Selfish?

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    Mar 26, 2009 2:16 AM GMT
    Hey guys I just wanted to know if this is being selfish.

    My friend said I was being selfish, only thinking of myself, and that I wouldn't bend my plans.

    Here's the story.

    My father is on hospice care because of his stage 4 colon cancer. I have been freaking out ever since I knew but trying to focus on school. Spring Break for me starts this weekend.

    My friend has her spring break now (she goes to CU Boulder) and I'm up in M0ntana for school. I was ORIGINALLY going to fly out of my city on Thursday or Friday of this week but it is going to be PACKED with people flying out.

    OH my buddy works for the airlines and got me a buddy pass so it's a stand-by ticket.

    The friend she drove up here with is staying in town so she was going to be driving back alone. My friend who works for the airline said it would be better to drive to Denver with my friend and fly out of there.

    So I asked my friend and she said yes and we talked about driving to Denver on Thursday and I would fly out the following day since it's a full day drive. The next day she said that "I dunno if I wanna go home that early cuz it is my spring break and all" and I didn't talk to her for a few hours, then the following day she said how about we drive down Friday and you can fly out Saturday, I said fine as long as I can get home to see my father.

    That was on Monday now it's Wednesday and she sends me a text sayin

    "What are ur flight plans, can't you just fly out Sunday. if you leave saturday i really have to change all of my plans and fo four hours out of my way to pick up koko (her dog)"

    I said I'm sorry if that's an inconvenience for you but I want to get home to see my father who might not even be alive long enough for my to come home after finals week"

    I proceeded to yell at her and tell her how selfish she was being that she cares more about her dog than me (she calls me one of the best friends shes ever had that even if we fight she knows i'll always be there for her")

    She says how I'm being selfish and wont change any of my plans and that she wants to go home and see her mom and get her dog and that I am only caring about myself and that she can't believe how mean I am being and that i obviously don't care about my friends at all because i am treating her like $hit. that its two extra days less of break and an extra 4 hours of driving.

    I'm sorry but her parents are both healthy and live 4 hours away from her while mine are across the country and I haven't seen them in months and might never see my father again.

    Luckily my friend got me tickets out of Helena (state capital) on Friday so I can get home earlier.

    Is this really being selfish on my part that I would end her break 2 days early when she offered to take me to Denver?? Sorry I just needed to vent but also am I being selfish??
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    Mar 26, 2009 2:26 AM GMT
    Man you are not! Cause I am cancer and please be with your father as much as you can...
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:02 AM GMT
    There is no way you are being selfish!
  • joeindallas

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    Mar 26, 2009 5:19 AM GMT
    You are not Selfish your place is with your Family in this time of Crisis. If she can not understand that she is not Human. GOD forbid her dog (and I am a dog lover) was at the Vet's she would put the Dog before you
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    Mar 26, 2009 5:53 AM GMT
    LifeguardGuy saidHey guys I just wanted to know if this is being selfish.

    My friend said I was being selfish, only thinking of myself, and that I wouldn't bend my plans.

    Here's the story.

    My father is on hospice care because of his stage 4 colon cancer. I have been freaking out ever since I knew but trying to focus on school. Spring Break for me starts this weekend.

    My friend has her spring break now (she goes to CU Boulder) and I'm up in M0ntana for school. I was ORIGINALLY going to fly out of my city on Thursday or Friday of this week but it is going to be PACKED with people flying out.

    OH my buddy works for the airlines and got me a buddy pass so it's a stand-by ticket.

    The friend she drove up here with is staying in town so she was going to be driving back alone. My friend who works for the airline said it would be better to drive to Denver with my friend and fly out of there.

    So I asked my friend and she said yes and we talked about driving to Denver on Thursday and I would fly out the following day since it's a full day drive. The next day she said that "I dunno if I wanna go home that early cuz it is my spring break and all" and I didn't talk to her for a few hours, then the following day she said how about we drive down Friday and you can fly out Saturday, I said fine as long as I can get home to see my father.

    That was on Monday now it's Wednesday and she sends me a text sayin

    "What are ur flight plans, can't you just fly out Sunday. if you leave saturday i really have to change all of my plans and fo four hours out of my way to pick up koko (her dog)"

    I said I'm sorry if that's an inconvenience for you but I want to get home to see my father who might not even be alive long enough for my to come home after finals week"

    I proceeded to yell at her and tell her how selfish she was being that she cares more about her dog than me (she calls me one of the best friends shes ever had that even if we fight she knows i'll always be there for her")

    She says how I'm being selfish and wont change any of my plans and that she wants to go home and see her mom and get her dog and that I am only caring about myself and that she can't believe how mean I am being and that i obviously don't care about my friends at all because i am treating her like $hit. that its two extra days less of break and an extra 4 hours of driving.

    I'm sorry but her parents are both healthy and live 4 hours away from her while mine are across the country and I haven't seen them in months and might never see my father again.

    Luckily my friend got me tickets out of Helena (state capital) on Friday so I can get home earlier.

    Is this really being selfish on my part that I would end her break 2 days early when she offered to take me to Denver?? Sorry I just needed to vent but also am I being selfish??


    Stop with drama and the games. If you wanna' go home early, go home. Do what you need to do, stop the drama, and do what makes you happy. You HARDLY need approval on any of this stuff.
  • gsh1964

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    Mar 26, 2009 6:01 AM GMT
    You already know the answer to this question.

    If your on here trying to ease your guilt by asking us to make you feel better, it's not going to happen.

    You should go with what you know is right....

    Be an adult and step up to the plate and do what you know is right..... in your heart, you know what is right.

    Good luck
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    Mar 26, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
    I'm sorry to hear about your dad dude... I would not even consider for a second your actions selfish--it is your friend who is waaay in the wrong here. Hang out with your dad while you can, I'm sure he could use your support and you might have serious regrets if you miss the chance. Best of luck to both of you.