Is anything as boring as shopping for clothes?

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    Oct 20, 2007 2:16 PM GMT
    I have to go shopping today -- for clothes. There is nothing I hate more. Does anyone really enjoy mindlessly putting on clothes, staring in a mirror, taking them off, repeating the process until you've managed to delude yourself into thinking something actually looks flattering enough to hand over a couple hundred dollars?

    I've tried shopping online, but the results are frequently shitty. There seems to be a new fashion industry geared to the anorexic and the online retailers don't bother to tell you that an XL is now a 38-inch chest.

    My friends have always told me my gay card is in serious jeopardy because of my hatred of shopping. But I don't think anyone with real taste could possibly enjoy shopping for clothes.

    Why can't we all wear orange jumpsuits?
  • Lifeisgood

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    Oct 20, 2007 2:32 PM GMT

    Don't get me wrong, I like to look good and have nice clothes, but the process of going out to a store and flicking through racks of clothes, bringing them to the hot, stuffy dressing rooms with bad lighting, all seems so mundane to me.

    As a result, I stopped trying things on. It makes for a lot of bad purchases, or returns. But I'd rather just give it a shot, take it home and make my decision later.

    I agree with the whole sizing thing. I used to shop at A & F before it became what it is today and the clothes were high quality and fit well. Now, everything is "athletic fit" and god forbid you are looking for a waist size bigger than 32 or 34, you won't find it. And it seems the rest of the industry has followed suit.

    Unfortunately I have even fewer choices living in Maine. I can drive to Boston in an hour and a half but do I really want to do that just to find a pair of pants? So, the GAP it is, what can I say. Occassionally I'll get lucky at Marshalls or TJ Max. When all else faily and you want something new, buy shoes and underwear icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2007 2:58 PM GMT
    I do not get any pleasure out of the shopping process. I pretty much stick to the Gap/Banana Republic (online)stuff since I know what sizes of theirs fit me well and I like their stuff.

    I loath the retail experience.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 20, 2007 3:20 PM GMT
    A split decision with me: I used to hate to shop.. I was a "go and get" kind of shopper. I knew what I wanted or needed and I went in and bought it. Then I was gone.

    Today, I still go in with an idea of what I want or what I'm going to do. However with my closet full of Polo, A & F and other shirts, I doubt if I could (with a straight face) that I don't enjoy that part of shopping. But I certainly don't spend much time trying on stuff. I know what it is I'm there for and I get it out. Really the same with professional clothes or anything else. I don't spend much time fiddling around. I don't have that time to waste.

    So anyone buy Christmas presents yet? I pick up a few things during the year so I DON'T have to wander around aimlessly in December trying to figure it out.
    I hate that.
  • art_smass

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    Oct 20, 2007 3:32 PM GMT
    Last time I went to buy pants, I probably tried on twenty pairs before I found something that fit. It's frustrating.

    Anyway, a guy like you needs to stick to classic American sportswear labels. German and Italian lines might be okay, too. Those XL shirts that fit a 38-inch chest are in European lines like Mexx and Zara that have a strong presence in the Asian market. The arms on the L Mexx shirt I have are barely long enough, and I have an XL shirt from Zara that fits me like a glove. Yet I can still get away with wearing a M instead of a L in lines like Hugo Boss or Kenneth Cole, if I'm trying to look buff. I actually bought a beautiful Jones New York dress shirt on sale last week, and the L is actually a little big on me. I also got a Ted Baker suit that almost fit me off of the rack (something that has never happened to me before).

    I feel your pain. Clothing is made for the masses, and the masses aren't in very good shape.
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    Oct 20, 2007 3:33 PM GMT
    Well, I'll be the first to go out on a limb and say I love shopping for clothes though I will admit it can be really time consuming and exhausting.

    The way I look at clothes - which might be helpful in making it more palatable for those of you that don't like it - is a form of self-expression. I always ask myself, "What do I want to look like? Who do I want to present to the world? What look will make me feel attractive?" I get to a point where I am very excited to create my look and then I go about building everything around it. I find the goal of painting a whole picture a lot more satisfying than just randomly grabbing odds and ends off shelves. It feels like an accomplishment and like I am putting my best foot forward. And it's always gratifying when you get lots of compliments on your clothes - especially from strangers!
  • Timbales

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    Oct 20, 2007 3:38 PM GMT
    I don't like shopping for clothes either. When I do get in the rare mood, I can never find anything I like.
  • Salubrious

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    Oct 20, 2007 3:43 PM GMT
    Not a big fan, but I don't loathe it.
  • hotversguy

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    Oct 20, 2007 3:44 PM GMT
    yes. washing them.
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    Oct 20, 2007 3:45 PM GMT
    My latest clothes shopping experience was actually with my Mom. I spent 45 minutes realizing I no longer fit any pair of jeans in the men's section and I now have to wear a boy's size 18...

    Apart from that, I usualy spend around 15 minutes in places like PacSun and AnchorBlue, walk in, see something I like in my size, buy it, and leave. Same goes for the Navy Exchange, which sells brand-name clothes for about 60% of regular retail. I go straight to the casual/surfer sections, pick my shirts (I buy new pants around once a year...) then head to the electronics section to parooze the new video games and dvd's for hours on end. LOL

    If I was ever issued a gay card, it sure as hell would have been pulled rather quick. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 20, 2007 3:54 PM GMT
    OW, are you looking for a whole (or half) a wardrobe? I guess I don't mind shopping because it's only for 1 or 2 things at a time, and I stick to only a couple of store choices where I can rely on the sizes and not feel like I have to try stuff on there.
    I know your "38=XL" is an exaggeration, but that's where you have to find the labels' styles. Labels like Joseph Abboud and Tommy Bahama (just 2 examples) tend to be roomier all around. Of course you have to steer clear of the twink section of Bloomingdales! icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2007 3:54 PM GMT

    Shopping is tough to get right. Even GQ gets it wrong.

