(nevermind/redundant) Getting Shadowed by an RJ Member

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    Mar 17, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    Anyone else have a problem with members who are obsessed with you & your profile. Borderline stalking. I'm interested to know how you've tried handling it as my experience here is being ruined by this member -- I'm very close to closing up shop as it were.

    I've made every attempt to stress to this person that he needs to leave me alone. I've tried mild-mannered, but now I'm plain furious. Blocking this member has not helped.

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    Mar 17, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
    make a formal complaint to RJ. I don´t understand why blocking doesn´t help. Doesn´t it block him? Maybe that needs to be fixed, so that "block" really means "block".

    There is also a thread about the same thing which started recently.

    I also find Proust very tedious, though can´t forget the first line of A la recherche...

    "Longtemps, je me suis couché de bonne heure."

    It goes downhill fast from there onwards


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    Mar 17, 2009 9:36 PM GMT
    I think it's inevitable that people are going to look at your profile. It's just how the site works.

    I like it when people look.....
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    Mar 17, 2009 9:47 PM GMT
    Sorry for the redundant post. I didn't realize that someone had posted the same issue quite recently in fact.

    It's likely the same guy who needs to get a clue.

    Just to be clear for the unimaginative -- it is NOT "looking." this is beyond checking out someone's profile. this is lingering on your profile so that his photo will continuously appear at the top of the people who've viewed you, over & over, all day long, day after day, week after week. It's not harmless or flattering. It's obsessive & relentless, like turning around and always finding the same person right behind you.
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    Mar 17, 2009 9:49 PM GMT
    Eyland, is the problem one of repeated emailing, profile commenting, or other forms of aggressive contact? Or, is it just a matter of the same guy frequently looking at your profile? If it's a matter of unwanted contact, then you should file an abuse complaint with RJ. If it's just the same guy looking at your profile over and over, then there's no problem that RJ needs to address. Your profile is there to be seen, and there's nothing wrong or against the terms of service for people to view profiles repeatedly.
  • Delivis

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    Mar 17, 2009 9:52 PM GMT
    there is a block function. Use it at your convenience.
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    Mar 17, 2009 9:56 PM GMT

    (giggle), you should be flattered. Besides, you are adorable and in this medium the person can't hurt you! I guess he can annoy the bugeesus out of you, but what could you do? When this happens, if you ignore them, they usually find someone else to obsess over. Or write him an e-mail asking him not to view you so much or I know, send him some pics just for him to enjoy. Tell him you'd send more if he's a good boy and doesn't look at your profile so often. icon_lol.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 17, 2009 9:56 PM GMT
    Well as we talked on the other thread, several of us (we've communicated) seem to have the same young RJ member checking us out, sometimes twice a day. It doesn't really bother me that much, I just think its kind of odd.... but in the end, what does it hurt? Our profiles are here to be
    reviewed by others. If this 20 year old gentleman wants to spend his time that way.... well ok....

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    Mar 17, 2009 9:57 PM GMT
    paradox saidYour profile is there to be seen, and there's nothing wrong or against the terms of service for people to view profiles repeatedly.


    Obviously my profile is there to be seen by everyone and more more than once if they wish - no question. I certainly don't need any clarification on that.

    It seems I'm not making myself clear. This is fanatic, obsessive attention. This is repeated, relentless viewing of my profile. Just because he doesn't saying anything doesn't make it any less uncomfortable for me. And it sounds like from looking at other threads that I'm not alone and this guy is doing this to other members as well -- these members know what I'm talking about.
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:03 PM GMT

    Would it change things if you dug him back? I like the older guys and these two hot sexy daddys in particular (no I'm not talking about Men In Love - noone's that sexy icon_razz.gif) keep viewing me repeatedly everyday! Suffice to say, I don't mind.
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    Delivis saidthere is a block function. Use it at your convenience.


    The block function does not work, FYI.
    I have tried it a few times without success.
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:06 PM GMT
    mnjock2003 said
    Delivis saidthere is a block function. Use it at your convenience.


    The block function does not work, FYI.
    I have tried it a few times without success.


    Well RJ needs to fix it so it does, or remove the option. Tell them?
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:12 PM GMT
    I'm confused.
    What IS achieved w/ the block function?
    Is it just for Email communications?
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:14 PM GMT
    I still dont understand what the problem is, as far as i understand this guys has only viewed your profile right? Thousand times but still he hasnt been continuously mailing you or bothering you on the forum. Once again, why do you care? A few months ago, the option to know who viewed your profile was not even available, probably some guys on RJ had some creepy admirer they never knew of.

    This is like putting up a poster of you at a park and complain because someone likes to watch your poster everyday in the morning. So you will instead fence your poster and give everyone IDs so you can control who can view your amazing image?
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:21 PM GMT
    Beaux saidI'm confused.
    What IS achieved w/ the block function?
    Is it just for Email communications?


