Jealousy... What Trips It For You??

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 18, 2007 11:00 PM GMT
    Lets all face it, we all get a little jealous at some point in time, maybe even to the point of resentment.
    Most balanced people recognize it and can deal with it, some even lightheartedly.
    What makes you jealous? Is it a guy who seems to have it all together, job, home, maybe a partner. Is it more specific, like the guy in the gym who (in your perception) is a step up from you? Is it that person (male or female) that has talents beyond what you perceive yourself to have? What?


    ....AND how do you deal with it?
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    Oct 19, 2007 3:21 AM GMT
    It takes a lot for me to get jealous. I would only care if I saw some kind of true passion for someone but me.
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    Oct 19, 2007 7:01 AM GMT
    I do get the feeling of jealousy when i am with my friends who have been with there partner formore than a year. lol. then again i'm still a baby.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 19, 2007 3:43 PM GMT
    Mostly when i see people who are successful for absolutly no reason and i am busting my ass trying to get ahead.
    read: Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, Kimberly Stewart, the trust fund babies i know, half rate dancers and choreographers like Mia Michaels.

    I guess i get jealous that i am never in that "right place at the right time."
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    Oct 19, 2007 7:32 PM GMT
    I have absolutely been jealous who has not?
    Be it a guy who has a more muscular body or who got a the lead in a show that I was up for the part in. Whatever I'm human.

    But I have always put it in perspective. The moment passes very quickly.

    I am not jealous when it comes to boyfriends or lovers because if other men and women see bf as being hot they are going to look. There is no harm in that.

    When I had a boyfriend when he saw guy that he thought was hot a momentary glance and a quick comment was harmless. He is not dead, just in a relationship. Now if he had "the deer in the head lights" look going on now that's another issue and just rude!
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    Oct 19, 2007 7:35 PM GMT
    I believe that jealousy can be quite the motivator.
    What makes me jealous though? I really can't say. I really don't get jealous too often anymore to be honest, but I think its because I've been working so hard to be the me that I want to be.

    I mean I use to get pissed off by people with jobs, I went out and got that.

    I use to get jealous of people with degrees, I'm pursuing that.

    I use to get jealous of people in super commited relationships, don't have it but I know I will someday.

    I use to get jealous of those brainy people out making a difference in the world, I volunteer now during my free time.

    There are things within people that I crave for myself, but it no longer makes me jealous. I find it inspirational when going out to procure the same. they are simply examples of what I want out of life.

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 19, 2007 8:25 PM GMT
    The only thing that used to make me jealous is when my partner is off having fun with his friends, but I have learned to deal with that.

    Mike
  • Csrobbie2000

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    Oct 19, 2007 9:52 PM GMT
    I think there is a difference between jealousy and envy. I rarely get jealous, but I sometimes envy people with great talents, drive to success, etc. With jealousy, usually one is being threatened by a rival. On the other hand, envy is more like a desire to have something that one lacks of.
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    Oct 20, 2007 12:48 AM GMT
    Envy/jealousy can be a good thing, if you acknowledge the object of admiration and strive towards obtaining it. For example, I can envy a person's charisma and strive towards creating a charisma for myself. But there are certain things that can't be obtained, and that "forbidden fruit" is what trips it for me.

    My jealousy of others usually arises in moments of low self-esteem when I feel like I'll never have what "that person has" i.e. a boyfriend, a gorgeous body, gorgeous looks, a talent, some material thing, etc. I'll usually mope and introspect about things until my self-esteem turns around and I realize I'm fine just the way I am.
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    Oct 22, 2007 8:07 PM GMT
    only bitches get jealous
    yall a bunch of bitches or sumthin?
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    Oct 23, 2007 11:50 PM GMT
    When it comes to tallent.. I get jelous of others easily. Especially in a classroom, or gym, where it's easy to consider things a competition.

    When it comes to relationships.. I get jelous when I see my partner eyeing somebody else, or even just when they don't eye me enough. It's feeling unwanted that brings on the jelousy.

    I like to deal with it by doing something nice for them... getting their attention and making them go.. "oh yeah.. there's a reson I love this guy".

    Jelousy may not be a very mature emotion sometimes.. but I try to deal with it as mature as i can.
  • liftordie

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    Oct 24, 2007 12:04 AM GMT
    str8hardbody...if you are looking for a bf i am ready willing and able to fill the position!!!!!!!!! =)
  • Squarejaw

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    Oct 24, 2007 12:10 AM GMT
    When two hot guys each reject me and then hook up with each other, all on the same night? That burns a little.
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    Oct 24, 2007 12:13 AM GMT
    "People who don't trust others are often untrustworthy." So look within yourself to see why you may be jelous and work on it. If your better half does things to make you jelous or pissed you off then you have the wrong guy.
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    Oct 24, 2007 12:13 AM GMT
    Two hot guys could reject you in one night? Where do you socialize? At a modelling agency?

    BTW, you're much hotter with the short hair. Keep it, if you want my advice.
  • liftordie

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    Oct 24, 2007 12:15 AM GMT
    well squarejaw it is THEIR LOSS!! they must be pretty albeit stupid!!
  • Squarejaw

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    Oct 24, 2007 1:12 AM GMT
    LOL, thanks guys. But it's tough in LA. And I'm a little weird. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 24, 2007 1:29 AM GMT
    When I was a kid in HS and College I used to envy the kids who had money. Money for new cars, Money for nice clothes, money for trips and vacations, money to party.

    I had to choose the kind of Ramen I bought if I wanted to save up enough nickles for a beer once a week. Kraft Macaroni and Cheese was the gourmet aisle for me.

    Living well is the best revenge.

    I recently (this past summer) received a Resume that HR flagged to me personally since the sender had addressed a cover letter to me because we knew each other back in college.

    Back then the guy was a total prick who really screwed me over one time; he ran with a clique of kids who thought they were better than everyone else. His parents had (what I then thought was) a lot of money, and he definately flaunted it. Or so I thought at the time.

    We met briefly for a quick lunch and a handoff to HR.

    After a short time I realised that none of it affected me any more. Times moved on, Life happened.

    I had just come so far - I was such a different person - it was now impossible to even hold a slight grudge.

    I have a great partner, I have people that love me, I am healthy, I live well, I am more than content - I am happy. Something that happened 25+ years ago just didn't matter as much as I thought.

    Live well.

  • liftordie

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    Oct 24, 2007 1:36 AM GMT
    LOL i like weird. and i understand the LA thing. my ex used to live in weho and he hated dating there. he always would say u would meet a guy on weds make plans for fri and thurs they would cancel because they met someone else who drove a better car, has broader shoulders, whiter teeth, etc. i would seriously have to shoot somebody!! lol
  • Timbales

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    Oct 24, 2007 1:49 AM GMT
    I get a bit jealous about the type of guy my bf is attracted to visually, because it's nothing like me and nothing I can ever achieve.