Distorted body image

  • DuggerPDX

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    Mar 23, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    Chuckystud made a comment to another poster about a distorted body image the person might have. It turns out to be a timely subject for me. I was heavy for a number of years, and can't get that image out of my head when I look in the mirror now. I consider myself pretty self-aware and fairly level headed, so I recognize what's going on, but I'll be dammed if I can't get beyond it. I'm hoping time and a little positive thinking is going to do the trick.

    Curious if anyone else has had the same issues.

  • Timbales

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    Mar 23, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    I view my being fat like someone who is an alcoholic. I'll always be fat, in danger of falling off the wagon no matter what my bodyfat percentage is or how I appear.

    It is funny, though. People have commented to me on how much I've lost, but when I look in the mirror I still see the problem areas and it doesn't look like I've lost much.
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    Mar 23, 2009 9:41 PM GMT
    You may suffer from body dysmorphic disorder. Body dysmorphic disorder is a type of chronic illness in which you can't stop thinking about a flaw with your appearance. Included in body dysmorphia is anorexia nervosa and the opposite end of the spectrum bigorexia. Bigorexics see them themselves as puny even though they may be buff. They develop an obsession for building muscle. The disease can range from just being an irritation to totally disabling. Like you, I lost considerable amount of weight. I still see myself as overweight even though my friends think I'm getting too thin. I don't feel that my problem is so bad that it is necessary to seek professional help. If you want to read more about body dysmorphic disorder, here is a link to the Mayo Clinic.

    http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/body-dysmorphic-disorder/DS00559
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    Mar 23, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    Boy can I relate...

    Although I am on the other end of this spectrum. I have an issue with thinking that I always look to thin. I spent a considerable amount of time putting on some weight and now I think that I am fat (which really isn't the case).

    I have to turn to my best friends for an honest opinion, because I cannot tell. I think that many years of high end competition has warped the perception of my own body image. I find it kind of sad.

    I think there are more of us out there. It is just that many haven't even recognized the issue yet.

    BTW if the pics show your weight loss... Good for you!!!! You look great! Keep up the healthy living.
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    Mar 23, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    I also was a very heavy child and teenager. I was close to 100kg nearly all throughout my teenage years and this has, like Dugger, effected me in much the same way.

    I have been diagnosed with Body Dysmorphic Disorder a number of years ago. I am very obsessive about my appearance which causes so much trouble with my mental and emotional balances, as well as my relationships with others. Even to this day, it takes effort to even look in a mirror, I am the master of bypassing mirrors without taking a glance. If I do, Ill spend the next hour analyzing what I saw. You can imagine how difficult it makes keeping progress of how my weight lifting is progressing.

    Anyone who has experienced a mental disorder, from depression to anxiety, can agree that it can become very debilitating.

    Dugger - You can get help from professionals if you think it is too overwhelming to tackle on your own. I had cognitive therapy for nearly 6 months a few years ago. It did help and I slowly make improvements and I don't obsess as much anymore.

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    Mar 23, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    DuggerPDX saidChuckystud made a comment to another poster about a distorted body image the person might have. It turns out to be a timely subject for me. I was heavy for a number of years, and can't get that image out of my head when I look in the mirror now. I consider myself pretty self-aware and fairly level headed, so I recognize what's going on, but I'll be dammed if I can't get beyond it. I'm hoping time and a little positive thinking is going to do the trick.

    Curious if anyone else has had the same issues.



    Describes me totally. Everyone tells me I look thin,but I look in the mirror and I see the opposite. My mother is always even saying my eye balls are coming out of my eye socket.
  • Rowing_Ant

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    Mar 23, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    Oh yeah. I am Iso touchy or paranoid about my weight and height.

    My family have all tended to being on the large size but also tall. My mom was 5' 10"...but Im only 5' 4"!

    I was bullied like mad at school for being short - nothing I can do about that - and also for being fat. And that has stuck with me. Even when I was 60kilos and 10% body fat I thought I was fat and ugly.

    Now I am around 70kilos and 18% body fat and dont train as often as Id like due to work and stuff...I am even more paranoid. I think I am fat, obese even....which blatently isnt true but am still very....touchy about it.

    I think my face looks fat, old and puffy. And ugly. Im sure its not.

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    Mar 23, 2009 10:58 PM GMT
    I still think I'm skinnier than I am.
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    Mar 23, 2009 11:29 PM GMT
    Bigorexia? And here I was thinking it was just called vanity!icon_twisted.gif
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    Mar 23, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    Self-image is remarkably complex. When I look in a mirror I see more of the guy I was years ago, mentally superimposed over the reflection staring back at me. When I look at my photograph, though, I see more of the reality, the older, heavier me.

    Another example: I've always thought my wrists to be very thin & spindly. I thought my late partner had very thick wrists, much stouter than mine.

