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Straight men who sleep with men?

  • jarhead5536 Posts: 1348
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 7:10 PM GMT
    Oh you poor misguided kid. There is no such thing as a straight man that has sex with men, there just isn't. There are straight men that are comfortable with affection and intimacy, and straight men that will not kick your ass if you make some sort of advance, but sex is not going to happen with a true heterosexual...
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 7:10 PM GMT
    any man who sleeps with another man no longer counts as "straight", pretty simple.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 7:19 PM GMT
    I think the vast majority of straight guys are actually bisexual to some degree its just a matter of how much social programming they have in terms of whether or not it's expressed. I've known many guys who are predominantly straight, but if drunk and no women happen to be around.... The human male is a sexual animal and if the testosterone is high enough and the circumstances or blood alcohol levels permit, I say most straight guys are bisexual to some degree.

  • mickeytopogig... Posts: 5603
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
    DrobUA said...label themselves as straight but like to have sex with other guys...
    The point is they've labeled themselves. Do you agree or disagree with their label?

    One of the commonest features of Craigslist or any anonymous sex channel is to create the illusion of illicitness. "I'm actually straight...but I like dick once in awhile," is like offering candy to babies. A perfect ego booster disguising their true identity.

    You ARE new to the community. Chumps have been getting duped by this ploy for centuries.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    I identify as a gay man. That does not automatically turn pussy into kryptonite. Should I ever bury my head in there that isn't going to magically make me a closeted straight man.

    Let straight-identified men play the field. Let them eat pussy and suck cock all they like. It is their identity and they are allowed to have it anyway they like.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 8:20 PM GMT
    Well if two guys jerk each other off are they gay or bi? IDK for sure but I would say not likely. Most guys are horny and always seem to want to achieve orgasm no matter who does the honours.

    For me personally it has always been the emotional aspect not the physical that is the determining factor. A guy can spend his whole life never having sex with anyone, but if he is constantly falling in love with another guy, then he is gay, but just never acts on the emotions.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 8:23 PM GMT
    i wanna do a 'straight' guy, send em my way icon_smile.gif
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 8:49 PM GMT
    Well they are not straight, other than to bed. They are bisexual, not gay either! They belong to both communities. With their straight side, they get rights I don't as a pure homosexual. So I can understand why they don't identify with being gay, because they are not, they are Bisexual. But yet, people want to shove them under the gay banner, when they are not gay!

  • Tiller66 Posts: 380
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 8:59 PM GMT
    It's no use to try to understand it as long as you are both having fun enjoy but it would be fair to tell them "I'm gay,so if you think you are getting asway with something you are wrong".Otherwise just enjoy.icon_razz.gif
  • Roch_Athlete Posts: 45
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:09 PM GMT
    So using the logic of some in this thread...if you have sex with a woman you can't be gay. Are there any gay guys here who have had sex with a woman? I know a lot who say they have. So please explain that seeming incongruity.
  • DrobUA Posts: 1288
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:10 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    DrobUA saidHaha you really think you know me.. you are 180 degrees in the wrong direction. I came out as gay when I was 18. I have not been "sneaking around" with guys because I am ashamed of who I am. If anything it is the opposite. (sneaking around with women and still being labeled gay) You think that because someone isn't exactly like you that it must be an act but the fact is everyone is different.

    Wow, what an ego. What made you think I was talking about you? Not everything in this world or in these forums is about you.

    And no, you're wrong, I don't think I know you at all. But I know you as well as I ever want to.


    It's not my ego it's the fact that you were talking about me.
    "Some of them might even have 3-month affairs with women to prove the point."

    Referring to my other post about my girlfriend of three months. Yea not about me right?
  • DrobUA Posts: 1288
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    Roch_Athlete saidSo using the logic of some in this thread...if you have sex with a woman you can't be gay. Are there any gay guys here who have had sex with a woman? I know a lot who say they have. So please explain that seeming incongruity.