    I've tried to figure out how to post the image of the "jumpajama" but OW, this is why we don't all wear orange jumpsuits.

    GQ Regrets

    It’s a jumpsuit! It’s pajamas! It’s a “jumpajama,” trumpeted in our December ’58 issue as a “one-piece lounging pajama of warm, lightweight, drip-dry nylon fleece.”
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    Oct 20, 2007 3:55 PM GMT
    Rule 1) If you ever find something that you like, buy a lifetime supply, because they will stop making it next month.


    Rule 2) Identify commodity-sources for each item in your wardrobe. When supplies run low, just order in more. I use and for most stuff.
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    Oct 20, 2007 4:13 PM GMT
    I start getting sick if I stick around clothes departments for too long, something about the smell of the place combined with my lack of patience for looking through stuff.

  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Oct 20, 2007 4:46 PM GMT
    It seems this site runs counter to other gay sites icon_smile.gif
    Perhaps ALL of us here are missing the pages from our Gay manuals that say we have to love shopping, especially clothes shopping!

    I am right there with you as well, Obscenewish

    I too have gone into to stores and bought what has been my size only to find that xtra large means what we used to call medium.
    Shopping retail for me is tough... I am tall but not fat so and the masses are either anorexic or really fat it seems.

    If you read what people post on other gay sites, they often list shopping as a major fun activity !

    Hmmm NOT for me! hahhaha

    === Ron in Los Angeles
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    Oct 20, 2007 4:57 PM GMT
    I suprised to see people who don't like shopping! icon_razz.gif

    I like cloths, but not buying them. I like to wear the same black denali jacket all winter. Then buy a new black denali jacket next winter!

    People ask me why I wear the same jacket. Well if its warm, and goes with anything why wear anything else?
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    Oct 20, 2007 4:58 PM GMT
    If anything it is rediculous hard trying to find small clothing. I love how alot of places dont bother making a small anymore. it's medium on up. I also love that at 6'0" 170# I am a small. American clothing is continually getting larger where todays smalls were yesterdays mediums. The clothing companies cater to the oversized to the point where i can barely get a size 30 jeans. God forbid your inseam be longer than your waist and you want a 30x32 or 30x33. Additionally jeans sizes are totally fucked up. My waist is not 30 inches, never has been. I wear my jeans around my hips which are at least 34 inches, yet somehow I still wear a 30 jeans
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    Oct 20, 2007 5:05 PM GMT
    Now, on the other hand, if there was a nice place where you could sit and have a beer, while the guys from these ads would come out and model items for you, it might almost be fun. Well, if lap-dances were included, I mean.
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    Oct 20, 2007 5:07 PM GMT
    I love shopping! Just not for clothes. Put me in an electronics store and I might end up buying 5 of each thing ;)
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    Oct 20, 2007 6:05 PM GMT
    Shopping for a pair of jeans yesterday left me totally frustrated. It's impossible to find a 32 or 33 waist in a 34 length unless you go to the young men's department. Unfortunately, anything in that department hangs half way down your butt, looks too worn and tattered to be donated to the Goodwill store, and costs a fortune. Just looking for something is frustrating! The damn merchandisers think the men's department should be divided up by designer, which means if you want jeans, you have to wander here and there and everywhere just to see what's available. I've got no patience for that nonsense, so I usually get pissed off and leave.
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    Oct 20, 2007 6:10 PM GMT
    I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum, OW (being skinny). Shopping is always frustrating because it seems that stores NEVER have smalls or if they do, they're too big. Express Men 1MX shirts size S are huge on me -- but their Modern Fit size S fit me just fine. So no, I don't enjoy mindlessly putting on clothes, especially when the items I *really* like don't fit me. But every so often the disappointment leads to elation when I find something that looks totally awesome.

    My way of coping with this is to find a few stores I like (so far it's Express and H&M and Banana Republic), stick to those stores' clothes, and not waste time in any of the other stores I know won't have my size.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 20, 2007 6:12 PM GMT
    Hey Dean... I wear a 33x34 in Levi's and don't have much of a problem finding them. I do have to try them on because no Levi's are alike it seems. I'm amazed what guys buy in A & F and others. Some of those jeans I wouldn't wear outside to mow my lawn.
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    Oct 20, 2007 6:20 PM GMT
    Shopping for CDs, DVDs or other truly exciting things like that = good.

    Shopping for clothing = insanely dull.

    There are times where I'd rather let my clothing-guru sister run out and buy me what she thinks I'll like and get it for me. I always like what she gets me because she always hates the look of it on her.

    Such is life.
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    Oct 20, 2007 6:35 PM GMT
    Really chungo? I have the exact opposite experience as you. I am generally 30 - 32 x32 and find that is usually the "standard" jean size - that is to say there is always tons in that size and even companies that do one standard length for all their jeans go about 32. Maybe you need to try new stores?
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    Oct 20, 2007 6:59 PM GMT
    You're right about Levis having more sizes, HndsmKansan. I used to wear 501s but they went to a unisex fit a few years ago and they're just not the same. So, even though they have my size, I don't buy Levis because I'm still mad about them changing the fit of 501s and I can't find another style that I like.

    The size variations on shirts that others have mentioned is something I've noticed as well. I have to try on everything.

    I've decided that the only thing I like shopping for is underwear. So, I guess I'll just have to settle for for a wardrobe of exciting underwear and orange jumpsuits.