do I have to be gorgeus to receive messages from real jock men?

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    Mar 19, 2009 2:26 PM GMT
    I can not believe I'm here more than a year ago and have not received any mail from any man from RJ. I think this happens because I am not muscular. This may be because I am not American. I wonder why?
  • DiverScience

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    Mar 19, 2009 2:39 PM GMT
    Have you emailed them?

    Do you post to the boards (beyond this)?

    Your profile is in all caps and doesn't actually contain much information.
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    Mar 19, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    Sorry buddy but inoder to get you gotta give meaning you goota put a little effort and make youerself none.

    i was once like you when i joined the site. I put a few pix up and then thought that myabe that would be enough. A month goes by and the emial i got was from Realjock sending me notices of what was going on within the site. Sure people viewed me but never really said anything.

    That's when I decided to take matters into my own hands and just branch out and do a little social networking by reading and posting in the threads. Sure, I stepped on a few toes, made a few enemies or at least made it to where some people just wanted to keep their distance from me because of a comments. No biggie in my book because the world keeps turning and the beat goes on. Made a few good internet buddies to by the same process.

    All it takes is a little time, confidence and some gusto. You will get the downside of emailing a person and probably won't get a response back. It happens. Don't let it bother you though.

    Here's a tip: if you want people to email then email them too and don't make posts like this. it sounds a bit despereate and it's likely to make people not wanna email you because it seems like you are whining.

    Best of luck to you.
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    Mar 19, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    I think it could be any number of issues. I get emails all the time. Perhaps it is because you are not ctive in the forums. Or online much. Maybe because you do send emails to others.

    Like in any bar, if you find a corner and stand in it you will be ingnored. Get out mingle and you will be talked too.
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    Mar 19, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
    You also list that you in a relationship.

    Most guys wont' bother once they see that, I know I wouldn't.
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    Mar 19, 2009 2:58 PM GMT
    I understand what you are saying, but I always tell the guys if they are hot, or if they are nice. But I never received an email back saying thank you even. What can I do?
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    Mar 19, 2009 2:59 PM GMT
    I'd speak to a person even if they are in a relationship. I'm not trying to hook up with them because I'm not a homewrecker.

    You would just be talking and as long as boundaries aren't crossed and you have no intentions of trying to be something more then a just regular friend then what's the harm in talking?

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    Mar 19, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    obviously! I just looking for e-friends. I don´t want to hook up at all. I really live so so so far, but I did everything you say, but most of RJ men dont answer. Well, I think I will live with that always. Thank you guys
  • zakariahzol

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    Mar 19, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    I am not American
    I am a middle age guy , not really a gorgues young hunk
    I have a slight punch on my stomach
    I live in a country most of this guys never heard of
    Except for a few close friend, nobody have see my face

    But I receive message and develop friendship with a some wonderful Real Jock.


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    Mar 19, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    JVR1970ARG saidobviously! I just looking for e-friends. I don´t want to hook up at all. I really live so so so far, but I did everything you say, but most of RJ men dont answer. Well, I think I will live with that always. Thank you guys


    You'd be surprised how much of a turn off an all-caps profile is. It may not seem like a big deal, but for some reason it has turned into a red flag for most people. Start with that, put up a few thoughtful comments in the forums, and I'm sure you'll get some of this attention that you want.
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    Mar 19, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    JVR1970ARG saidI can not believe I'm here more than a year ago and have not received any mail from any man from RJ. I think this happens because I am not muscular. This may be because I am not American. I wonder why?


    yep absolutely icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 19, 2009 3:25 PM GMT
    You're on your way - maybe just add more to your profile - reach out to guys through Forums - and guys will get to know you.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 19, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    I was thinking we had talked once or twice via messages. Not on my record however.

    I would agree with Jockbod and others, reach out to others here and participate in the forums and the rewards will be great. The fact you are from Argentina should make no difference.

    I doubt if Zim or Sedative would agree that being non american would yield no e-mails...LOL
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    Mar 19, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    Here you go, kiddo....have a hug.

    Funny Pictures
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    Mar 19, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
    Here in America, and around the world, English is the unifying language. Some folks may not wish to deal with another language.

    This site is "Real Jock" and one would hope that it would stay true to its name which is implicit of actual athletes leading healthful lifestyles that like engaging in athletics, and not a hookup site.

    You might also try sites more regional to your area, and your interests.
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:05 PM GMT
    You could try turning your caps-lock off when you fill out your profile.
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    "OMG! He so chatted me up in Caps. Can you believe that?"

