Not sure if it is ironic or something else...

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    Oct 22, 2007 10:21 AM GMT
    There are a lot of different things that make me view a profile and add a person to my hot list. It might be visual in terms of body or picture impact, or it might be the way the person expresses themselves - the right words can be very sexy.

    Sometimes i come across a profile so full of itself that i am not sure if the person is being serious. I saw one where after giving detailed criteria for the person he wanted to meet, he ended with "i am a really laid back person". Is this irony or is there another word to describe it when a person seems to be accidentally mocking them self?
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    Oct 22, 2007 11:51 AM GMT
    Lack of editing skills. I bet most guys just write up their profile and before hitting "save" do not bother to go back, read and make sure they wrote something that makes sense.
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    Oct 22, 2007 2:13 PM GMT
    Cluelessness...the man is clueless
    Egotistical...the man is focused solely on himself...he will never find anyone
    Selfish...probably a subset of egotistical, but essential when it comes to having a relationship...

    When I read profiles that have such detailed descriptions, I see a void in the exact space of a person that this person has in his life. And anybody who doesnt exactly fit that void ...or deviates from the void during the relation... is toast. So of course that guy will never be able to form a relationship with another living being.

    I think it is just a sign of immaturity. ...a warning sign for the rest of us to steer clear.
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    Oct 22, 2007 2:16 PM GMT
    Are you taking guess's as to who it was? Cause I know I have one in mind...
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    Oct 22, 2007 3:01 PM GMT
    I think you are right Caslon and it is mainly an immaturity thing. On the other hand we are such a consumer society now that i think many will believe it is perfectly reasonable to pre-order by attribute you soul mate - or if not a life partner, a cyber shag.

    I also suspect that i had a slight knee jerk reaction to it because i didn't fit the constraints. oh well, my cuppa and all that icon_smile.gif

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    Oct 22, 2007 4:25 PM GMT
    Theres an issue with many people of today and it can only be described as cluelessness. People who believe themselves to be so sincere and kind and laid back, when really they have already decided what they want out of everyone around them to the smallest detail and are not willing to compromise.

    Egotism disguised as Idealism as P.D. James would put it.

    Another issue is that so many people say that they are laid back because that is what everyone wants these days. Its not always so much that they are, as it is what they aspire to be, because god forbid if anyone should ever come into contact with someone who has emotions or gets stressed out, or takes a subject or two too seriously.

    Everyone wants perfection and has completely forgotten about how beautiful flaws can be. I fall for people because their flaws believe it or not.

    I would like to blame it all on the concept of Mcdonaldlization, people becomming obsessed with the pratical and predictable. People expected things to be available and straight from a shelf as they want it and like it, but I think that these are issues that have existed for a while.

    Do I have expectations out of a future mate? I'd say I do, however they are not concepts etched in stone. Each person is unique and different, I'd be a fool to limit myself in such a way. All I ask of people is that they be open, that they do not expect me to be like them and that they actually have something to say. And at the top of my list, don't have issues with me being black, its just stupid. You'd be surprised how many people avoid me because of it
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    Oct 22, 2007 7:24 PM GMT
    damn for a bunch of athletes yall complain about a lot of shit

    its called sayin wut you wanna say man. yall don't like it don't read. I ain't shit in my profile man, wut you don't like that too?
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    Oct 22, 2007 8:52 PM GMT
    Is bigboi's profile the ultimate in irony?

    And no picture either. How very grown up.
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    Oct 23, 2007 6:21 AM GMT
    Loved your post Sirkyous as i think you are exactly right. It is all about the flaws.

    I have a friend (straight) who is so laid back that i sometimes think he is asleep. He is rarely phased and almost everyone who meets him finds him likeable and admirable. There are parts of me that would like to be like him..... but if i was i would not do many of the things of which i am proud, things i have been pushed to do by passionate interest.

    I think overly dramatic people can be very high maintenance and hard work but i like a guy who is passionate and i accept that sometimes people like that go off the rails occasionally. So what? I can take it as i am a big boy.

    And yes,, "bigboi"'s profile is funny. Just that one word sitting there - says so much really.

    For the hidden member complaining about what he perceives as people complaining - that might be irony icon_smile.gif Funnily it seems to come from the biased idea that people interested in physical fitness would have no intellectual interests.
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    Oct 23, 2007 10:25 AM GMT
    This is fantasyland. Irony is rich and appearances are deceiving. If you want to assess the man? TALK TO HIM.