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    Mar 26, 2009 2:20 PM GMT
    sup guys... have a bit of a dilema and hoping you guys can provide some advice for this inexperienced lad...

    i'm pretty new to this whole thing so still exploring my curiosity... recently i met this dude at the gym... noticed him a few times then on one occassion i was training with a friend and he was training next to us, and he was on his last rep and was failing, so i quickly jumped over to spot him... anyway.. basically we train at the same times throughout the whole week, start and finish at exactly same times... so i see him easily 6 times a week, bump into him in the change room when i get there and leave same time too.. we always kinda look around for each other when we're there and give the hello nod thing... well i know i do, and i dunno if its coincidence that he looks at the same time too..??

    anyway i worked up enough courage over the past week to start talking to him, just general chat about training, blah blah...

    ummmm so how do i know this dude might be interested too?

    thanks in advance guys!
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    Mar 26, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    You could keep talking with him - casually - when you see him at the gym, or you could check out if he runs or swims laps - and set up a day to do that - and grab a salad or smoothie afterward together. You could ask if he has a day off sometime to go for a hike (if you have a park or mountain nearby). You could ask if he'd like to hang out sometime - maybe go cycling or hit some tennis or racquetballs. If you get to know him much better - you'll get around to the subject of "Do you have a girlfriend?" The answer to that question will be telling. Good luck!
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    Mar 26, 2009 3:11 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidYou could keep talking with him - casually - when you see him at the gym, or you could check out if he runs or swims laps - and set up a day to do that - and grab a salad or smoothie afterward together. You could ask if he has a day off sometime to go for a hike (if you have a park or mountain nearby). You could ask if he'd like to hang out sometime - maybe go cycling or hit some tennis or racquetballs. If you get to know him much better - you'll get around to the subject of "Do you have a girlfriend?" The answer to that question will be telling. Good luck!


    I agree, get to a point where you're spending time with him more one-on-one and bring it up in small talk or something. The conversation will give you clues as well before you may even need to ask.
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    Mar 26, 2009 4:05 PM GMT
    Well the slut in me would say to meet him in the locker room and give him the slight suggestive head jerk toward the showers with a little grin, dropping your towel to show your ass ....if he's interested he'll follow you. icon_twisted.gif
    But in all honesty, I'm sure as much fun as that would be you probably would like to find out if he's gay a little more subtle like, hum? In that case, I must agree with Jock and Look. Try opening a dialog before trying to open his pants he-he. Get to know him, I have generally found it to be true that if you are continuously catching eyes with someone, chances are they are curious too. So it's worth it to try and meet the guy. Don't expect anything and you wont feel let down or sheepish. Have fun man you're and let us know how it works out. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    Hi guys thx for the responses.

    I hear wot you guys are saying but I wish I there were some easy signs to look for. Being new to all of this I've finally found someone i'm attracted to or well raises my curiosity. He seems like at extreme gym buff like me hence we'll see each other 6 days a week and yeh would be cool to be friends. Gotta admit not usuallyvery brave meeting new people so the fact that I started talking to him deserves some points.

    Wouldn't it b easy if he was on this site and saw this message hehe or if I knew or had a gay dar icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:26 AM GMT
    ugh, signs would be nice, unfortunately its all very subjective if the guy isn't being blatantly obvious.. my approach is just to walk up and start chatting.. so I'd agree with JockBod go with that path.. at the very least you may end up making a new mate..
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:29 AM GMT
    Look into his eyes when he's looking at you. Look down at his crotch, then back up at his eyes. Then wink. If he's just a conversational str8 guy, he won't be so friendly again. If he complains, say your contact slipped. If he's really interested, things should get interesting after that and you can come back and tell us what happened !
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:40 AM GMT
    Here's a sure fire method. Ask him out. No need for innuendo, or speculation, nor acting like a sex-crazed fairy. That's all needless, stupid, drama. Apply the KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) method.
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:44 AM GMT
    It's in his eyes. If he is interested in you as a guy, he will look at you....purposefully look into your eyes. And when you look back, you will see it in his eyes.
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:48 AM GMT


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    Mar 27, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    jesus christ, dont ask him out, you dont even know if he likes cock yet!

    it sounds like things are progressing well the way theyre going now. slowly but surely. just keep chatting and building up a relationship and then BAM, rohypnol his ass
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    Mar 27, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    Tennis_Tom saidjesus christ, dont ask him out, you dont even know if he likes cock yet!

    it sounds like things are progressing well the way theyre going now. slowly but surely. just keep chatting and building up a relationship and then BAM, rohypnol his ass


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    Mar 27, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    Just ask him if he'd like to get coffee or a smoothie after the gym. That's something people do all the time without any agenda attached. But once you're tallking one-on-one in a different venue it should be easy to determine whether there'a a vibe. If there isn't, at least you've made a friend.
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    So am I looking into it too much thinking that when I look at him I see him looking back. Maybe it's just pure coincidence. I just can't work up enough courage to ask him to hang out. Anyway the saga continues tomorrow I should b seeing him again.
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    Mar 28, 2009 2:41 PM GMT
    hey fellas, thought i'd give you guys an update... as expected i saw my friend again today at the gym...didn't notice him come in but noticed him when he was doing his favourite squats... anyway i walked past behind him and said hello as i went to go get a drink, then when i came back thought i'd just friendly ask him what he was working on today, asked him how many times a week he trains... also told him that if he needed a spot to speak up ;) anyway i went off and did my thing then as i finished up i walked up to him and said i'm off and asked him his name... anyway cutting a long story short i guess i made a little bit of progress today... and i started to look at him more from the other side of the gym... only to notice he was looking back... a lot of the time... where to from here? just keep talking??? this is so hard, i've never done this before, well befriend anyone at the gym that is...
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    Apr 24, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    2nd step, ask him "Hey, what's your last name? I want to add you on facebook, u don't mind, do you?"

    3rd step, add him.

    4th step, "Nah, man, I don't use facebook.". You say, "LAME! alright, what's your number then so we can go grab a beer? I mean if you are interested of course" Keep it nonchalant.

    5h step , if you have his number, BINGO! text him on the weekend, "Hey man, I'm in the neighborhood, or I'm at this so-and-so bar, my friend ditched me, sad, I know, come over. icon_smile.gif" Remember the smiley face.

    It's non-threatening and sounds fun. icon_wink.gif