Just found out one of my best friends is positive.

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    Mar 27, 2009 10:38 AM GMT
    I am so sick of this disease. I know some people that have it and have died from it. One of my best friends of 15 years I just found out has it now.

    He realizes its not the death sentence it used to be, but its still heart breaking. I told him I will help him in anyway I can and that I love him. I cant imagine what his parents are going through.

    Just needed to vent.
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    Mar 27, 2009 10:42 AM GMT

    You're a friend for keeps. I noticed that about you in my last 16 months here on RJ. God bless your heart.
  • brianstephens

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    Mar 27, 2009 1:40 PM GMT
    That's so so good that he has you though.

    I know a girl who got it and basically lost all her friends because they were afraid of "catching it" from being near her.

    As if having the disease in itself wasn't bad enough.

    And yeah, I was just going to say that they've come so far with medicine, that theres a lot more hope than there was.

    I'm sure you never will, but just don't ever leave him.
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    Mar 27, 2009 1:45 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your amigo. Good to know he has someone like you to support him through this, definitely an important asset.

    I hope for the best, Karma is definitely on your side.

    Cheers.
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:01 PM GMT
    After I found out I was positive I learned over time just who my real friends are. It's great you will be there for him. The best thing is to be there especially if all he wants is to talk.

    I actually went a little crazy with no support and it took me a long time to realize that I really wasn't okay. The experience of losing friends made me gun shy on making friends which I don't have many right now but I'm fine with that for now.
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:06 PM GMT
    I have been very blessed that I have not lost any friends. Only people that I knew in on a social level and I would not call them friends. I'm sorry to hear about your friend like the others said just be there for him.
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:09 PM GMT
    growingbig saidAfter I found out I was positive I learned over time just who my real friends are. It's great you will be there for him. The best thing is to be there especially if all he wants is to talk.

    I actually went a little crazy with no support and it took me a long time to realize that I really wasn't okay. The experience of losing friends made me gun shy on making friends which I don't have many right now but I'm fine with that for now.


    You just made another friend (and I'm betting - a whole bunch more on RJ) for posting this great message. You're obviously a good guy for anyone to know!
    Keep doing whatever you're doing - and best of health!

    Gregg
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    Mar 27, 2009 2:36 PM GMT
    I am HIv + like your friend and although I dont tell everyone I interact with on a daily basis. I tell close friends and anyone who it may have an affect on, companions, roommates ,etc. Those people have always loved and accepted me and it makes living with it easier. Thanks for being a good person to your friend. A huge amount of rejection can literally destroy a person and their self-esteem. GOOD JOB!!!!!
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    Mar 27, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    aww sorry about you friend icon_sad.gif and you're a total sweet heart for being there for him , god bless and be strong
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    Mar 27, 2009 6:44 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear redbull. Your friend is lucky to have you.

    I have two very good friends who are HIV positive, so I know how you feel. I have to say, they have done more to enhance my life than I could for them. It's because of them, that I recognize how important it is to live life fully and not to sweat the small stuff. They are both amazing human beings that I am honored to call friends.

    If you ever want to chat about it, feel free to shoot me an email.

    Good luck.

    EDIT:

    FYI samerphx, I kiss my friends all the time and I am not HIV positive.
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    Mar 27, 2009 6:45 PM GMT
    I am sorry to hear that man icon_sad.gif

    But that's where you come in. Just be the best friend you can be to him (which I am sure you are already doing) You seem like a great guy and he is really lucky to have you icon_biggrin.gif
  • Matia79

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    Mar 27, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's a horrible reality of life nowadays but, like you said, it's not a death sentence any longer and absolutely nothing has changed in the way of your friendship . . . still, understandably, the news is very upsetting. You're clearly a quality friend with a great heart.


    samerphx said... You are making me nervous! lol Now I can't kiss a guy or make out with a guy...



    Samer, I honestly hope you're joking. Statistics have proven that HIV transfer through kissing or making out is next to impossible unless you have an open cut or a cold sore (in which case you shouldn't be kissing anyone for THEIR protection regardless). If you had no idea of that you should really read up a little. It's that kind of misinformation or (for lack of a better word) ignorance that adds to the hysteria and fear about this syndrome.
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    Mar 27, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    Agreed. I'm just saying that you need not be alarmed. While I agree that you should not be tonguing every guy you meet *(pauses for hot mental picture*..sigh), it is not likely you will become infected that way.

    Deep or open-mouthed kissing is a very low risk activity in terms of HIV transmission. HIV is only present in saliva in very minute amounts, insufficient to cause infection with HIV.

    Obviously, you need to be careful if someone appears to be bleeding through their mouth.

    samerphx said
    creyente said

    EDIT:

    FYI samerphx, I kiss my friends all the time and I am not HIV positive.

    You know your friend very well. But when you meet a stranger and start kissing is different.
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    Mar 27, 2009 7:04 PM GMT
    *bug hugz comin' your way* Love ya redbull!
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    Mar 27, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    I was so very sick of this disease by the end of the 80s. I lost many friends to it! But that me.

    Peace be with your friend, and in your heart.
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    Mar 27, 2009 11:41 PM GMT
    Thanks so much to all you guys for your kind words and words of encouragement. You are all great and wonderful and I appreciate you taking the time to write all those beautiful things....thank you!!!

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    Mar 28, 2009 12:19 AM GMT
    So sorry to hear about your friend. But you being there for him is the best thing you can do for him. You are a good friend to have.