chase or be chased?

  • DrobUA

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    Mar 19, 2009 12:03 AM GMT
    Just curious to see how other guys are. As for me, when guys tend to come on really strong it is a huge turn off for me. It comes off as kinda needy. I like guys that aren't into me haha. I know it's weird. What about everyone else? Do you like to be chased or do you like to do the chasing?
  • mcwclewis

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    Mar 19, 2009 12:44 AM GMT
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    I like to be chased. But i agree, when they come on too strong, I get annoyed.

    No means no.... and so does "Yeah I have to go find my friend...."
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    Mar 19, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    Great question. I think it's better to chase than to be chased:

    1. When you are chased, you pick among those who have picked you
    2. When you chase, you are picked among those whom you have picked

    Apparently, they are the same but...

    1. When you have to pick among those who have picked you, it implies you must resign to what has been offered to you. You must adjust, compromise. Maybe you will find what you want in this group, maybe not.

    2. When you are picked among those whom you have picked, you are sure that (in theory) any of them will be good (after all, they were pre-selected)

    I've always faced near 100% rejection rates when I chased, so I would always let them chase me. I've had good experiences being chased, but I felt I lacked control.

    My current partner was chased by me. He's a Ferrari to my Sedan expectations. He was the only one to respond my message. My friends can't believe my luck!

    If you have high rejection rates, just keep trying. Hit the "whatever" button, send messages to anyone you find attractive. One egg will survive the predators! icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:37 AM GMT
    Bachian> My current partner was chased by me. He's a Ferrari to my Sedan expectations.

    Yay!! Sounds like you are in high gear.


    I'm was a bit screwed up in the whole chase/chaser thing. If someone approached me I was on-guard and would generally keep them at arm's length. Of course I'd never want to put someone in that situation so I'd hold back rather than chase anyone. After I got to know them, well, then it was OK.

    My partner approached me at a student dance (13 years ago this weekend) saying "I know you" (we had briefly met, at a funeral, 9 months earlier). Since I was dating someone at the time, all I was really interested in was getting his student football tickets....
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    Is this thread a corollary to the "I'm a straight magnet" thread you started?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/457322/
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    I have bad feet and ankles so I don't move so fast. So I'm more of an ambush predator as my screen name would suggest.
  • DrobUA

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    Mar 19, 2009 6:26 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidIs this thread a corollary to the "I'm a straight magnet" thread you started?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/457322/


    no this has to do with whether or not guys like being chased or like chasing
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    Mar 19, 2009 7:56 AM GMT
    I've never chased a guy before, too bashful I suppose. If he's interested, he'll let me know, but I always wonder...what ificon_question.gif
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    Mar 19, 2009 12:26 PM GMT
    I have found that indifference works the best for me . When a man can approach me and say "What up" . Thats hot . Confidence for me is way sexy. Why chase? Let them chase you, that way you don't spill your cocktail .icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 19, 2009 12:27 PM GMT
    Chase, always. Far more fun.
  • twostroke

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    Mar 22, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
    I prefer to let them believe they are chasing me.

    once caught (that´s me), I strike.

    and i enjoy it each time

  • zakariahzol

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    Mar 22, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    Doesnt matter
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    Mar 22, 2009 11:30 PM GMT
    As much as the romantic in me would like to be chased, I am usually the one going after what I want. I usually get it too!!
  • baldone

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    Mar 23, 2009 1:24 AM GMT
    right now i met this guy, wonderful,sexy,sensitive handsome guy that i have fallen head over heals for but he is just out of a very abusive 2 year so while i am chasing i need to tread very lightly as i don't want to scare him off, but yea, love the chase
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    Mar 23, 2009 1:26 AM GMT
    be chased, tried chasing and it does not work lol
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    Mar 23, 2009 7:22 AM GMT
    My ex was Chase.
    Still is, I reckon.
    (It's his name.)

    Me... I'm just chaste. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    personally.. I look at all the guys to scared to come talk to me and smile.. knowing that yes.. I am to good for them.. they haven't a chance with me and the ones who have the balls.. well.. I give'em a swift kick to the groin and tell'em I'm waaaaay outta there league..
  • dionysus

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    Mar 25, 2009 9:52 PM GMT
    rosenberger_m saidbe chased, tried chasing and it does not work lol


    i have to chase. im 'intimidating' and 'seem like a real asshole' normally. what the fuck ever.

    id totally chase you. hourly even. probably on the verge of stalking.

    in a good way, of course icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    i've never chased because i am painfully shy. if i think the guy that's chasing me is cute, i'll let him catch me icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 10:07 PM GMT
    Chase... Hey Sluggo... icon_lol.gif
  • DuggerPDX

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    Mar 25, 2009 11:55 PM GMT
    I've always chased, I enjoy the thrill of the hunt.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Mar 26, 2009 12:21 AM GMT
    Being very outgoing and aggressive normally I do the chasing but the rejection rate is very high.

    I have to ask the guys who said coming on string turns them off WHY?
    Aren't you flattered ? What if you might actually LIKE them?
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    Mar 26, 2009 12:33 AM GMT
    I dont like to chase because I get tired of the rejection rate. I typically wait to be chased but the problem with that is you have to make it obvious you are available to be chased. Not everyone you want to notice picks up on the clues.


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    Mar 26, 2009 12:44 AM GMT
    I am shy.. I prefer being chased.
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    Mar 26, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    I can be shy at times... so prefer being chased. Chasing can be taxingicon_sad.gif