So what's the best way to find friends on here? The worst way?

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    Mar 21, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    I'm really looking for friends to chat with on here. What are the best things to do and the worst things to do?
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    Mar 21, 2009 3:24 PM GMT
    Post on the forums and don't stalk people?
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    Mar 21, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    Well Rickman, I'd suggest using a pic that really conveys who you are.. to start... be friendly to everyone, participate in the forums to the degree you are comfortable...

    Don't ask people for their private pic before you even talk to them, want to cam, thats all out.

    Also don't be offended if someone doesn't send you a reply if you message them. You have people here that may be seemingly "here", but in fact they have already left, or may be away from the computer.

    Best of luck and welcome to RJ!
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    Mar 21, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    Read their profiles and find something in common.... talk normally. Have a profile that is not so long as to be boring, but detailed enough so that people CAN find talking points

    DON┬ĘT ask for cam2cam and then block them.

    ;)
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    Mar 21, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    These guys above have got it. Reply to threads, post your own, get engaged. The rest will fall into place.
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    Mar 21, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    OK - changed the profile picture based upon recommendations. I don't get into stalking people anyway, so there you go. I don't even own a webcam, so that's out anyway.

    Keep the suggestions coming!
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    Mar 21, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    Just one pointer - if you message people after reading their profiles or posts and thinking they're interesting, don't be disappointed if nine out of ten don't respond. At first I really thought there must be something severely wrong with me when nobody who I messaged wrote back. There will be some really nice guys who do respond though, so don't give up hope.
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    Mar 21, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    I'm not giving up hope, and I have met some really good guys on here. I just want to meet more really good guys and was wondering if the way I was acting (new to this whole online thing) was putting people off or not.
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    Mar 21, 2009 5:23 PM GMT
    I find that the more a guy tells about his interests in his profile, the more likely I am to chat him up. Short profiles dont give me enough to get find anything to get interested in the guy.
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    Mar 21, 2009 5:28 PM GMT

    Be equally visible on the forums and the chatroom! Firstly, observe... then test the waters... then plunge in... in other words, start a flame war! Now I think that answers both your queschunz! icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif
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    Mar 21, 2009 8:21 PM GMT
    Jamesrific saidPost on the forums and don't stalk people?


    I agree with this, apart from the bit about stalking. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 21, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    I'd say get poractive and ad your 2 cents like everyone else here. Start a pthread and see how it does and don't be afraid to take a chance and just send the occassional "hi" to someone you think is insteresting. Worse case scenario is that they don't respond back. No love lost I guess.


    The worst way would be complaining why no one has contacted you yet or becoming the annoying email/profile stalker. No one likes that.
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    Mar 21, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
    Whatever you do, don't start a "would you _____ the guy above you?" thread. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 21, 2009 9:02 PM GMT
    Laugh uproariously at all the LOLcats!

    funny pictures
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    Mar 22, 2009 2:35 AM GMT

    So what's the best way to find friends on here?

    One good way is what you're doing right now, Rickman!


    Welcome to RJ!
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    Mar 22, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
    best way...message them and say hi

    worst way...message them and say hi
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    Mar 22, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
    icon_lol.gif too cool.
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    Mar 22, 2009 3:36 AM GMT
    It's hit or miss. From reading previous threads on this topic, there are guys out there that are not interested in direct communication at all, unless you fit some criteria of theirs.

    From my observations, it's just better to hang out in the forums. You really get to know people better.