What's for 21 yo lad?

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    Oct 17, 2007 11:12 AM GMT
    Hi everyone, im a bit confused about my life these days, just turn to 21 after broke up with my bf, and i dont know what i want from my life ( only the gay part, i mean i still get on well with my uni life ).

    Do i need to work my ass out in the gym to get a better body for the future? or do i need to find another Love? or do i just have some random play and enjoy my young life?.......

    anyone could give me some advices.... how to be a 21yrs boy?man?lad????

    Many thanks
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    Oct 17, 2007 12:52 PM GMT
    I would say just focus on yourself right now. Let yourself heal from the brake-up. Do things you like to do. Focus on school and your career. If something happens with another person do it if you want but, don't focus on it. Good luck.
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    Oct 17, 2007 4:26 PM GMT
    If, at 21 years old, you're asking a bunch of strangers what you should do with your life, you need more help than any of those strangers can offer you.
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    Oct 17, 2007 4:31 PM GMT
    I dunno, McGay. That sounds a bit myopic. For all we know he's also asking relatives, friends, etc.. There's no harm in seeking the additional input of a bunch of fairly upstanding healthy gay guys. As long as he puts only as much stock in our thoughts as deserved, rather than solely relying on us to help him steer his fate, then why not have the additional perspective?
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    Oct 17, 2007 4:34 PM GMT
    Fair enough. I'll retreat to the mezzanine for this one.
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    Oct 17, 2007 4:48 PM GMT
    I wouldn't go that far. Isn't there a funny clever pic in order for this thread as well? C'mon man you can do it. :-)
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    Oct 17, 2007 4:54 PM GMT
    Now look what you made me do!
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    Oct 17, 2007 6:30 PM GMT
    I'm slightly confused. You're kind of asking if you should work out, seek love, or sleep around.

    And my question is what the hell are we suppose to tell you? Its your life and lets just face it, you already know what you crave out of it.

    There is no right or wrong answer. do what you feel you must do in order to be happy. I don't know anything about you, as vague as this all is thats all that I can say without guessing about your character and life situation.

    There is no correct way to be a 21 year old. Some get crazy and become alcoholics, others become even more obsessed with school. Some run off to seek spiritual enlightenment. There is no specific way to be a 21.

    Being you is how you be a 21 year old ok? So don't focus on the movies or tv shows or magazines or even people that you know. Just focus on you and who you are.

    As I've often said puberty, despite all the awkwarness, is easy as hell. You can go pick up a manual on pubic hair and ejaculation and crackling voices, but no one can truly tell you how to become a man. Thats up to you and you'll be much happier figuring it out for yourself.
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    Oct 17, 2007 8:40 PM GMT
    Sirkyous:

    Totally agree wiv youicon_exclaim.gif
  • Timbales

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    Oct 19, 2007 1:32 AM GMT
    Spend some time just being you.
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    Oct 19, 2007 12:04 PM GMT
    agree with those above

    oh I am 20 and i surely know what i should do
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    Oct 23, 2007 4:30 AM GMT
    That's easy for you to say now, a14168, but just wait until next year... (:

    Other than that, what Sirkyous said. And don't make it an exclusive "or" statement. You can, for example, both work-out at the gym AND date.
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    Nov 25, 2007 10:32 PM GMT
    Some guys do all 3.
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    Nov 26, 2007 12:03 AM GMT
    Hello, i have to say since your life is just starting to be made. No longer parents telling you what to do. EXPERIMENT. If you choise the wrong this, try over agian. It is all what you prefer, some lives are their jobs, other strong partnership and other like one night stands. You choise, your life.
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    Nov 26, 2007 1:41 AM GMT
    Having been on the "planet" for half a century (+), here's a few simple rules to follow that will make life at 21 through 101 successfull and fulfilling. #1, Like and love yourself, others will return it back to you. #2, Each day has its challenges both liked and disliked, find something to like about or enjoy in everyone of those events or occurrances that come at you. #3, Look for opportunities to treat well those you come in contact with each day, no matter how small the good deed, you'll like yourself better for it, and so will those around you. #4, Never "settle" for a person to be your dating partner unless your heart is in it, and when they come into a crowded room your proud of them. #5, never allow anyone to put you down, if they do, write them off your list of friends. (remember, you like yourself to well to put up with put downs) #6, Find a course of study while in college that you passionately like, then with that training, (College degree) only take work that you like to do, and you'll never "WORK" another day in your life, because if your work is your passion, it is play to you !!! #7, in your dealings with people, as you go through life, avoid "burning bridges" because 90 percent of the time you only hurt yourself in the long run, because you'll probably face them or someone who knows them in the future.#8, Face what life brings your way remembering that there's something to be learned from every occurence in life, and-THIS TOO SHALL PASS !!!! I wish you the best that life can bring !!!!!
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    Mar 02, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    Think of it this way: you don't need another person to make you whole. In fact, that's a serious sign of mental illness if you're constantly jumping from guy to guy.

    Just live, have some fun every now and then, because, let's face it, you still need to be able to get an education and pay the bills before you can date icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 02, 2008 12:25 PM GMT
    Aww...
    21 just broke up with a boyfriend
    I know it seems tough
    but just do what you like doin....
    whatever that is
    do you want to hit the gym?
    Yeah sure - work out like a madman
    you wanna check out the guys?
    go head...just be careful
    it might seem a bit empty after being in love
    just be aware that this guy won't be the last
    and that years are gonna bring some really high points and some low ones too
  • justin520

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    Mar 08, 2008 9:56 AM GMT
    21 broke up with your bf?
    Okey,you are so lucky,at lest better than me.
    i'm 21 too,from now,i have no meet a good person.
    PS:you should find another one you really worth loving.
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    Mar 08, 2008 10:52 AM GMT
    You are 21 and still young. You have the world at your feet so get to steppin'. LOL.

    You being gay is a big part of your life so it's gonna play a major part in alot of your decisions. Having a nicer body is a good thing and searching for someone else is nice too. Just make sure you are doing these things for you. Always make sure you make time for yourself and have some fun.
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    Mar 08, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    nathan1987 saidHi everyone, im a bit confused about my life these days, just turn to 21 after broke up with my bf, and i dont know what i want from my life ( only the gay part, i mean i still get on well with my uni life ).

    Do i need to work my ass out in the gym to get a better body for the future? or do i need to find another Love? or do i just have some random play and enjoy my young life?.......

    anyone could give me some advices.... how to be a 21yrs boy?man?lad????

    Many thanks
    Work on yourself for a while and I always recommend that you workout and eat well.
    Make working out and eating well your addiction, I have been doing that from 14 to 41 and have no regrets.

    Have you decided on your body type, what kind of body you would like?
    Start there and go for it.

    Love will come to you, and you will know when it does. Good luck and have fun. Peace.
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    Feb 14, 2010 1:15 PM GMT
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    justin520 said21 broke up with your bf?
    Okey,you are so lucky,at lest better than me.
    i'm 21 too,from now,i have no meet a good person.
    PS:you should find another one you really worth loving.
  • jrs1

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidSpend some time just being you.

    and SLAM.
  • victor8

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    Feb 14, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    work out and be active...because you like to. study or become involved in a careen or cause because it interests you or because you have passion...those thing will make your life full!