Well Rickman, I'd suggest using a pic that really conveys who you are.. to start... be friendly to everyone, participate in the forums to the degree you are comfortable...
Don't ask people for their private pic before you even talk to them, want to cam, thats all out.
Also don't be offended if someone doesn't send you a reply if you message them. You have people here that may be seemingly "here", but in fact they have already left, or may be away from the computer.
Best of luck and welcome to RJ!