    Very good point. There is definitely a double standard. It's hard to see it from the other perspective. Just because I've slept with women doesn't mean I'm straight.
  • mickeytopogig... Posts: 5603
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:14 PM GMT
    Roch_Athlete saidSo using the logic of some in this thread...if you have sex with a woman you can't be gay. Are there any gay guys here who have had sex with a woman? I know a lot who say they have. So please explain that seeming incongruity.
    The pitch, "I'm straight, but I'd let you suck my dick, 'cause yer so purty," is a ploy--by gay men (posing as straight). The, er, ah, sucker is being duped into thinking they're getting a straight boy, and vaults their ego.
  • mickeytopogig... Posts: 5603
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:18 PM GMT
    Incidences of gay men getting drunk and fucking their fag-hag, and straight men getting drunk and getting off with the nearest hole are not satisfactory examples of closeted behavior. Going to a bar to FIND a hole, that's different.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
    NoAir saidPenis in your mouth or but = Homosexual.

    It is not rocket science doesn't matter how you label yourself.

    Peace icon_biggrin.gif


    what if they dont take penis into their mouth or ass. and just put theirs into someone's mouth and ass. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • boilerup_82 Posts: 188
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 9:44 PM GMT
    There is more to being gay than just fucking someone of the same sex. i think you are gay if you see yourself falling in love with another person of the same sex.

    At the end, sex is sex and many people, guys or girls, would do about anything just to get off. Some people just love having sex, it does not matter with whom they do it. What matters to them is getting off.

    I could kiss, fuck, eat a girl (i'd have to get paid) and not be emotionally attracted to them. And trust me, this won't make me straight or bi. I love men and I could only see spending my life with one of them. If I straight guy asks you to blow him, you do it, and afterwards he wants to be with you forever, they yes, I would think he is gay. Otherwise, i would assume he just wanted to get off.


    does this make any sense?
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 10:04 PM GMT
    turk said
    NoAir saidwhat if they dont take penis into their mouth or ass. and just put theirs into someone's mouth and ass. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Funny, but every "straight" guy I've ever shagged throw their legs in the air so fast and so high that I'm often able to get great reception for my radio if I happen to have it turned on.

    I'm convinced that 100% straight means 100% pussy bottom.

    I love straight men.
  • MikemikeMike Posts: 6214
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    A guy might call themself straight but if they do men they are bi or gay and not comfortable with it yet!!

    No longer straight.
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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    I hate the labels, but for those who like to do that crap here's what it is.

    There are lots of straight men out there, may be married or have a girlfriend, love girls, and only women, have no desire to be romantically involved with another man, nor want another man's penis in his mouth or in his rear ha. However their girl may not be into oral sex at all, there are girls who do not, and will not do that, because they think its totally gross, and if you're hairy down there forget it!

    So these guys will maybe pop online or whatever and meet a guy just for the guy to go down on him and that's it, everyone says guys do it better down there than women, and girls seem to think other chicks do a better job down there than a man, so he'll have the guy do the tootsie pop on him, nut and then bounce.

    Then we have our guys who love being worshiped. They're all very into themselves, think of themselves as gods ect, they'll go around talking about how much pussy they had blah blah blah, but in reality MOST women are completely turned off by this kind of behavior, and the thing that turns these men on has little to do with sexual preference, they get turned on by praise and adulation. Gay men are more willing to cater to that guy's ego, so he's going to have a gay dude feel on his muscles, talk about how great he looks, blah blah blah, he'll let the guy blow him, and then he'll be off.

    Then there are the vikings as they're called in my sport. These guys totally get off on abusing, dominating, and humiliating people. In the old days guys like this would go about snatching up girls doing violent sexual stuff to em and then move on. The same is still done today, but because we live in a more civilized society, where these type of guys don't hold the same kind of power or fear among people, they'll go to prison if they do this, and he can kiss his fighting career bye bye, so what's a guy like this to do? Well he's going to snatch up another man, but not just any guy, and certainly no man who has some freaky fantasy/fetish of being dominated by another man, he doesn't want that, he's going to go after a man who is masculine, and basically wouldn't want that, because again domination, and humiliation is what turns these guys on, and the real deal at that. And another man especially if the guy is all masculine is most likely going to be WAY too ashamed, and embarrassed to let anyone know he got raped by another man, so then he basically gets away with it, and it makes him feel all powerful.

    In prison guys will do this of course, because its the worst thing you can do to another man, treat him like he's a "bitch" less of a man, making yourself, and the guy you're dominating feel like you're the alpha male, they view it as turning other men into women, and that's funny to them.

