I swear the best class i took in college was my humanities with Ms. Ansien.
We read the book "The Art of Loving" By Erich Fromm.
I've re-read it twice.
Erich says, that love is an art like painting or music or building a house. We all need to engage in this art and practice it and embrace it if we want it in our lives. We can't be scared of it. He believes there are 5 kinds of love:
-Self Love- the admiration we feel for ourselves
-Motherly Love- the love of nurturing and upbringing only to one day let go
-Love of God- faith and the trust in love that something bigger is protecting us.
-Brotherly Love- communal appreciation of people
-Erotic Love- intimacy and sharing of oneself
It's kinda cool his thoughts. I'm not afraid to love, better to have love and lost then to have never loved at all. If I am into someone I will give it my all. If I have reservations then will I not be fully trying? I don't say it to guys I am dating I'm scared of their reaction, but I can love someone or something for what they are and know it is love.
Like Gregstevenstx says, "There are a lot of feelings that masquerade as "love"."
There are a lot more feelings that masquerade anger like hurt, frustration, loneliness, hate. So the opposite is true joy, endorphans, experience, can overall mean... love.
So why are we afraid to say it? Do you not tell your best friend you Love them? It's a 'different kind of love'.
There's to much stigma involved.
Here from Amazon.com a Review on the book, which you should buy for $5.17 used.
By G. Merritt (Boulder, CO) - See all my reviews
This review is from: The Art of Loving (Perennial Classics) (Paperback
" This book belongs on the life changers shelf in the bookstore. Because modern man is alienated from himself, from his fellow men, and from nature, we seek refuge from our aloneness in the concepts of love and marriage (pp. 79-81). However, psychologist and social philosopher, Erich Fromm (1900-1980), observes that real love "is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone." It is only through developing one's total personality to the capacity of loving one's neighbor with "true humility, courage, faith and discipline" that one attains the capacity to experience real love. This should be considered a rare achievement (p. vii). The active character of true love, Fromm observes, involves the basic elements of care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge (p. 24).
Readers will be disappointed if they approach this book as a how-to book. Rather, Fromm's 1956 classic is more of an exploration into the theories of brotherly love, motherly love, erotic love, self-love, and the love of God (pp. 7-76), and an insightful examination into love's disintegration in contemporary Western culture (pp. 77-9
. We are starved for love, yet all our attempts to attain love in Western society are bound to fail. However, like art, Fromm observes that real love is possibile with discipline, concentration, patience, and a supreme concern for mastering love (pp. 99-123). For anyone interested in what it means to love, Fromm's book is a must read. "