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I'm really looking for friends to chat with on here. What are the best things to do and the worst things to do?

Post on the forums and don't stalk people?

Well Rickman, I'd suggest using a pic that really conveys who you are.. to start... be friendly to everyone, participate in the forums to the degree you are comfortable...

Don't ask people for their private pic before you even talk to them, want to cam, thats all out.

Also don't be offended if someone doesn't send you a reply if you message them. You have people here that may be seemingly "here", but in fact they have already left, or may be away from the computer.

Best of luck and welcome to RJ!

Read their profiles and find something in common.... talk normally. Have a profile that is not so long as to be boring, but detailed enough so that people CAN find talking points

DON¨T ask for cam2cam and then block them.

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These guys above have got it. Reply to threads, post your own, get engaged. The rest will fall into place.

Lostboy said

DON¨T ask for cam2cam and then block them.

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Talking from personal experience, eh LB?

Now why would someone do that to you?

I personally don't recommend taking internet interaction all that seriously. I was lucky to make a buddy from here who literally lives around the corner from me.

He's been by far the most reliable good friend I have made from the internet.

He once came to visit me in the hospital during my many treatments battling cancer.

He once lent me software to install on my computer.

You guys all love him on here.

Shall I tell you who he is?

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GuerillaSodomite!!!

OK - changed the profile picture based upon recommendations. I don't get into stalking people anyway, so there you go. I don't even own a webcam, so that's out anyway.

Keep the suggestions coming!

Just one pointer - if you message people after reading their profiles or posts and thinking they're interesting, don't be disappointed if nine out of ten don't respond. At first I really thought there must be something severely wrong with me when nobody who I messaged wrote back. There will be some really nice guys who do respond though, so don't give up hope.

I'm not giving up hope, and I have met some really good guys on here. I just want to meet more really good guys and was wondering if the way I was acting (new to this whole online thing) was putting people off or not.

I find that the more a guy tells about his interests in his profile, the more likely I am to chat him up. Short profiles dont give me enough to get find anything to get interested in the guy.

Be equally visible on the forums and the chatroom! Firstly, observe... then test the waters... then plunge in... in other words, start a flame war! Now I think that answers both your queschunz!

Jamesrific saidPost on the forums and don't stalk people?

I agree with this, apart from the bit about stalking.

I'd say get poractive and ad your 2 cents like everyone else here. Start a pthread and see how it does and don't be afraid to take a chance and just send the occassional "hi" to someone you think is insteresting. Worse case scenario is that they don't respond back. No love lost I guess.


The worst way would be complaining why no one has contacted you yet or becoming the annoying email/profile stalker. No one likes that.

Whatever you do, don't start a "would you _____ the guy above you?" thread.

Laugh uproariously at all the LOLcats!

muchmorethanmuscle said GuerillaSodomite!!!

I'm not surprised. GS is a mensch.

So what's the best way to find friends on here?

One good way is what you're doing right now, Rickman!


Welcome to RJ!

best way...message them and say hi

worst way...message them and say hi

too cool.

It's hit or miss. From reading previous threads on this topic, there are guys out there that are not interested in direct communication at all, unless you fit some criteria of theirs.

From my observations, it's just better to hang out in the forums. You really get to know people better.