nysexy saidi went once...its like this evil parallel universe...like a bizzaro RJ world where people talk dirty, have meaningless pointless conversations and want to hook up. I decided it wasn't for me.
I'm not convinced you're talking about the RJ chat room... at all.
I get on during the day in my down time at work. It's a lot of fun. It's usually the same bunch of RJers, and they're really great guys. I have chatted and continue to chat with a lot of really interesting, educated people in the RJ chat room.
Also, no one talks about "hooking up" - this is simply not true of the chat room on this site. In fact, most of the people in the chat room live in different states/countries, so hooking up is not really feasible. With 20 people in the room on average, what do you honestly
think the odds are of finding someone in your same city??
Occasionally some loser will enter the room and spew comments like "EMAIL ME AT XXXBOY@HOTMAIL.COM IF YOU WANNA CAM," but that is rare
and happens in every chat room. And if you use the block feature that RJ has so conveniently supplied us with, you won't have a problem.
We talk about lots of things... music, culture, art, politics, but we are also gay men, and we talk about issues that relate to gay men, including sex. If you haven't really given it a chance, then it's hard to judge. Even red_vespa, who is an avid forum poster, as recently said that he's enjoying the chat room. So, check it out if you have a chance. You might be pleasantly surprised.