Guys who "get around"

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    Mar 22, 2009 4:44 AM GMT
    I've recently fallen for a guy who I've only met once, but for some reason I am now head over heals for him. He seems like a really nice guy and I'm very attracted to him, but apparently he gets around and his want for hooking up all of the time has been an issue in a previous relationship that I am aware of.

    Do guys like this ever like just being in a relationship or are some guys never interested in that?

    I feel like I should know better than to even bother with him, but it's hard. We're both 19 and in college, if that gives you some more insight into the situation.


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    Mar 22, 2009 11:08 AM GMT
    You now, this happens even when you are much older! You fall for a lovely guy and want to be with him but he has fun with lots of other guys. And it can 'do your head in'. But i think the answer is that is just how he is - so best not to try to change him Just enjoy him while you can - but always check out discreetly that he is safe from a health point of view
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    Mar 22, 2009 12:06 PM GMT
    He is still in that "Slut" phase . Enjoy him for what he is worth.
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    Mar 22, 2009 2:14 PM GMT
    One of your questions was if we ever wanted to be in a relationship.
    About 35 to 45% of all gay men are in some form of a relationship at any given time.

    If you only met each other once and since you are both 19, I might recommend that you just keep your head clear about the possibility that this is so new that it's difficult to get a handle on where things will go.
    Actually, I think I'd say that if you were 49...it's too new to tell how things will go. Relax if you can and try to enjoy the time you have with this person and only do what you feel comfortable doing.

    Good luck!
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    Mar 22, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    At your age (19) guys priorities are "sex, food, sex, sleep, sex, sex, food, sports, sleep... You get the point. I include heteros in this generalization.

    A minority of guys are of the dating type (moi, and my brother for example), but don't be surprised if you start dating this guy, that he develops wandering eyes early.
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    Mar 22, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    TRACKBOY111 saidHe is still in that "Slut" phase . Enjoy him for what he is worth.

    Likely the case. Plus I dated an older guy my age for a while, who absolutely refused to settle down with me, or anyone. Some men are never interested in an LTR, and if they're gay, they have even less motivation than straight guys to get serious with just one other person.
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    Mar 22, 2009 7:57 PM GMT

    Only time can help him. That said, you need to lighten up as well.
    At that age, what does falling for a guy mean anyway? If I remember correctly, it means: you really like him so you don't want anyone else getting their grubby mitts on him! Your definition of falling for will change as you get older. That one, the whole campus has their mitts on.
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    Mar 22, 2009 8:42 PM GMT
    If you dwell on someone's past then you'll be left behind in their future.
  • jgymnast733

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    Mar 22, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
    Maybe it'll be different with you, and maybe not... Some guys simply just never get enough..Loving someone who dosent love you has to be the worst feeling in the world.....Then again, Mr.Right could be just around the corner..
    Dont give up hope...
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    Mar 22, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Blue316 saidI've recently fallen for a guy who I've only met once, but for some reason I am now head over heals for him. He seems like a really nice guy and I'm very attracted to him, but apparently he gets around and his want for hooking up all of the time has been an issue in a previous relationship that I am aware of.

    Do guys like this ever like just being in a relationship or are some guys never interested in that?

    I feel like I should know better than to even bother with him, but it's hard. We're both 19 and in college, if that gives you some more insight into the situation.




    I know exactly what you are talking about. I think its a real turn off when a guy sleeps with anyone who will have him. Most guys our age seem to be stuck in a slut phase. Some don't grow out of it, some do. I personally skipped that phase.
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    Mar 22, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice!

    I guess there is no way to really predict how things will go, I just wanted to see if this situation has a tendency to play out the same way. I've never really been interested in relationships either, but now the idea of just having one person to spend time with is kind of comforting, even if it's not long-term.