Dealbreakers

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    Mar 18, 2009 8:53 PM GMT
    When it comes to relationships, there are laundry lists of things guys tolerate or compromise on to try to "make it work" but what are your absolute "dealbreakers"...The one thing or things the guy would do to send you to the door no matter how long you've been together and made it through?

  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 18, 2009 11:20 PM GMT
    Drugs

    Open Relationship

    Fanatical Religion

    Fanatical Republican (I would never say I couldn't date a moderate Republican even though I don't see how I could right now. However, someone who is way way out there I know I can't deal with)

    Angry Drunk

    Moustache without goatee

    Out of control cell phone usage (if ur txting instead of conversing with me on the first date, buh bye.)

    Judgmental vegetarian/vegan (if you want to do it fine, but I don't)

    Want kids

    Cigars

    Snob

    Penis Piercing ("and I said no, no, no")
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:24 PM GMT
    Drugs

    Hits Me

    Cheats

    Bad Hygine

    Doesn't Bring Me Around His Friends/Family
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
    no sense of humor.
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    Hmmm
    I think.... satan worshiping would be a turnoff....couldn't live with that.

    ....or a mullet.
  • jc_online

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    Mar 18, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    angry drunk
    violence -physical or verbal
    hateful towards others
    religious zealot
    obese with disregard for health
    drug addict/dealer
    addicted to shopping
    has a secret collection of stuffed animals
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:31 PM GMT
    Psycho is also a huge deal breaker. I can't deal with really, really crazy.

  • DrobUA

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    Mar 18, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    Needy/Clingy

    Manwhore

    Addict

    All involve too much drama for me.
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidWhen it comes to relationships, there are laundry lists of things guys tolerate or compromise on to try to "make it work" but what are your absolute "dealbreakers"...The one thing or things the guy would do to send you to the door no matter how long you've been together and made it through?



    having sex with someone else
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:37 PM GMT
    Just had it happen to me today....not sure what I'm going to do. But he was caught snooping into my e-mail to check up on me....sad thing is, there hasn't been any reason for his lack of trust. We had a promise to each other. His half was to stop sneaking into my cell phone and email and what not, following up on me as if I were a teenage boy and he was my father.

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    Mar 18, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    lying

    being too critical

    non communication

    halting personal growth
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    Mar 18, 2009 11:58 PM GMT
    females.
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    Mar 19, 2009 1:01 PM GMT
    there are a number of initial things which would weigh against someone, but I agree, after you have decided that you´re a fit the main dealbreaker is betrayal of trust. I simply have no time for people who won´t say what they really think.
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    Mar 19, 2009 1:08 PM GMT
    all the above. seriously.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 19, 2009 1:13 PM GMT
    I think much of what has been mentioned would rank. I like a grounded,
    fit, educated guy (in friends as well)... he doesn't have to fit a profile necessarily, I have alot of different kinds of friends.. but drugs, religion (and even inflexibility with regard to political views) can be deal breakers.....

    Especially if that person expects others to do as he does. Forget it!
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    Mar 19, 2009 1:32 PM GMT
    i'd say the best counter to all the above in looking for positive qualities would be to require: sanity, healthy lifestyle (self-respect), and open-mindedness.
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    Mar 19, 2009 1:34 PM GMT
    Substance abuse issues, abusive personality (emotional or physical) and cheating.
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    Mar 19, 2009 4:35 PM GMT
    What do you guys mean by "crazy"? lol...
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    Mar 19, 2009 4:44 PM GMT
    - PETA-style freak (no meat, no leather shoes, no hunting ... ugh)
    - bi. They're okay for quick, 5-minute sessions, but not for dating
    - drug addict
    - smoker
    - sex addict
    - any kind of borderline personality disorder
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    Mar 19, 2009 4:46 PM GMT
    someone who use the term deal breaker to me.
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:36 PM GMT
    short, pudgy fingers and/or any toes longer than the big toe.
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:27 PM GMT
    Fundamentalists (born-agains)

    Dry drunks / or drunks

    Slobs / including anyone lacking personal hygene

    Smokers / or druggies

    Couch potatoes / including the out of shape

    Anyone still not over his ex.

    Anyone ungrateful / miserable / depressed all the time.