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I think alot of guys are not attracting what there looking for when there profile comes across as very demanding, cookie cutter, or alot of bragging.

I came across this one recently. A very demanding profile

TURN OFFS:

Over 25
Bitchy
Prideful
Judgmental
Revengeful
Vain
Socialite
Drunk
Femmy
Drugs
Drag
Weird Sex
Unemployed (unless you have a good reason)


TURN ONS:

Under 25
Physically Fit
Sexually Versatile
ESFP or ESTP (If you don't know what that means, look it up)


I'm like omg your scaring people off with this profile. He turned out to be a really cool guy but this profile needs alot of work.


What type of profiles rub you the wrong way?

I'm just going to copy/paste my reply from a similar thread..

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Examples of ick I've seen here and other sites..

- Guys looking for other guys with a specific list of traits. Followed by, "Please don't contact me if you don't fit this criteria".

- Guys that state they won't respond to headless profiles, yet all their public photos are headless.

- Numerous pics of themselves shit faced at circuit parties.

- The MySpace pose.

- Baseball cap tilted to the side or crooked. Double ick if the guy is over 25.

- All professional photos and no candid ones.

- "No [insert race/ethnicity or body type here]". Followed by, "No offense".

- Music or video embedded in the profile and set to Autoplay.

- "Unpretentious" and "down to earth" guys that don't respond with a simple 'thanks' when you give them a compliment.

- Older guys that have "boy" or "boi" in their profile name.

- Blank profiles. Or blank profiles that state "ask me if you want to know more".

- Guys that are on the down-low.. Supposedly straight guy, married to a woman, and secretly fucking guys on weekends.

The ones with hardly anything written within.

Like if next to every category they wirte: ask me.

LOL, what 's the point of a profile then!

Anybody who puts "straight-acting" looking for same on their profiles while their pics show otherwise.

DUDE YOU SUCK DICK, GET OVER YOURSELVES!!!

If I hear bad music playing when I'm barely loading the page, I'm gone.

xrichx said..."No offense"...

Hear, hear...one of the first things I'll do is take offense when I see a profile with this mollification BS.

Also, I'll say it. Shitty grammar and spelling. I'll forgive sloppy prose in a chat or forum thread, but in a profile page? With posted pictures, music player, videos, preparation time...? Hell, I knew what a dictionary was in second grade. No offense.

Exception: English is not your first language.

silkrock saidI think alot of guys are not attracting what there looking for when there profile comes across as very demanding, cookie cutter, or alot of bragging.

I came across this one recently. A very demanding profile ...

What type of profiles rub you the wrong way?

Very educated guys who can't seem to figure out the difference between

Your and you're
discreet and discrete

silkrock saidI think alot of guys are not attracting what there looking for when there profile comes across as very demanding, cookie cutter, or alot of bragging.

I came across this one recently. A very demanding profile

Use of the word DOMINATE.

My gawwwwwwwwdd if I see this verb being used as an adjective one more time I'm going to gnaw off my arms.


Pics that are obviously professionally taken. Coz you know when you meet in person that the person will not look anything like the pic. Will be an inevitable let down

those that list rules and regulations and pontificate how "hot, stud-like, or muscled" they are.

I'll pass on even checking out a profile of Mr. "HotStud" or Mr. "MuscledJock", or 'insert city-Stud"

it's one thing to be confident and another to think your $%^& don't stink.

im glad these guys put stuff like this in their profiles. It saves you having to go on a date with them to find out theyre DICKHEADS

I'm trying to picture how to use dominate as an adjective. Oh, I get it: they mean dominant.

In addition to what most have already stated:

nonpretentious - because you just know someone called them that at some point otherwise they wouldn't have listed it.

no fats / fems - no clear definition on what they view as fat or fem. 5 pounds? 10 pounds? On a scale of Dr. Zackery Smith to Liberace just how fem/butch are you? (hey! new forum topic!)

alpha male - why bother. It only looks good in print.

butch / masculine - if you have to tell someone you are you probably aren't.

strung together letters that I would have to look up to figure it out - GWSSMDDFHQIFLEMS or B3 c-v d-v e+ f- g++ k m q r s+ t w++

Actually any word that 'non' is attached to in the profile. Like nonjudgmental. Again. If it has to be said then the guy was probably called it at some point.

AND LET'S NOT FORGET THE PROFILES THAT ARE WRITTEN IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS

Tennis_Tom saidim glad these guys put stuff like this in their profiles. It saves you having to go on a date with them to find out theyre DICKHEADS

This is a good point.

This doesn't turn me off, but I find it very plain/dull:

"I'm just a guy who knows how to have fun" or one of its variants (like, "Just a guy here").

You've never given yourself a more interesting thought than that?

Ones that point out that they are "laid back" or "chilled" ...as if they have no drama in their lives. To me, it is awfully trite and comes across as arrogant.

And maybe it is my age, but I dont go for any profile that has bunch of pictures of the guy posing making those hand signs.

mickeytopogigio saidI'm trying to picture how to use dominate as an adjective. Oh, I get it: they mean dominant.

I usually see the following:

I'm dominate

I'm a dominate guy

Dominate here

Looking for a dominate guy

I hate profiles that have: one headless torso pic, foreign music on auto play, a long list of things the person likes, unrealistic "what they are looking for", strict instructions on c2c and incoherent headlines.

Lostboy said foreign music on auto play

Yeah, I mean to hell with all these foreigners....where were they born, anyway? Britain?

/ducks

Short profiles indicate someone's not really gonna put effort into the site or any interactions we might have. Looooooooong-ass profiles say they're trying too hard.

zdrew saidShort profiles indicate someone's not really gonna put effort into the site or any interactions we might have. Looooooooong-ass profiles say they're trying to hard.

OMG Zdrew's back

Well, my word, Zdumpling

ZDREWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW


We love you

(boy have I missed seeing those pecs )

This old can of worms.

My pennysworth: guys who quote songs in their profiles, guys who write things like "treat every moment like it's your last", guys doing that weird thing with their fingers in their pictures, guys who have "no offence", guys who can't spell or punctuate, guys who write "drug and disease free you be too" like people go out of their way to be diseased or drug addicts!

And finally, men who lick their biceps!
Stop it. It's not sexy. You just look stooopid.

Gawd, I just hate everybody*. Just typing this makes me angry.




*not really.

Mr. Z.. good to have you back among us.....!


Turn offs: People who use age in any way as a means to eliminate or include profiles.

Negatives to justify.. "You must be this or that". Negativity of any kind

Lazyness

Rigidness or inflexibility


Turn Ons: Friendly, open, unbiased, welcoming.

Diligent

Educated

Grounded

Imaginative & Sharing...

Turn-ons:
Pink marabou slippers
A working knowledge of Urdu
An operatic singing voice
Nice abs
Keeping ferrets as pets
Counting Blackbeard among one's ancestors
Reading Beowulf in the original Olde English

Turn-offs:
Cowboy boots with stiletto heels
A working knowledge of Quechuan
A love of karaoke
Hammertoes
Keeping tarantulas as pets
Counting Louis XVI among one's ancestors
Reading Ayn Rand in the original German