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    Mar 28, 2009 10:44 AM GMT
    Has anyone else discovered the power the brain has over your dick?and is there any way to combat it?

    Several times recently, my partner has made such comments as "don't dissappoint me"..."are you man enough to take care of me?"...."are you about done?"....(I can usually maintain an erection and keep going for quite a while before orgasm)

    Well, guess what? such conversation makes me anxious to perform well, and things "go south". We are both dissappointed and frustrated. He may think that such comment creates a challenge for me....

    I have told him that he cannot cast doubt in my head..it affects how I function. Told im, if he has those thoughts, keep them to himself..such comments do not help me one little bit.


    After a failed attempt, and with an hour or so between, we get together and i can perform, but for that particular period of "performance anxiety", i am basically impotent

    If this has happened to you, how do you handle it? I need to add, we have been together for nearly two years, and we care for each other. And mostly, the sex we have is so hot and intense, it leaves us both panting for breath. It's just those times when he fucks with my brain...
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    Mar 28, 2009 2:59 PM GMT
    Shove a sock in his yap before you get started.
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    Mar 28, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    Why don't you try some viagra or cialis or something?
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    Mar 28, 2009 6:43 PM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidWhy don't you try some viagra or cialis or something?


    Miracle drugs... LMAO...:-)
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    Mar 28, 2009 6:47 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    ActiveAndFit saidWhy don't you try some viagra or cialis or something?


    Miracle drugs... LMAO...:-)



    huh? isn't your attraction to him the miracle drug itself?!? talking about living by chemistry! oh where will it endicon_twisted.gificon_question.gificon_exclaim.gificon_biggrin.gif

    put a sock in his mouth!
  • dannyboy1101

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    Mar 28, 2009 8:48 PM GMT
    If someone asked me "are you about done?," I would reply yes and walk out of the bedroom to finish my business is solitude. I think the memory of blue balls would make him shut the fuck up from then on.
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    Mar 28, 2009 8:53 PM GMT
    SockMonkey saidIt sounds like you both have a "goal-oriented" approach to sex, which means that if it lives up to certain expectations (for instance, you both have an orgasm), it's a success, but if it doesn't, it's a failure. Could you shift your expectations for sex away from achieving any particular goal, so that it's always a success, even if no one gets off? This might mean focusing more on the experience and sensations of that moment, rather than where you are planning to go next.

    I think I read that in Redbook a while back, anyway.


    Sounds like David Schnarch.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 28, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    fitnhot saidHas anyone else discovered the power the brain has over your dick?and is there any way to combat it?

    Several times recently, my partner has made such comments as "don't dissappoint me"..."are you man enough to take care of me?"...."are you about done?"....(I can usually maintain an erection and keep going for quite a while before orgasm)

    Well, guess what? such conversation makes me anxious to perform well, and things "go south". We are both dissappointed and frustrated. He may think that such comment creates a challenge for me....

    I have told him that he cannot cast doubt in my head..it affects how I function. Told im, if he has those thoughts, keep them to himself..such comments do not help me one little bit.


    After a failed attempt, and with an hour or so between, we get together and i can perform, but for that particular period of "performance anxiety", i am basically impotent

    If this has happened to you, how do you handle it? I need to add, we have been together for nearly two years, and we care for each other. And mostly, the sex we have is so hot and intense, it leaves us both panting for breath. It's just those times when he fucks with my brain...


    Why would he say those things to you? Is he trying to sabotage sex?
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    Mar 28, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    Do this: First, cock slap him across the face.
    Then say: STFU, bitch!

    He's running you down, and you're allowing it. Correct the situation.

  • Sayrnas

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    Mar 28, 2009 11:36 PM GMT
    beeker saidDo this: First, cock slap him across the face.
    Then say: STFU, bitch!

    He's running you down, and you're allowing it. Correct the situation.



    *Claps* I'm diggin' this approach. I think you need to have a talk with your Mr.Man (that's your lover btw)
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    Mar 28, 2009 11:41 PM GMT
    I second that approach. Your dick isn't the problem here, but your dick of a boyfriend is. Tell him to shut up.
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    Mar 29, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    This is why I don't like dirty talk while having sex. I don't have much a problem maintaining an erection but I can not cum to save my life. All that 'I wanna see you shoot. Shoot for me'. Maybe if he'd shut up I would.

    Maybe he means well maybe he doesn't though those comments he makes tells me he doesn't mean well. You need to find some way to gain control over the situation right then and there. If he starts making those comments while your fucking him pull out, slap his face with it, and shove it in his mouth. Then you can even say to him, "Don't disappoint me" or "Are you man enough to take me now?". Then skull fuck him. Be aggressive but not forceful and if he usually cums before you do don't let him. I am assuming you are the top so take control.