Love,Empathy and Forseight

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    Oct 22, 2007 6:59 PM GMT
    Ok, we all know I am the last person to post a topic on here, mostly considering the fact that I never have,
    but there's been a lot of talk about love and relationships on RJ and there are also a lot of people on here that seem to be living proof that gay relationships are possible.

    On a recent topic someone asked a question about love and I found myself looking to the only 2 accounts of it that I have and I remember that there was this extreme empathy that I felt with them.

    So extreme that I'd wake up knowing that something has happened to them or that they were not happy or well and end up finding out that I was right. This led me to question whether this applied to anyone else other than myself.

    So to all those people in love at the moment,or those who have been before, or simply people who have loved ones in their lives:

    1. do you find that the more you care about someone the more mentally linked you seem to be with them as in knowing what they're going to say before they say it. Knowing they are going to call you before they call you. Feeling their pain or joy without having them say so or even being around?

    2. If you experience this phenomenon, do you think its important in a relationship?

    3. Do you have any examples from your own life?
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    Oct 22, 2007 7:20 PM GMT
    wut da fuck yo ass suppose to be ms. cleo or something!
    wut you psychic? nigga pleaseicon_lol.gif
    thats why you ain't gettin no replies
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    Oct 22, 2007 7:42 PM GMT
    nah for real though man. I'm sorry sum times I get bored. We gotta stick together man. i know wut you mean. It ain't happen to me though.
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    Oct 22, 2007 7:43 PM GMT
    when I said that just now I fuckin lied
    you a bitch man you a pussy ass sell out yo ass wish you was white don't you?
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    Oct 22, 2007 9:15 PM GMT
    I'm one of those in a LTR. I'm also extremely empathetic/sensitive to almost everyone...but, not my partner. I cannot tell what my partner is thinking, what he's going to say, nor what he's going to do next...we have simply never been on that wave length. Is it important in our relationship? I don't think so...we've gotten by without it for a long time. We both think it's rather amusing that we do think/act differently. I'm orderly/anal retentive...he's very creative; we are constantly amazed that there are at least two correct ways to do almost everything.
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    Oct 22, 2007 9:36 PM GMT
    Dear Bigboi313

    Wow do you seriously have nothing else better to do with your time? Most people would probably stoop down to your level, but honestly I don't have the time for it. I'm better than that and if anything I feel sorry for you because you are the reason why so many do not take me seriously. Your ignorance and your inconsiderateness makes the rest of us look like fools. You say we need to stick to together, well start off by sticking to something that will make you a better person. Anyone willing to waste their time antagonizing strangers with what is clearly a fake profile must clearly have issues in their own life.

    If I was religious I'd pray for you. Sense I am not, I will simply hope that you find some form of intillectual enlightenment.

    of course you are deleted now, but if you should read this comment know that you are not hated,but simly disliked because of your ignorance.

    now as you said when I emailed you to try to talk about this peacefully... Fuck off.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 22, 2007 10:06 PM GMT
    Hey Sirk,
    You gave us a great question, sorry that you had someone respond like that. You didn't need to even respond to his comments, must of us on here are clued in enough to know someone whos asking a legitimate question and someone who shouldn't be on this site at all.

    I think your question is an important one. I think if you are truly in love and care about the person you are involved with, you try and gain the insight, gain the understanding to anticipate their actions and whats important to them. I think it works sometimes, at others not. If you are dating or involved with a man who you lack that "special wavelength", I don't think thats cause for concern. You may just have different personalities or are coming from different directions. I think conveying your love, admiration and respect through your actions is always the way to go.

    Keep up the good questions and comments, most of us here want to hear them.icon_smile.gif
  • phill

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    Oct 22, 2007 11:18 PM GMT
    1. I find that i have a high empathy rating for most people. I'm extreamly good at telling what others are feeling even if they haven't noticed themselves. With partners i have never found that empathy with all of them. Out of 4 only two i have felt what they have felt. I think also we tend to become closer to people we can emotively understand and empathetically relate to. It just creates a bond. With my friends this is a truism. I am tuned in to what they are thinking and at times even across great distances i can sense something is wrong.

    2. If you experience this phenomenon, do you think its important in a relationship?

    I think it is important to a certain extend. It depends on the emotive response and why they are triggered. Sometimes i could feel things were wrong and it was too much for me to handle or bare. I am more emotionally stable and capable of separating the feelings of others from my own whereas i was not able to before. I would in essence take on the burden of that emotion thinking it was mine.

    3. Do you have any examples from your own life?
    I have listed my experiences above but not entirely. I grew up with a mother that was a psychic, and the trait is valued in my family and identified early on. While i am no were near as accurate as my mother i find that the ability bread true with me.
  • trebor965

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    Oct 22, 2007 11:19 PM GMT
    good for you! if i wasnt so frigid emotionally, i might have gotten goose bumps.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Nov 04, 2007 7:21 AM GMT

    You seem to be a kind, caring and sensitive guy yourself and when love finds YOU, I am sure you will experience all the things you mentioned!

    Fortunately I have been in a mutual loving relationship a few times.
    In all cases it was as you said... we felt eachother's joy and pain, could "feel" when they were going to call....and I'll add some more; felt connected even when we were far away physically, felt a great sense of peace and fulufllment when sleeping together and waking up together... it gets BETTER!.....

    I miss my last BF a great deal and hope love like that finds me and my special person again. I also wish that fro YOU!

    -- Ron
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    Feb 14, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    I just came across the forum topic. Absolutely on all three. I have been with my partner for 10 years and you do get sub-conscious vibes about waht each other is feeling and thinking. If you are not getting those then you may not be right for each other. I think it helps that we have similar personalities (we are both introverted). I have seen couples who are opposites and they are constantly miscommunicating and fighting.