This kinda ticked me...

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    Mar 14, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
    I saw this leader for a video on MSNBC online: "Retiree who lost his wife to cancer honors her memory by driving chemotherapy patients to their treatments." Beautiful & noble story, but then I thought, would they do such a piece if it had a gay and AIDS slant?

    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/29623341#29623341

    (Couldn't get the CNBC embed to work)

    My partner & I are both AIDS "widowers" and spend most of our free time working with the HIV community. He works part time with an HIV non-profit, and I volunteer there, too, plus we both are major financial contributors to several HIV charities.

    And yet our modest efforts pale in comparison to others. I know, because one of the things I do is maintain the computerized records of one of those HIV non-profits. So that I see what others in our gay community contribute, in cash, gifts & services (which is strictly confidential and I can't be specific), and it is very, very impressive.

    And in Seattle I knew a gay guy, seriously ill with AIDS himself, whose old car I kept running so he could do the very same thing the widower in the MSNBC cancer story does, except for AIDS sufferers. But don't expect to ever see his story featured, either.

    And so someday I'd like to see an MSNBC feature about surviving partners who lost their lovers to AIDS, who have dedicated themselves in memory of their departed partners, to helping others with this terrible illness. I see them myself every day, and I wish the rest of the US could see them, too, and understand the depth of love & devotion between gay men & lesbian women.
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    Mar 14, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    I know how you feel. I am sick of hearing about Africa and other parts of the world needing help due to aids when people here in America have trouble getting or losing funds for their medications. It's like they think as long as it is over there then it is okay to talk about.
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    Mar 14, 2009 4:55 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said... someday I'd like to see an MSNBC feature about surviving partners who lost their lovers to AIDS,


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    Mar 14, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    growingbig saidI know how you feel. I am sick of hearing about Africa and other parts of the world needing help due to aids when people here in America have trouble getting or losing funds for their medications. It's like they think as long as it is over there then it is okay to talk about.



    sometimes i think the reason why people say they donate to the AIDS in Africa and what not its because if you say AID in America ppl assume its gays and dont want to help, but in Africa they know a big group of the population has it. It's kind of offensive i wish they would just stop saying "in Africa" and why dont we just try to stop AIDS in general. Even though were homosexuals were someones brother, cousin, friend, Father, uncle, lover.
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    Mar 14, 2009 5:14 PM GMT
    I feel the same way... but I think it has to do with people thinking that it is our own fault now. Back in the 80's no one really knew what to do or much about it. They feel now with all that you know about the disease and all the precautions, and a person till gets it they probably have the sense of " you did it to yourself". However, in contrast to Africa they are a poor third world country who doesn't know any better... a double standard but they know just as much as people in America do.

    With most cancers its hard to say how they got it. I bet if in the future they could pin down exactly what caused your cancer ex: they could say it was from your smoking, cell phones, those foods, your weight, and so forth the poor cancer victim stories would go away because they would say you knew that for sure what you were doing "Smoking, cell phone" was giving you cancer but you didn't stop. Then it would be "their fault too".... you get what I mean.

    I am in no way agreeing with it but I think that might be the feeling
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    Mar 14, 2009 5:23 PM GMT
    Caslon9000 said
    Red_Vespa said... someday I'd like to see an MSNBC feature about surviving partners who lost their lovers to AIDS,


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    I hope you know how fruitless that would be. NBC, owned by General Electric, both required to toe the safe corporate line, more than ever today in these economic hard times. Do a gay-friendly feature and risk the displeasure of fanatical Christian fundamentalists, Conservatives & Republicans? I doubt it.