We all know what YOU would do, but do you think others (non-gays) would help?
My experiences in Minneapolis, which has the 4th highest gay population in the United States in comparison to the population, taught me a few things - one being that if other gay people won't even come in to assist another gay person being bashed or harassed, nobody else will either. Almost all the gay clubs in Minneapolis are along Hennepin Avenue downtown, which rub elbows with the 'black' clubs and 'latin' clubs as well as strip bars. All three tend to attract the most sexist, uneducated, macho straight men who are more than willing to jack a well-dressed gay guy for whatever he's got in his wallet, his credit cards, whatever. They all seem to know that after midnight, the city cops are out tending to other things, and gay men are the easiest prey because the cops aren't going to respond. Since the gay guys appear to have had a few drinks, look like their rich by the way they're dressed (our own fault I think), all you have to do is walk down that avenue and take the wrong turn, and you've got three or four guys holding a knife to your throat or a gun to your head or throwing you to the ground and kicking your head in - just for fun. I've heard of gay men who outnumbered these kinds of guys who simply started walking in the other direction - didn't call anyone, didn't do anything. It was the gay guys fault for walking alone, right? It's not their problem so why should they care about him?
I don't know what the answer is. I see one segment of the gay community who doesn't give a shit unless something is happening to themselves personally, and I see another very small segment who is trying to arrange safe travel between the two popular gay bars which sit 8 blocks from each other along Hennepin Avenue - but one must walk past these other clubs in order to get there. Because many of the gay guys going to the clubs are such rude bitches, most don't want to be seen with someone they don't know, so the whole 'walking in groups' thing kind of went out the window on day one. So much for trying to protect each other! I guess the more I saw of that, the less faith I had in gay men. Gay women, I think, would definitely stand up for each other and do whatever they had to in order to remain safe. But because gay men are so hellbent on looks, age, 'what can you do for me', etc., the sense of helping each other - even in the lowest common denominator (safety while walking to gay establishments) - that speaks volumes about what we really think of each other and how far we HAVEN'T come over the last four decades. If we are too embarrassed to be seen around other gay people, imagine what straight people really think about us when we aren't around. They're not any more enlightened than we are.[/quote]
If I saw that happening up on Hennepin, I'd reach into my trunk and pull out the 5-iron, because I wouldn't care if I broke that club in the process of beating the s**t out of bashers. It wouldn't have crossed my mind that it could happen when I lived in LA, but now that I'm back in the Midwest it's like my gay Spidey-sense reactivated and my first reaction to a taunt is to throw a punch. Hasn't happened yet, but almost.
Best way to make a bully stop is to beat the crap out of him.