Both sound good on paper, both can lead to hating yourself come morning. Promiscuity is deadly today, dispute that if you wish. I never heard of monogomy killing any one.
This question is a trap, but not really. If I say being a dirty slut is a choice, someone could say being gay is a choice and vice versa. I'll stay on safe middle ground, not because I am a coward, but because I think the answer is infact, multi tiered.
When I think of a slu....errrr, a promiscuous person, I think of a number of possible reasons for that behavior too: values, mental stability, hormones/chemicals, and desire.
I consider first, a lack of values formed during the person's upbringing. I think in matters of homosexuality, we forget about traditional/normal values that all little boys get in the presence of certain parental conventions. I know I'm in the land of gay and normalcy is over rated here (normalcy is over rated any where), but one cannot dispute theory/fact that certain parental conventions are better at producing a desired result than others.
In the case of children: defined boundaries, clear and concise communication of the discipline and rewards for adherence to or deviation of those boundaries, and judicious implication of the prescribed discipline or rewards produces a more stable and responsible child, a child that has a pretty firm grasp on reality and his/her ability to choose actions and accept/expect the consequences of those actions. This way of being sounds more indicative of a monogomous person to me than a promiscuous person.
Monogomous people choose a course of action that usually has a higher output of positive gains: love, companionship, security, growth, maturity, and a reduction of possible STI infection. A promiscuous life is way more superficial and targeted towards satiation of a person's temporary whims with no attention to long term satisfaction or personal welfare. Promiscuity is a chaotic lifestyle that hinges on what circumstances delve out for the individual. For example, a low rate of STI for some promiscuous people doesn't implicate much except, maybe luck.musical intermission................................................
After I consider the person's upbringing and mental stability, I ofcourse consider hormonal factors, but as I am not a doctor, I have to stick to the basics. I know that some people are more uninhibited than others and I think partly hormones are the cause of that. however, I think if anything is easier to control, it is the body's hormone levels. In the event that promescuity became a problem for a person, I think they'd be remiss for not contacting a doctor immediatly to learn if hormones have anything to do with it or can be controlled.
Bottomline, if an individual wants something they will behave in according action to that desire.
At the bear base, I am saying promiscuity and monogomous are both CHOICES not anything out of a person's control. I have stated that I think upbringing leads to a greater mental stability which leads to a higher incidence of monogomy, but many people, myself included, have overcome bad parental convetions. It's harder, but it comes down to the choice of educating onesself as an adult and adhering to the boundaries that education uncovers. In the cae of sex, the educational materials and oppurtunity are plentiful and the boundaries are pretty straight forward and easy to understand. As far as mental weaknesses like lack of control or immaturity, mental weaknesses are similiar to body improvement: with constant attention, they can too be shaped and strengthened. With all of the doctors today specializing in a plethora of studies, I shouldn't think hormonal levels should be that hard to control or determine if the levels cause a problem controlling one's sexual urges.
It should be clear which lifestyle I favor, but I did try to appraoch the oppossing one fairly. If I failed, flame me accordingly. In conclusion, I think common sense can easily determine which lifestyle is best.