    Maybe that is why I think it doesn't work. I had assumed it blocked people from looking at your profile, which it does not.
    It probably is just to block email.
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    There are a few RJ members that seem to check my profile a lot but never talk to me. It does not phase me as long as I don't get any nasty e-mails from them.
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    Mar 17, 2009 10:44 PM GMT

    The block function on this site is hilarious. It's like a placebo, you press it and think it'll work so you get all relaxed and go about your business until what's his face messages you again LOL! Currently it's supposed to block IM and email (it doesn't). If it could work to block people from seeing profiles that would certainly be something, but since this is, as most would agree here, less of a sex site and more of a friendship/information site, an actual block button would create too much resentment and dissension to be of much use. Guys would leave. Forget about them ever doing anything, I bet guys would start blocking because the other guy isn't sexy enough, because the other guy's not Goy/bi/queer/gay, or blocking people based on the flame war of the week. I could see it spiraling out of control and before too long noone would be able to get into anyones profile, except COmale could always get into mine because I'd never block him icon_redface.gif I know, a bit much, but I'd wager there would be discrimination at some point. With the block function not working there never has been. Haha, just like if they had perm ignore in the forum. LOL, forget about a fair and equal oppurtunity to be heard by all. Post a profile and its gonna be seen by all, even the crazies, don't like it? sawwy. icon_sad.gif

    PS, OP, a guy viewing your profile "too much" is NOT a blockable offense, but if you could block him you would...case closed.
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    Mar 17, 2009 11:20 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidThere are a few RJ members that seem to check my profile a lot but never talk to me. It does not phase me as long as I don't get any nasty e-mails from them.


    Leave it to Charlitos and SurrealLife to put it in perspective.

    Heck, I find myself so infrequently on the main RJ page, I don't even know who might be looking...

    All this talk about it....maybe I should start monitoring that.

    ;-)
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    Mar 17, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    maybe he likes you but is shy?
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    Mar 17, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    I can understand why that can be unnerving, and even annoying, but I'm not sure I understand why it's "ruining" your experience here. Viewing profiles is a passive thing - it doesn't require you to engage... in what way is it detracting for you?

    I've only just joined, and find that nobody is looking at my profile. It would be nice to convince myself that lots of people are, but the same two guys are obsessively following me, so it looks like the "who's viewed you recently" hasn't changed.

    It may be that this guy is the petulant sort who's obsessively viewing your profile precisely because you asked him to stop... I can't see why else. Let's face it, if he was that obsessed, he could just save your images onto his computer and not even have to log into the site to look at you.

    If that's the case, I'm afraid there's not much you can do but ignore him, and wait for him to lose interest. I'm not sure that obsessive re-viewing even truly constitutes harassment, as annoying as you find it.

    J x
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    Mar 17, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    The block function has definitely had some bugs in the past. In particular it had a really, really bad bug where the cached list of blocked guys for any given member would randomly get saved as an empty list. This meant that all those guys you blocked could contact you again. Oops.

    As of this morning, that bug has been fixed (fingers crossed) so the block list should now remain intact preventing annoying members from emailing you or IMing you.

    FYI, the block functionality doesn't prevent blocked members from viewing your profile but it should prevent the "Who Viewed Me Recently" section on your home page and the "Who Viewed Me" search result from showing their face so you should never know that they viewed your profile.

    I hope this helps. My apologies for that really, really bad bug. If you guys find that it continues to work inconsistently let us know and I'll look into it again. Hopefully any future bugs with this feature won't be quite so awful.

    Chris
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    Mar 17, 2009 11:51 PM GMT
    I'm with Charlitos, SurrealLife, and Beaux in not seeing what the big deal is. But, if it's a big enough problem, RJ should do something about it. Either make the block function something that truly works and includes profile access blocking, or they should offer an ignore option for the profile view function. They already allow us to opt out of letting people see that we've viewed their profiles, so they should allow profile owners the ability to opt out of seeing when certain individuals view their profiles.
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    Mar 18, 2009 12:06 AM GMT
    IDK... haven't you seen the countless other threads on this topic? Go look at those answers.
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    Mar 18, 2009 12:48 AM GMT
    is it possible that that person bookmarked realjock while looking at your profile, and so, when he logs in, he lands on your page first??
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    Mar 18, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    charlitos saidI still dont understand what the problem is, as far as i understand this guys has only viewed your profile right? Thousand times but still he hasnt been continuously mailing you or bothering you on the forum. Once again, why do you care? A few months ago, the option to know who viewed your profile was not even available, probably some guys on RJ had some creepy admirer they never knew of.

    This is like putting up a poster of you at a park and complain because someone likes to watch your poster everyday in the morning. So you will instead fence your poster and give everyone IDs so you can control who can view your amazing image?


    I don't understand what the problem is either.