    "He's in a relationship. What's the point?" Last time I checked it said, "RealJock - Gay Fitness, Health, and Life. Workouts, Nutrition, Sports, Forums, Profiles, Chat Video Chat, and More." I must have missed where it said, "Exhausted Manhunt and gay.com so I'm here for sex." Perhaps that's in the "More" category. Partnered people are people too! ;)

    "Search a site more for your interests." He works out, and is a trainer. That fits the mold to me, and is far more than many on here. I don't know if you guys noticed, but this site sure does have some guys that aren't "Jocks." But then again so does many of the other "themed" sites. Being ripped does not constitute a "Jock."

    JVR1970ARG - You've got the typical "RJ" profile. Enough pictures to hog bandwidth, a few streaming YouTube Vidoes, and its short and to the point. Here's is an experiment to try. Click on anyone with a decent amount of posts, and click on his "friends" profiles. After a few click, you'll realize something. The same profiles keep popping up over and over again. That should tell you enough.
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    Your not ugly so that can't be the problem. Not that I'm attractive but I don't even get many emails but I'm fine with that.
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    Mar 19, 2009 5:45 PM GMT

    Oh, ha! ha! Why can't a normal guy get a break!? You've got almost 300 guys on your hotlist and while I didn't view them all (I do have a life), but from what I saw, next to all of them are GORGEOUS white hunks!
    icon_neutral.gif , you mean to tell me you hotlisted all of those guys and not one messaged you? That doesn't speak well for this sites hotlisting culture or atleast, its white hunk population, but you seem sorta like a two faced fool hotlisting a gaggle of guys who all look the same, could all be brothers, and then to claim real jock doesn't celebrate diversity. Nothing wrong with that being your type, but if it's good for you to have such exclusive preferences, why isn't it good for everybody else?

    You're profile isn't bad, is very fun and your pictures are all interesting and colorful which is why I don't get why your main pic is a black and white and looks like the victim of photoshop paint? Then your screen name, what's that all about? I think a good screen name can draw people in if it is interesting and makes people ponder why you chose it. I've gotten several messages just to tell me they like my screenname. You don't look bad either; don't know if anyone would agree, but you remind me of ZIMSTER, and he's quite popular on this site. When he's around though, he is very vocal and personable in the forums and I'm sure, emails plenty to. Being active in the forum can net you a lot of positive attention: guys that are drawn to your brains and your brawn too, ofcourse.

    I get the feeling you want guys to message you because your pics draw them in. With that drab main pic I'd doubt they'd click on it, but take a page from all of your hotlist guys if you want superficial hits to your profile. Take your shirt off and try to look sexy. You'll get plenty of mail the likes of "Woof!", "sup", "dam," and "U cam, bud?"icon_lol.gif

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    Mar 19, 2009 5:46 PM GMT
    Your country is full of beautifull sexy men! What the fuck are you doing on this site?? Go hit the streets NOW!!
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    Mar 19, 2009 6:07 PM GMT
    JVR1970ARG saidI can not believe I'm here more than a year ago and have not received any mail from any man from RJ. I think this happens because I am not muscular. This may be because I am not American. I wonder why?


    This is not a dating site. There's nothing in your profile information that gives anyone a handle of stuff of interest to them. Also, it was hastily put together...not carping here, but a short profile, not well thought out, and the "ALL IN CAPS' is very annoying to most people. It's like you are shouting.

    Besides, no one owes anyone here emails.
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    Mar 19, 2009 6:36 PM GMT
    No need to worry, the guys that will message you out of the blue for the most part won't be worth your time....BUT i have and still do have contact wiht quite a few guys on here that i'm glad to have the pleasure of talking (well...e-mailing) with, but these are guys that i've met in the forums before hand. So....the physical part will (alot of the time) get you not exactly the best of messages (dependin on what you want) But if your profile shows your personality or you do so via posing in forums or maybe chat rooms, i'm sure you'll get plenty of people vying for your attention.
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    Mar 19, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    wait, this is a joke, right?!?!?!?!?!?!
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    Mar 19, 2009 6:40 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidwait, this is a joke, right?!?!?!?!?!?!



    No Rob....that would be this post
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/459119/

    this post is serious...i think...GREAT...now you got me thinking...Its never good to get me thinking and now i'm thinking. NOOOO!!!!!
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    Mar 19, 2009 6:45 PM GMT
    i'm a weirdo goofball and i get messages from time to time...it's most exciting