    One evening I asked to borrow one of his wristwatches. But I couldn't get the band to fit me, it was much too tight! I asked him to put it on his own wrist in front of me; it fit him just fine! I made him go through that drill several times, as I tried the watch again and then he did, back & forth, unable to believe my own eyes.

    I even placed my wrist against his, and my wrist still looked thinner than his! Yet the evidence of the watch band was undeniable. How could my eyes continue to deceive me like that, even after logic told me they were wrong?

    That incident taught me how much our senses can trick us, especially about ourselves.
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    Mar 24, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    Dig_For_Fire said
    Blackguy4you saidBigorexia? And here I was thinking it was just called vanity!icon_twisted.gif


    I know a bunch of bodybuilders who joke about "bigemia". They see themselves as too small, but they are really land monsters.


    perhaps you can refer them to the Mayo clinic or a shrink. Sounds to me like they've got a serious case! icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 24, 2009 12:46 AM GMT
    Dig_For_Fire saidI know a bunch of bodybuilders who joke about "bigemia". They see themselves as too small, but they are really land monsters.


    Aww. I wanna be a land monster.
    walters_tyrannosaurus.jpg

    Well, with bigger arms.
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    Mar 24, 2009 12:46 AM GMT
    It is so hard to love our bodies as they are. For me, it is a constant struggle.
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    Mar 24, 2009 1:01 AM GMT
    gear saidI think all guys have it. " Bigger is Better right? "


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    Mar 24, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    BradySF saidIt is so hard to love our bodies as they are. For me, it is a constant struggle.


    I can not imagine why? You are fucking hott.
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    Mar 24, 2009 11:05 PM GMT
    Doesn't matter how many guys tell me how hot I am, I still feel like the pimply teenager with glasses and spare tire at times. Worst part is when I look at pics from 20 years ago now, I realize how good I looked then, but never could accept. I stopped comparing myself to the photoshopped images in fitness-mags, but when I see those dream-bodies at my gyms, I get so depressed...
  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 24, 2009 11:39 PM GMT
    Can you have all of the above? I was a fairly fat kid until I hit my growth spurt and was exercising some leading to being way skinny (125 lbs at 5'11"/6' at age 19).

    I have made muscle gains but have yo-yoed a bit with body fat percentage. I will see myself as being incredibly skinny one day to feeling fat the next (or worse yet, both simultaneously just in different areas of my body - fat in the stomach, bones in the arms for example). It pisses me off because I am always lamenting one side or the other. Even if people compliment my body, I think to myself that they have know idea what they're talking about and invalidate their opinion. It's kinda bizzarre.
  • nhnelson

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    Mar 24, 2009 11:52 PM GMT
    dude.
    I feel you.
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    Mar 25, 2009 4:48 AM GMT
    I met a homeless guy once; he asked for money, I told him sorry and left.

    He said, "Don't be sorry; be silly!"

    Then he told me to lose some weight, that I'm fat.

    ....

    Then he immediately told me to eat something, that I'm skinny.

    WHICH IS IT?

    I guess it's neither....icon_exclaim.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 4:55 AM GMT
    I am stating to think more and more that I have this. It's never enought what I do, which I guess can be good because I'm really focused and have even been inspired to go organic. Just wait until I'm 19, imagine me when I'm 25 icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 26, 2009 2:42 AM GMT
    There's a lot of pressure from different sources, especially the media, to look a certain way... thankfully, some people are mature enough to appreciate that personality and substance is more engaging than looks in the long run. If you want to see how far our image of the body has been distorted, check out the Olympic athletes and you'll see that not all of them have the stereotypical lean and mean or muscly athletic body--- they are all different sizes and shapes and some actually look quite chubby.
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    Mar 26, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    hobronto said

    Well, with bigger arms.


    Actual laugh out loud.
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    Mar 26, 2009 7:40 AM GMT
    Yup I'm a 220lb muscle freak stuck in a puny 170lb body icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 26, 2009 7:42 AM GMT
    AMT87 saidYup I'm a 220lb muscle freak stuck in a puny 170lb body icon_sad.gif


    awwww I like you puny body icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 06, 2009 11:37 PM GMT
    I can totally relate to what you posted. I used to be a potbelly, untamed cowlike combed over, wandering eye with crooked tiger frame glasses, high waters until 3rd grade, never got new shirts until 5th grade wearing, overbite with every tooth crooked smiling little dork/nerd/geek as a child. Somewhere along the line I got better glasses, control over my eye, braces, of course new clothes, style and an unexplainable afinity for my hair and many hairstyles I could pull off. Sure I know I look decent, but I don't see myself anything more than an average looking guy who managed to attract someones attention in a good way(sometimes it's the wrong kind of attention). I'm as plain vanilla, with an occasional swirl of extra flavor here and there.