Gay Bar, what's it to you?

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    Oct 23, 2007 10:11 AM GMT
    Being in the Middle East, I haven't been to a "real" gay bar so I wonder what It's really like. Seem's like the definition of a gay bar differs from country to country. At some places, if it's a gaybar there must be male strippers. For some, it's a disco place, and others it's just a place for booze and meet other gay guys.

    The closest thing to a gay bar here is Starbucks icon_biggrin.gif , just a place to meet, have a coffee chat a bit and move on...

    For you guys, whats the "ideal' gay bar and which one is the best?
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    Oct 23, 2007 11:48 AM GMT
    People make the bar. A good crowd and I could care less about decor or any strippers.

    I like real bartenders too, my idea of a drink is not licking it off someones chest.

    Also a good drink selection. I hate some of the local city bars that don't offer kettle one. Those damn new england rednecks icon_mad.gif
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    Oct 23, 2007 12:26 PM GMT
    For me: The music!
    If the DJ can keep me on the floor while I'm there then that's my kind bar. The cocktails do not matter because I do not drink when I go out. I just go out to dance and hang out with my friends. Each Gay Bar offers different things from one extreme to the other!icon_biggrin.gif
  • DiverScience

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    Oct 23, 2007 1:07 PM GMT
    I like places where I can hear myself think.

    I'd really prefer a gay coffee shop or gay Borders or something most of the time.

    I like dancing and like music, but since I get rapidly bored of the monotonous "thumpa thumpa" (yeah, I like melodic line and lyrics) so dance clubs rarely do it for me.
  • iHavok

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    Oct 23, 2007 2:06 PM GMT
    My favorite gay bar is The Garden in Des Moines Iowa. It's a large club, with a lot of different areas all separate, so people who enjoy different things can find an area to be comfortable. There's a sunken dance floor surrounded by balconys for watchers. There's cages and a stage. There's a sports bar area with pool tables, darts and lots of big screen TVs, and there is an area with sofas and aquariums and just a quiet calm. There's a patio out back to cool off...all in all, a little something for everyone.
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    Oct 23, 2007 2:13 PM GMT
    I enjoy clubbing and bar hopping for the dancing etc, but it's not such a great place to meet people. I would *love* a gay Indie club playing really decent music. Why don't they have those?

    Clubs in Cleveland are almost comically trashy. But they're still fun.
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    Oct 23, 2007 2:43 PM GMT
    because all gay men like kylie don't they tiger?
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    Oct 23, 2007 3:29 PM GMT
    I'm with Tiger and Diver; I much prefer a gay club that's an alternative to the dark, loud, disco lighted clubs. I enjoy those every now and again, especially because the gay bar here in Boise has the best music in town to dance to, but I only ever want to go there when I want to dance. Most of the time I'd much rather just sit down in a bar/club that's more laid back and relaxed, grab a cup of coffee, listen to decent music that's not hammering my eardrums out, and meet some guys.

    There are a couple places I've been to that are like that. One in Boise is a really awesome coffee shop and they have gay night every Wednesday. Unfortunately, as I've moved into my early twenties I've started to realize that it's mostly an even younger gay crowd than me that goes there for that now. The other was in Indy at a little restaurant/bar that was frequented mostly by the gays. It was a great place to go with friends because it wasn't as loud as the clubs.
  • Alan95823

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    Oct 23, 2007 3:42 PM GMT
    We have a gay bookstore/coffeeshop here in town, but there's not a lot of seating and most of the folks sitting down are reading. So it's got more of a library atmosphere, really.

    All of the gay bars I've been to have been so loud you couldn't hear what the other guy was saying, and/or so dark you couldn't see who you were talking to. It's pretty frustrating.
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    Oct 23, 2007 3:47 PM GMT
    I think there's a difference between a gay bar and a gay nightclub.

    For me, an ideal bar depends upon what you're looking for. You have those trendy bars with white walls and filled with modern decor. Then you have the leather bars that are nice and dark, that serve strong drinks, lots of beer and peanuts and have TV monitors showing the best of Colt videos. In general, a good bar is one that pours good drinks, has good service, and is a place where you can have conversations without talking over really loud music.

    A good nightclub is all about the DJ, the drinks, a good sized dance floor and cool lighting.

    I was in Portland this past weekend. I went to a bar called Silverado's (i think). It was crazy. They had strippers dancing on various stages, the music was pretty good and the crowd was so massive, you couldn't hear yourself think.

