What things do you forgive online?

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    Mar 25, 2009 8:59 PM GMT
    If you met a guy from the internet and discovered that he had lied in his profile- - would you forgive him? What things would you allow a guy to lie about or exaggerate in his profile that don;t matter that much? I'm asking this cause I know some guys online who think nothing of making a few "alterations" -- and yeah they got lucky too.
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:39 PM GMT
    Age, if he actually looks the age he said to be..
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    no, i forgive no lies. trust is like a soap bubble and once its gone there's no way to put it back together again. there's just no reason to lie. and if someone feels its ok, or feels compelled to, then what else will they lie about? i demand honesty from anyone i talk to, online or otherwise.
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    Ah please relax, your gonna get all wrinkly! if you don't forget even the most minimal lie youre gonna be lonely for a long time I asure you!
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    Very little ! You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

    I have nothing to be ashamed of so why lie about anything.
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    I don't forgive online lies. It's an easy way to choose between the keepers & the losers. There are enough good guys online that I don't need to waste my time with liars, nor trouble myself with rationalizing their deceitful motives.
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:50 PM GMT
    I can't really answer that, without an example. But, generally, and deception is a turn-off. Because, then you don't know where they draw the line; if they "lie" about one thing (age, body type), what's to keep them from lying about something else (HIV status, or relationship status)?

  • DanielQQ

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    Mar 25, 2009 11:51 PM GMT
    i'm with dmostwanted on this one. if i met someone online and he wasn't the same age as he said he was but i woulda never guessed, i wouldn't give a rats ass.

    i would care, however, if i asked him "how old are you?" and he still lied. Lying on your profile and lying to my face = two very different things.
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    chuckray saidIf you met a guy from the internet and discovered that he had lied in his profile- - would you forgive him? What things would you allow a guy to lie about or exaggerate in his profile that don;t matter that much? I'm asking this cause I know some guys online who think nothing of making a few "alterations" -- and yeah they got lucky too.


    his age within reason. I would allow a guy to take 5 years off his age, but only if he looks the part.

    but don't say you are 40 in yr profile when you are actually 50 and look 60icon_exclaim.gif
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    Mar 25, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    Deception is deception is deception whether someone tells a lie orally, via some form of electronic message or on a profile. If they can lie about something like age, who knows what else they could lie about?

    I would forgive nothing.

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    Mar 25, 2009 11:57 PM GMT
    czarodziej saidno, i forgive no lies. trust is like a soap bubble and once its gone there's no way to put it back together again. there's just no reason to lie. and if someone feels its ok, or feels compelled to, then what else will they lie about? i demand honesty from anyone i talk to, online or otherwise.


    I agree to an extent because if you cant be honest online, where you should have the most balls to be honest, than theres little trusting that person.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Mar 26, 2009 1:20 AM GMT
    I guess I 'lie' a bit about my weight and measurements in that I don't really update them regularly. So I'm 'actually' 215 lbs right now but my profile on here says 206 and I think my gay.com profile says 200 (lost 3% of my bf while gaining that weight too yea-yea!! lol).

    Generally though, if you feel you have to lie on a profile you probably won't have all that many qualms lieing to my face. Which is fine but...those I consider friends have enough respect to tell me the truth about a subject. I'm the same way, and I expect the same in return. *shrugs*
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    Mar 26, 2009 2:50 AM GMT
    They shouldn't lie in their profile, but if I had ended up going on a couple of dates and really liked the guy. I guess I can forgive a small white lie as long as it was for a reason and he had an explanation, but personally think it would be stupid to lie anywhere, even online.
  • Freddo

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    Mar 26, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
    animanimus saidi'm told i look good for 1000


    You don't look a day over 900.
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:21 AM GMT
    I expect it! I don't really expect to ever meet anyone from the net either, as I don't come to the net to do so either!

    People would find I'm not 102 years old!
    I'm much diffrent to how I portray myself here.
    They would get the person, most get out here, unless I'm in a gay bar and my personal space in very big in one of those.

    The pattison the world knows, may not be the pattison you know. yet we are one, and the same.

    So really I would be expecting it.
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:28 AM GMT
    Pattison saidI expect it! I don't really expect to ever meet anyone from the net either, as I don't come to the net to do so either!

    People would find I'm not 102 years old!
    I'm much diffrent to how I portray myself here.
    They would get the person, most get out here, unless I'm in a gay bar and my personal space in very big in one of those.

    The pattison the world knows, may not be the pattison you know. yet we are one, and the same.

    So really I would be expecting it.



    LOL... you dont look a day over 101, ur not fooling anyone. icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:30 AM GMT
    I wouldn't be terribly interested in someone who misrepresents himself. If I found out someone lied about something, even something minor, I'd probably keep on looking. I value honesty, even when it comes to the little things. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    I talked to someone on this website for nearly a year until I found out that they were lying about their age and their pictures. I felt sorry for him, and I forgave him and told him I would be here if he ever needed to talk. However, he never forgave me for finding out his true identity. Ironic, huh? icon_rolleyes.gif
  • silverfox

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    Mar 26, 2009 4:32 AM GMT
    I really don't understand the concept of forgiving someone for lying about their age. WTF?

    Why is this excusable? If a younger guy only wants to date a guy up to a certain age then so be it. Respect that!


    Is it OK for a 16 year old to say he is 19?




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    Mar 26, 2009 4:35 AM GMT
    It's never okay to lie about age, in my opinion.
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:43 AM GMT
    It depends on the lie. I have met many guys that don't lie about their age but they show a younger picture of themselves. When I meet them they are hotter and I question why they try to make themselves look younger through pictures.
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    The "ignore his posts option".
  • Webster666

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    Mar 26, 2009 5:23 AM GMT
    Age, within reason.
    An awful lot of guys will completely rule out anyone over a certain age (and sometimes the age limit is as young as 25 !).
    And, they're missing out on some damn hot guys.
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    Mar 26, 2009 8:38 AM GMT
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    Pattison saidI expect it! I don't really expect to ever meet anyone from the net either, as I don't come to the net to do so either!

    People would find I'm not 102 years old!
    I'm much diffrent to how I portray myself here.
    They would get the person, most get out here, unless I'm in a gay bar and my personal space in very big in one of those.

    The pattison the world knows, may not be the pattison you know. yet we are one, and the same.

    So really I would be expecting it.



    LOL... you dont look a day over 101, ur not fooling anyone. icon_lol.gif


    In fact I'm 168. But please don't tell anyone.
  • junknemesis

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    Mar 26, 2009 8:43 AM GMT
    czarodziej saidno, i forgive no lies. trust is like a soap bubble and once its gone there's no way to put it back together again. there's just no reason to lie. and if someone feels its ok, or feels compelled to, then what else will they lie about? i demand honesty from anyone i talk to, online or otherwise.


    I agree mostly with czarodziej. I am big on honesty, Especially on very important things. There is no need to lie, especially to people you don't really know.

    However there are people who have made such a habbit of hiding that it's nearly instinct! There is reason for this in many cases. A lot of gay men and women grow up having to live lies most of their lives, and trust may not come easilly to them, thus they may want to keep some information to themselves.

    But it is not difficult to know where the line of "nessesary vagueness" and "lies" is. If you feel the need to be Vague, ok, but lies do not help you.