Meeting other gay guys

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    Mar 25, 2009 9:57 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    So I am pretty fresh out of the closet here on campus (just in time for my last year too) and have sort of hit a stumbling block with where to meet gay guys. Unfortunately my school has a majority of girls in it, so the gay straight alliance has about 4 guys, me, one of my old roommates (who I don't get along with), my old roommates best friend (he is actually kinda cool), and another guy who it is really awkward with... (he is a stripper, and I approached him, and now he is the VP). So to sum this up, the straight alliance on campus is a bust for me to make new friends.

    I would love to go out, but I find that my guy friends don't like to be hit on, and the girls im friends with dont like not being hit on, which means of the group I am the only one who likes gay bars, leaving me no option to go out there.

    Like some, I always enjoy meeting people face to face, so I was wondering if you guys could give me any advice on where to go to meet people.

    Oh, and those gay oriented clubs in SF costs tons of money, something I just don't have, so that's a bust too.

    Any advice that you can give is appreciated guys, hope you have a great day!
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    Mar 25, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    Chainers said

    Oh, and those gay oriented clubs in SF costs tons of money, something I just don't have, so that's a bust too.


    They probably don't cost that much money. It's not like anyone is forcing you to buy drinks.

    You could try joining a gay sports team (most are very accepting of beginners, if you are a beginner). You could try other *ahem* "online personals sites."

    Even having just come out, you probably know more about the social opportunities in SF than I do. If you don't, there's this fantastic new site called google. icon_wink.gif

    But congrats on taking such a huge step! And remember that just because you're gay doesn't mean that all of your friends have to be gay too.
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    Mar 25, 2009 10:47 PM GMT
    OMG Sweety your cute and live in SF... Step out onto the street and there they are *nods*

    Do stuff, hobbies? we homos are everywhere and I mean EVERYWHERE, go find a group that does what your interested in...

    Go out to the club.. find just one girl to go with if you don't wanna go alone, but clubs are generally a meat market.. so.. hope you wanna get laid or get a little hanky panky.. OMG do we still use that word?

    you looking for mates, dates or lays? this all dictates where you go (of course there are always exceptions)

    join a book club, car club, go to cafe's filled with queers, hell, go anywhere.. your in SF when I was there hetro's where the odd ones out..
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    Mar 25, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    Cool, thanks for the advice guys.

    rezdylan, when I was talking about clubs, I ment activity clubs not dance clubs. Things like a gay themed swim team or tennis club etc. Unfortunately for me, I would have to pay to use the equipment/pool and I just cant afford it right now.

    I never really considered just going to a coffee house though, I guess I should hang around the castro more often.

    Thanks guys,.
  • EricLA

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    Mar 25, 2009 11:06 PM GMT
    You're in San Francisco, and you're asking us? Shouldn't you be able to stick your foot out and trip the nearest gay guy?

    If you're having trouble finding them in SF, then we're ALL in trouble!

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  • DCEric

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    Mar 26, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    Get involved in the community. That is the best way.

    Edit: In anything, gay, straight. If you meet him while you are both are DOING the same thing (sports, community service, arts, etc...), then you know you have something in common.