a pure homosexual.

    I have worked with young children in the past and loved it, and have fond memories of interaction with young children. As I am a qualified youth and child worker.

    But being a pure homosexual, the fact is, we are not breeders. Bi men are, as they are willing to do what I am not. But as a pure homosexual, we just don't breed, no matter how hard we try.

    Also being middle aged and the fact I do get on well with children. I'm weary, in case some-one interprets that as homosexual = pedophile.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:48 PM GMT
    I am 19
    that decision can wait.
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    Mar 10, 2009 8:56 PM GMT
    As i've said on past threads.. I do want kids yes (3 boys, have them named and all), but lately i've been second guessing my 'plans' so who knows..

    Depends on a lot of things. But i'd say about half of my gay friends want kids, and the other half could careless/have yet to think about it/or are opposed to the idea.
  • nv7_

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    Mar 10, 2009 9:01 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    EricPrado said But I mean, I would want a kid someday you know? isn't that how it's supposed to go?
    All my gay friends don't want kids. It's just hard to understand because everyone wants gay marriage to be legalized but then when the topic of kids comes along they just back away. I thought the whole point of getting married was to start a family? What's your view on all of this, do you have kids of your own? Maybe you think kids are a bad idea?

    I have my day off today and I'm bored icon_biggrin.gif


    Well it´s supposed to go that we get married to a pretty little lady and have kids, live in a house with a white picket fence and coach football and baseball with the boys, while our wife and daughters make cookies and do kneedlepoint. Then weekends we walk the dogs and tailgate before the game. On sunday go to church (it´s good for business and the wife likes the kids to grow up that way) and go out for lunch and eat southern BBQ.

    The idea behind gay marriage is not to pretend that we´re part of the hetro stereotype, but to get equal recognition in law. That *may* mean that people want to adopt, be parents etc, but may not. I don´t want kids, but I do want the possibility to visit a significant other if he´s in a car accident and have our relationship on the same footing as the guy with the white picket fence. Equality, not "copy".


    ...and this is why I love lostboy.

    Oh and about the whole "gay commitment thing". The divorce rate is what, 50% in the US? That would lead me to believe that the heteros aren't loving commitment either. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • reload16

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    Mar 10, 2009 9:14 PM GMT
    I think you really have to get your shit together before thinking of having kids. That goes for straight, bi and gay people.

    Like others mentioned earlier. Its already hard enough being gay in this world, but to add kids on top of that is alot of responsibility. So have your shit together!! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 10, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    EricPrado saidIs it just me or do gay guys seem to really despise little kids? Wherever I go it looks like children and gay men just don't mix. I probably wouldn't want any kids anytime soon...heck, not even in ten years. But I mean, I would want a kid someday you know? isn't that how it's supposed to go?

    Today for example, I babysat my nephew for a few hrs and my friend who was with me, did nothing but complain the whole time. Kids are too much hard work, annoying, they get sick all the time...blah blah blah. It's not just him though. All my gay friends don't want kids. Maybe it's because they're still young? (we're all in our 20's)

    It's just hard to understand because everyone wants gay marriage to be legalized but then when the topic of kids comes along they just back away. I thought the whole point of getting married was to start a family? What's your view on all of this, do you have kids of your own? Maybe you think kids are a bad idea?

    I have my day off today and I'm bored icon_biggrin.gif


    I would love to have kids if the situ presented itself. Would have to find the right man first for this though