What do you do to keep the "spark" alive?

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    Mar 21, 2009 7:01 PM GMT
    This is for all those couples who are in LTRs (say, more than 5 years). First, I think it's fantastic - I admire any couple (gay or straight) that is in it for the long term. But what do you do to keep things exciting and new? Does it ever get boring?
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    Mar 22, 2009 3:02 AM GMT


    Never gets boring! What keeps the spark alive is partly realizing how lucky we are, thorough appreciation of each other, and above all, the compassion that encompasses the love we share.


    -Doug of meninlove
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    Mar 22, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
    Oh, that's easy...I cheated on him whenever he was out of town.
  • Hagan_F

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    Mar 23, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    a car battery and jumper cables.
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    Apr 01, 2009 10:16 PM GMT
    I'm in a VERY LTR (33 years), so I think I can speak to this "keeping the spark alive" thing pretty well:

    1. Keep the lines of communication open: if there's something about the relationship that isn't satisfying, let your partner know that (in as kind and loving a fashion as possible); and make sure that street runs both ways.

    2. Keep your mind open: if your partner says, "I'd like to try _____", unless it's likely to leave permanent scars or something, give it a try. And if you didn't like it, you can say, "I tried it, I really didn't like it."

    3. Sometimes the spark goes out. Have some patience, and give it a chance to come back.
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    Apr 02, 2009 5:28 AM GMT
    Hagan_F saida car battery and jumper cables.
    I was thinking a high voltage power line or a stun gun......
  • Delivis

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    Apr 02, 2009 5:43 AM GMT
    We use a hair dryer in the shower...while making toast.
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    Apr 02, 2009 6:48 AM GMT
    my word how incredibly multitasking of you delivis..
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    Apr 02, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    Every outdoor survival guide I've read says that to keep a spark alive and glowing, you cup it between your hands and blow gently.

    Oh. Wrong spark? My bad.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 02, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    I find exchanging swift, hard blows to each others heads to induce memory loss helps keep things fresh and interesting. You get to know each other all over again.
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    Apr 02, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    zdrew saidEvery outdoor survival guide I've read says that to keep a spark alive and glowing, you cup it between your hands and blow gently.

    Oh. Wrong spark? My bad.


    ive got something for ya to cup between your hands and blow on....
  • armsandaheart

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    Apr 02, 2009 3:27 PM GMT
    Big thing is to keep your own self on a path of continual growth - if you keep yourself growing, interesting, challenged - well, it can't help but contribute to the "spark" in the relationship. Other big thing to me is communication - keep it open, talk, challenge and have a soft heart for any mistakes that happen. Finally, appreciate what you have and be grateful for it. My 2-cents.
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    Apr 13, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    Ether

    Handcuffs

    Lots of begging