DATING A DEAF GUY.... Would you?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 25, 2009 12:26 PM GMT
    I recently met a gay guy here in Wichita who is deaf. He's a friend of a friend of mine. We had a nice polite conversation (via notes... I'm not
    educated as to sign language or "cued speech", but would like to learn so as to get to know him effectively). He can write with the best of them and
    does so via e-mail.

    After we met we had a nice conversation. He wanted to date me and I explained I was involved already, but would enjoy his friendship.
    Upon discussion, he told me that he's never had a long term bf and few
    guys hook up with him (he's 27) because he's deaf. Trust me, he doesn't lack sexual confidence. I thought it unfortunate that he gets the brush off because he was born deaf.

    So my question. Would you date a deaf... or for that matter a blind guy?
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    Mar 25, 2009 12:28 PM GMT
    I would definitely date a deaf or mute person. Not too sure about a blind guy though. In fact... I'dprobably in a weird/creepy way find it kinda cute.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 25, 2009 12:44 PM GMT
    I would have no issues dating someone deaf if we were compatible in other ways.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 25, 2009 12:46 PM GMT
    If I were single, I think I would date just about anyone, so long as they were nice. When I say nice, I mean nice on the inside.

    I think you can learn a lot from people that are different from you. My biggest problem would be communicating with a deaf guy. I can't spell to save my life, so I guess I would have to learn the language icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 12:51 PM GMT
    if he is cute and sweet then definitely
  • Tennis_Tom

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    Mar 25, 2009 12:53 PM GMT
    I have 2 deaf friends and both of them lip read very well, Ive never needed to write notes ever. You just need to make the words a bit bigger with your mouth, kind of like your lips are exaggerating.

    One of them started teaching me sign language and its actually very fun to do although apparently each country has its own sign language which i think is a shame
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 25, 2009 1:04 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said Chris tells me that the sex is more intense because they connect on an animal level that is a little untraditional to you and I.




    I figured you had a pretty good grasp on that Tony....LOL
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    Mar 25, 2009 1:06 PM GMT
    Yep. I dunno about a blind guy though. But probably yep too, depending on how self-reliant he is.
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    Sure I would if there was interested in both parties, but alas very married.
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:25 PM GMT


    When your heart goes twang it doesn't care if deafness blindness or speechlessness is present, does it?

    I believe the heart has eyes, ears and a voice all its own.


    -Doug of meninlove


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    Mar 25, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    Sure would....and it would give me reason to learn a new form of communication.
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:51 PM GMT
    I can only dream of being with a guy who won't insult my guitar playing!
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:51 PM GMT
    There are tons of hot deaf guys in 78704 (S. ATX). Some of them are quite rowdy.
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
    I would...
    I would just need to learn sign language!
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    Mar 25, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    Did. It didn't work out. Not because of the deafness. Just different 'wants"
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    I'd have no problem with it. I already know the sign for "fuck" so I'd be good to go. icon_lol.gif

    Seriously, though, as long as I was able to communicate with him, I wouldn't care. My friend has taught me some signs, mostly dirty words, but it seems like something I could learn fairly quickly and it never hurts to have a new skill.
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    Absolutely!!
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:29 PM GMT
    Absolutely! As long as the chemistry between two people is there--it shouldn't matter.

    Besides, my understanding is that people with communication challenges such as the deaf or even the blind are more tolerable of personal and physical flaws or imperfections.

    I dislike saying this but we in our community dwell too much on the physical imperfections; whether it be small or insignificant, before we get to know a person.

    I would love to date such highly sensed men.

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    Mar 25, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    I know sign language and work as a sign language interpreter .I learned sign language because my parents , sister , and several other extended family are deaf . So its native for me.

    I would date a deaf guy because it would not be a big deal for me. I havent had the opporunity up till now but that is just because of finding the right 'match' (regardless of hearing or deaf status). My former partner of 10 years was hearing and obviously no need to look elsewhere. Once that was finished, I did have flings but not a LTR.

    Having said that I have met and seen other folks who have started to date guys that were deaf and watched as they naturally learned sign language just by being willing to spend time with the person. Sign language is like any language. If you are patient, and willing to immerse your self in that language, you have to eventually pick something up.

    For those who said they are curious about learning, courses are being offered all the time in community ed settings, community colleges, and other colleges and universities. I have actuallly taught several myself in my own community. Look up the educational classes in your community, I am sure somewhere they are being offered. Interesting discusssion!
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    Sure, I have even known guys in wheelchairs I would get involved with. As long as there is someone I can connect with and there is an initial attraction, I am sure I would date anyone.
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:34 PM GMT
    sure.....not a problem
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    Mar 25, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    I would if there were a connection...and it would be an awesome way to make our own secret language icon_wink.gif
  • Rookz

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    Mar 25, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    I would date a mute gay, no lip, just tongue.
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    Mar 25, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    I worked with guy that was deaf and it seemed like it was a lot easier to communicate with him than some of my other coworkers. He was actually a lot more fun too, and it was cool that I could just lip talk to him (we'd make fun of customers) -- works better than whispering!

    Similar to a previous reply, I think it would actually make me more interested in a guy.
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    Mar 25, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    absolutely!