    (I know 2 guys who've had this happen to them, and it messed them up, and one guy who does that to other guys, we obviously don't hang out)

    Then we have guys who may engage in sexual acts with other men, because there is no pussy around, some men will just use their hand, but for some they just want to stick it in something so bad they'll just go on and plug another dude.

    Then we have the kind of relationship which everyone today calls a "Bromance" where you have 2 straight men, who may love the hell out of their wives, or gf's and love pussy and all, they don't get turned on by other men, never thought about doing another man, and get all grossed out by the thought. but they have such a strong bond with each other, and love for each other that they could never have with their woman, and no other man who isn't like them. These guys aren't ashamed, or afraid to show normal, natural emotion between each other the way close male friends always used to do, until people started labeling people.

    They'll cuddle with each other, play fight, kiss (not tongue down the throat kiss). haha there's even this dumb mini holiday on August 14, which is 6 months after February 14 (valentine's day) called "Bromance day" where you hang with your best bud and do all the bromosexual stuff with him. As far as sex goes there is no oral, and anal sex between the two, just the cuddling, and the light kissing, if things get that hot and heavy between them, and they're VERY close, the only thing they'll get into is the frot stuff (google it)

    (this is the kind of relationship I have with my best friend since 2and grade, his girl, my girl, and everyone at the gym call us Bromeo, and Dudeliet haha)

    Gay men just enjoy/want/love other men, and usually will feel the same emotions towards a man, that a woman would, and they want nothing but another man. Nothing wrong with that.

    Bisexual men like pussy, but at the same time they may like dick in the mouth or in the bum as well, go for it if that's your thing haha

    I never go by the whole straight gay bi labels crap, because every straight guy out there in the world, has at least 1 guy they'd get all into in a sexual way, doesn't mean they're gay, and it doesn't mean they're bi, can't call it anything.Some men just may be curious, and want to know what its like to suck a dick, boink, or get boinked by another man, they'll try it, may end up not liking it, or end up liking it. Just don't be messing with little kids or animals is what I say haha.
  • DrStorm Posts: 185
    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 11:03 PM GMT
    You think all those men in jail are gay who have sex with other men? No, I don't think so....A hole is a hole is a hole...a need is a need is a need....

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    QUOTE Mar 18, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    There are unwilling partners in prison. Those that are willing are bisexual or gay, not straight. A straight man could no more get an erection from the thought of sex with another man than I could from the thought of vaginal intercourse or anal intercourse or oral sex with a woman.
  • swimbikerun Posts: 2835
    QUOTE Mar 19, 2009 2:08 AM GMT
    Pinny said
    EricLA saidI'm bi -- I like straight AND gay men.

    /thread

    But seriously, why do we care about labels? Threads like these perpetuate a thought in society where we have to polarize sexuality.

    We "care" about labels because we are human. Are you in my tribe? Is that lumbering creature a threat? Can I safely eat this? etc.
    Of course, this mindset runs up against a modern, dynamic and fluid society that promotes sexual interaction.
    Ultimately, sexuality is defined by the mindset of the people involved. More to the point: why do you care how someone would define himself?
    If he's a trick, the answer will be irrelevant in about 30 minutes.
    Your posting seems to be more of a quest to discover your own sexuality. I think it's great you're exploring and have decided not to pigeonhole your sexuality.
  • swimbikerun Posts: 2835
    QUOTE Mar 19, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidI identify as a gay man. That does not automatically turn pussy into kryptonite. Should I ever bury my head in there that isn't going to magically make me a closeted straight man.

    Let straight-identified men play the field. Let them eat pussy and suck cock all they like. It is their identity and they are allowed to have it anyway they like.
    Your missives drive me nuts.
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    QUOTE Mar 19, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    swimbikerun said
    MunchingZombie saidI identify as a gay man. That does not automatically turn pussy into kryptonite. Should I ever bury my head in there that isn't going to magically make me a closeted straight man.

    Let straight-identified men play the field. Let them eat pussy and suck cock all they like. It is their identity and they are allowed to have it anyway they like.
    Your missives drive me nuts.


    Your nuts drive me, Ms.
  • styrgan Posts: 2017
    QUOTE Mar 19, 2009 3:22 AM GMT
    I've always thought sexuality is a continuum, not opposing camps. So I'm willing to give straight guys some space to fool around with other men without accepting the bisexual label.