    It's really about what you're in the mood for.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 23, 2007 5:00 PM GMT
    In Kansas, there tends to be a limited number of bar options. I'm with some of those who responded earlier,
    drawing a distinction between a "nightclub" and a bar.
    In Wichita, we have both.. the dancing and loud music of a place like "Fantasy" which is a dance club and country western under one roof and then there is "J"'s,
    which is basically a little neighborhood bar that is well known. Many like J's, because its quiet and pretty decent, but I've had others say it certainly isn't a place to go in and receive warm greetings (as a newcomer).. pretty clickish.

    I'm not much of a bar person (at all). For me is a "once very 6 months" kind of thing with friends. I'd never go to a bar or club to meet new people, unless I was with a group and we were meeting another group. For me it isn't the right environment.icon_cool.gif
  • BlackJock79

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    Oct 23, 2007 8:14 PM GMT
    My ideal gay bar is one with a few single men in it. icon_biggrin.gif LOL, I'm not too picky as I've only been to 3 or 4 gay bars before and it was when I was in NYC earlier this year and I LOVED all of them. I just thought it was so hot to be out of the closet (at least while I was in NYC) and be able to flirt openly with guys. I went to a couple lesbian bars with a friend of mine when I was in the military and before I "knew" I was gay. But there weren't any hot guys so I don't count them.
  • Salubrious

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    Oct 23, 2007 8:27 PM GMT
    Clubs in Cleveland are almost comically trashy. But they're still fun.

    What do you mean, almost icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 24, 2007 5:03 AM GMT
    A gay bar to me is a place were you can be with your closest friends or new buddies. It's the place to socialize! Or get your groove on with the cute stranger checking you out. I'm with phoenix43 the music is the thing that draws you in.It's the music that changes your mood. It can make you feel firece!

    I love this topic because all the lame shit talkers have nothing to say about bars because they don't go out.icon_lol.gif
  • Salubrious

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    Oct 24, 2007 6:23 AM GMT
    Dreamdrop: I'm glad that they work for you. However, you aren't everyone. I, for one, have sensitive ears (I just think everyone else is deaf) and it kinda sucks to have to wear ear plugs to go out. I'm sure it depends on where you are. From my standpoint, Cleveland has two bars/clubs that I know of that are 18+. And they both play the thumpa thumpa music that just gives me a headache. Not my idea of fun.
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    Oct 24, 2007 1:46 PM GMT
    The best thing about gay bars is that the reflect the culture of where you are.

    country, state, city - none are bad...explore and look for the charm.

    give me a bar with a funky base line, cheap beer, and people who smile, and really, that's all you need.
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    Oct 24, 2007 1:58 PM GMT
    I don't live in a state with laws against smoking in bars, so for me, the bar experience is defined by a foul stench that I can still smell, even after a shower. A few weeks ago, I went out to a bar for a friend's moving away party, and I could smell the stale cigarette smoke for two days.
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    Oct 24, 2007 2:06 PM GMT
    SalubriousWhat do you mean, almost


    As in I would be laughing, but sadly they're too trashy to be funny :-)
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    Oct 24, 2007 2:09 PM GMT
    I can count on 1 hand the number of times I've been to a gay bar. Seems to me they're places to get loaded and only have to walk as far as the bathroom to get laid.
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    Oct 24, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    Gay bars vary depending on the scene and the city. Here in QC there is only one majour gay bar. Le Drague. It is a good bar, lights, dancing, good (but expensive) drinks. There is a sex club on the top floor, and two dancing floors. There are drag cabaret nights and other themes like Karaoke, Ladies Night, and so on. But Quebec City is small, Montreal has anything and everything. From mulitiple floors for dancing, to small cabarets, and restaurants and book stores. It all changes based on location, local taste, and demand.
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    Oct 24, 2007 2:40 PM GMT
    Oh and the ideal for me is the thumpa thumpa. I love dancing and good drinks, flashing lights etc. I am a real dancing Queen. atleast I own it though.
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    Oct 28, 2007 2:49 AM GMT
    In NYC we are SO spoiled. They're big, small, loud, quiet and anything else a gay bar can be. I guess I think a gay bar should be fun -- music, dancing, cocktails/wine, hot guys in sexy clothes! The one thing that is lacking here is a more developed scene for gay couples. (The bars a very single-oriented.) A few places are couple-friendly, but they tend to attract a more mixed crowd -- which is fine, of course!icon_biggrin.gif
    My BF gets a lot of attention and I find myself watching other guys watching him. icon_evil.gif
    otherwise -- I love the bars in nyc! If you haven't been, you have ought to come check it out.
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