Top and Bottom... please don't kill me for having another one of these topics.

  • tbeaux

    Posts: 419

    Mar 16, 2009 2:25 AM GMT
    As the headline said don't kill me for this. I searched through these topics and they are there, but none of them really had the question that I had in mind. They either were articles about the psychology or physiological things about being a top or bottom, but nothing like my question..I don't think.I could have just changed the question, but i just found it easier to just make this new topic.

    I call this my time of the month kind of deal, because I go for weeks straight thinking about sex non stop, my teenage hormones are alive and kicking. So I have been wondering about you all... what makes you like being whichever role you are? and when I say role, I just mean top or bottom, it doesn't have to be a dom/sub daddy/son type deal.. it can be, but doesn't have to be.

    So I guess what I am really asking is why do you like it? I understand obviously the physiological things behind why liking it, but on a deeper level, why do you like it? What does it mean to you?


    I am a bottom, I am a catcher I am going to use that terminology instead of a bottom. I personally like it because of the whole I like being taken care of, like without me, this guy does not get any of his pleasure, and I like the feeling of that I am doing what I can to make him feel amazing. Then obviously the part about being intimately connected, takes a lot of trust for someone to let them be "in" you, so just the whole mental connection.
    On the other hand, when I am a bit friskier, I like to take control (still play the catcher), but I like to be on top, to where he's lying on his back enjoying everything that's going on, making him melt.

    But yeah, so that's my whole thing, now what about you? Again the question is why do you like it, and what does it mean to you? DO NOT PUT THE PHYSIOLOGICAL REASONS, we already know them. And don't put a general Psychological reason, make this response a bit more personal.


    hope to hear some interesting ones...
  • Nayro

    Posts: 1825

    Mar 16, 2009 9:47 PM GMT
    I have exactly the same reason for being bottom :O
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    Mar 16, 2009 10:03 PM GMT

    But everything you mentioned was psychological ...good question, let me think ..

    I like being top because I like giving love. Hugging, supporting someone and give all what I can to make him happier, somehow I feel that it gives me the lead in relationship and in bed, and psychologically I trust only myself in this, cuz I know that I'll be willing to give 200% of myself to make it the best.

    Sexually ... hmmm... I like the feeling of being in control and give someone pleasure. The feeling, as said above, of being trusted..
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    Mar 16, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    I'm not exactly sure what you are looking for, but I'll take a stab at it. Overall I'm vers. Yup that already causes some problems since I really like it both ways, but if I really, really had to pick one I'd say bottom, but I don't think I'd be satisfied long term with that. I have a cock and I need to use it.

    Let me start off by saying that I've only been with one guy so take that into consideration. As for your questions, let me state what makes me want to bottom, when I want to. I like the vulnerability and it turns me on a bit. Hockey has always been a big part of my life and a significant part of the game is physically dominating your opposition. So bottoming was sort of a rest from that. Giving up control for once. I enjoy letting a man dominate me. Note that I don't mean he a a license to abuse me, just dominate me, and letting him enjoy fucking a tough strong man. I totally understand when you talk about trust and that is part of it too. I thoughly enjoyed putting my legs in the air inviting him in as he'd climb on the bed and then ontop of me. Knowing that he is totally enjoying himself fucking me is a critcal part of it, much like you said. But I also love having him see me get hard from it. Seeing it stroke his ego is important. The connection between us, him knowing that I trust him not to hurt me (much at least LOL). Seeing, and hearing him enjoy it is huge. For me it really isn't about anal stimulation as it is the act of being fucked by another man that gets me going.